United Kingdom writer Chesterfield said: "A father is better than a hundred teachers", also emphasizing that fathers are an indispensable part of family education. In families where fathers are actively involved in parenting, children tend to grow up better and better.
In fact, becoming a qualified father is what every man desires, but sometimes he really doesn't know how to do it, either he is disgusted with "old-fashioned", or he is complained that he "can't bring a baby".
So what does it take to be a good father?
The People's Daily gave these 10 suggestions, which are worth reading again and again for every dad.
1. Be a playful father
A study at Harvard University found that children who were accompanied by their fathers as children tend to achieve higher levels of achievement as adults. To accompany here is to play with children.
A father who can play and often play with his children will make his children more sunny, confident, optimistic, brave to challenge, and willing to create!
Although the famous Facebook founder is busy, Zuckerberg will personally play with his daughter. He insisted on bathing his children three times a week, taking them to swimming, sending them to kindergarten, and so on.
Therefore, the first step to being a good father is to be a playmate of children's childhood, take children to feel life and create beauty.
2. Be a learning father
In the documentary "Mirror", it is said that every child is born a blank piece of paper, and parents are the ones who paint, and the key to what the blank paper becomes is the parents. Parents' words and deeds are especially important for children.
Children are a mirror of parents, what kind of person do you want your children to become, first of all, you have to become such a person, sometimes you scold your children for looking at their mobile phones, not studying well, and whether they are playing with their mobile phones when they are fine?
When you complain that your child is addicted to games, do you have the habit of reading books every day?
Therefore, only by constantly learning, improving themselves, and actively participating in the growth of their children can fathers become the guides and navigators of their children's lives and shape a better future for them.
3. Be a stoic father
Every word and deed and every action of the father is rooted in the child's heart. In the child's impression, the father is always tall and mighty, and at any time, he can give the child a full sense of security.
The role of a father usually has some characteristics such as bravery, strength, fortitude, independence, self-confidence, sense of responsibility, and decisiveness, so fathers should show their stoic, brave, and confident side when getting along with their children.
This will invisibly affect the child's personality, and strive to become the "superhuman father" in the child's heart and be their best role model.
4. Be a squatting father
In modern society, what is more advocated is a friend-type father-son relationship.
In a friend-based parent-child relationship, the father respects the child's thoughts and feelings and gives them enough autonomy and decision-making power. This helps to boost your child's self-confidence and self-esteem, making them feel recognized and valued.
In this relationship, no one is the authority, everyone is equal, when the child speaks, squat down or sit down, look the child in the eye, listen carefully, respect the child.
5. Be an empathetic father
In traditional family education, we often scold rebellious children without waiting for them to finish speaking, and often blame children with a high-minded attitude.
A posture that is completely for the good of the child, without giving the child any chance to defend, this way will make the child more and more silent.
As a father, you must communicate patiently, think about problems from the perspective of your children, solve problems, and give suggestions to your children with an equal attitude, rather than forcing your children, suppressing them, and thinking that their children are all wrong, only in this way can you make your children willing to open their hearts and communicate with their fathers.
6. Be a humble father
Many fathers always try to use their so-called experience to control their children.
The child wants to play the game of Ultraman fighting monsters, and Dad comes to say what's so fun about it.
The child was painting seriously, and when he saw that the painting was messy, the father quickly told the child that this was not right, and that it was right to draw like this.
If the child wants to hold a cup of water to drink, Dad will stop it directly, you are still young, you will not.
As a father, don't always feel that your child's game is childish and your child is doing dangerous things, you can stand next to you, play a supporting role, and let your child try boldly under the premise of ensuring your child's safety.
The best fathers know how to educate their children with a humble heart.
7. Be a reasonable father
The father played by Huang Lei in the TV series "Little Huanxi" is worth learning from many fathers.
Fang Yuan is a father who is particularly emotionally stable, and he has a style of understanding, support and maintenance for his son Fang Yifan, and is like a considerate "good father" image, so although Fang Yifan he educated is naughty, he is emotionally stable, cheerful, and has a very positive outlook.
However, in real life, most fathers can't convince people with reason, can't reason with their children, usually don't know how to reason with their children, and even feel that reasoning is useless.
It is useless to reason, it may not be right, it should be said in a language that the child can understand, a fun language, and the reason should be matched with the child's cognitive level and life experience.
In addition, parents themselves should also practice, perhaps the best way is not to speak, but to practice.
8. Be a father who is "not absent".
The father who is not absent gives the child the initial sense of security in life, and will accompany and protect the child for a lifetime.
A 12-year study by Yale University in United States found that the more involved fathers are in their children's growth, the higher their children's IQ, better grades, and more successful in society.
The role of the father in the child's development is irreplaceable, so that the child can see the father's tenacity, courage and responsibility, which is the first example in his life, which will affect the child's life.
The meaning of a father is far more than making money to support the family.
For children, this role is a father, an idol, a role model, and a spiritual mentor and life mentor.
Having a father who is not absent is the greatest luck in a child's life.
9. Seven things dad can do with his children
The famous United Kingdom scholar Hubbert once said, "A good father is better than a hundred principals."
There are many things that fathers can do with their children in life, such as the following:
1. Play with children, building blocks, remote control cars, handicrafts, chess, and develop intelligence in the game.
2. Reading books with children, bedtime stories are not just a mother's business.
3. Take your child to play sports together and help him/her develop a passion for sports from an early age.
4. Take your children out for activities, visit zoos, watch movies, visit museums, and broaden your horizons.
5. Often take children to visit grandparents, grandparents.
6. Sit down and talk to your child.
7. On Mom's birthday, prepare gifts with your child and teach your child to express love.
10. Seven words that a dad must never say to his child
There is a quote in "The Language of Parents": "Language is a powerful medium. ”
We communicate with children through language, and achieve educational purposes through communication, but if the medium of language is not used well, it is easy for children to not understand the good intentions behind their parents' language.
The following words are not recommended for dads to say to their children.
1. "How can such a big child be so ignorant." ”
2. "Don't ask so much, just do what I say!" ”
3. "Dad is busy, and I'm going to your mom for something." ”
4. "If you don't study hard, believe it or not, I'll pump you!" ”
5. "I don't care about you anymore, whatever you want." ”
6. "If you score 100, I'll buy it for you...."
7. "Stupid, useless thing!
A father is a unique being, and he has a special power for nurturing children, which cannot be replaced by anyone or any role in the child's growth.
No father is born to be a "father", all of them are in continuous reflection and learning to make progress, self-growth, I hope that all fathers in the world can become the guide of children's growth.