Do you still remember the noble son Fujima Sai in the kabuki world who was on fire before, the cold eyebrows and eyes, and the youthful spirit that came to his face made him can't help but be moved.
Born in a family of kabukis, he followed his grandfather to perform on stage when he was 2 years old, and he was not stage frightened in front of the camera. In 2018, 13-year-old Fujima Sai and his grandparents became famous at the same time, which is the highest honor as a kabuki.
His aunt is also a famous actress Takako Matsu.
At that time, Fujima Zhai made a stunning appearance, and also received the call of a group of Japan fans: "I want to marry!" ”
Why do Japan girls want to marry kabuki actors, excellent appearance is one thing, and on the other hand, their social status is high.
Kabuki has a long history in Japan and is an intangible cultural heritage, and is known as the "quintessence of Japan", so it has a high social status. The Kabuki world is also known as the "pear orchard".
Kabuki names are "hereditary", with a strong emphasis on bloodline, and are passed down from male to female. Therefore, they are extremely traditional, and the family style is more important to male power than the general "male head outside the female inside" family in Japan.
In a word, "noble and rich".
An excellent kabuki actor not only has a high social status, but also may be hailed as a "national treasure", and is a "famous family" in the Japan kabuki world.
Therefore, marrying into the kabuki world can achieve a leap of identity and class.
Most of the performers in kabuki were from families, and all the actors were men.
Women who marry into a Kabuki family are called Rishien Tsumi, and the life of Rishino Tsumia is physically tired + mentally tired.
Take Hiroko Mita, whose husband was deeply involved in cheating a few years ago, she herself was a popular star at that time, with good looks and acting skills, and a bright future.
But after marrying into the Nakamura family at the age of 25, he retired bravely, because Liyuan's wife is synonymous with "virtuous help" and does not need to "show up".
Hiroko Mita shared her daily life after becoming Liyuan's wife on the show in 2017, Mita laughed and said that when she got married, she was like joining a company called "Nakoma House", and then like a fledgling office worker, she had a lot to learn, and if she didn't do it well, she would inevitably be blamed.
And after marrying into the pear orchard, the first meaning is to "give birth to a son".
If you can't give birth to an heir, you will definitely be swept away.
In addition, it is necessary to systematically learn some more elegant skills such as: tea ceremony, flower arrangement, health preservation, etiquette, kimono wearing, storage and maintenance, etc.
He was even taught: "It is the wife's job to assist in the backstage work, and if there is negligence in the audience, no matter how wonderful the husband's performance on stage is, it will also discredit the husband's face and the signboard of Narikomaya." ”
After that, she worked diligently every day, doing a good job of supporting her husband and son's performances, and when she was busy, she could only sleep from 3 to 7 o'clock, sleeping 4 hours a day.
She has to go back and forth to the theater 4 times a day, and she basically has no time for breakfast and lunch, and even the host jokes that it is better to live in the theater.
The vast majority of Kabuki families had house rules and were very macho and standard feudal patriarchal management.
Therefore, there are many unwritten rules, such as in the Nakamura family, the default is that men do not carry bags, men do not do housework, and wives are not allowed to comment on her husband's performances at will, nor can they go out at will.
In addition to taking care of the family's daily life, Liyuan's wife also assists her husband in his own work, and is a "free personal assistant".
In addition to being a driver, porter, and assistant, you are also responsible for planning, setting up the venue, collecting feedback from the audience, and maintaining interpersonal relationships during the performance.
Naming (a grand naming ceremony held in front of an audience at a Kabuki theater) is a big deal for Kabuki, and it is naturally the wife's job to prepare for the name.
In 2016, when Hiroko Mita's husband and three sons became famous at the same time, Mita took care of everything from the external hospitality and socialization to the internal peripheral design.
The most important point is that the wife of Liyuan is not in charge of the family, whether it is in front of the elders, husband or son, her status is the lowest, and she must "go against the grain".
When you go out to visit your mother-in-law, you must not only dress appropriately, but also carry large bags and small bags.
Although Mita Hiroko's Rishino wife is conscientious, her husband still cheated, and he has been exposed by weekly magazines many times, once before the 16-year attack, once at the beginning of the 20s, and again at the end of the 20s, and the objects are still different...... And as a wife, naturally I can only forgive him.
And in April this year, it was rumored that she had cheated 4 times, and netizens couldn't help but worry about her mental state.
(Hiroko Mita and Shibahiro Nakamura, with three children)
Working day and night and being let down is the basic treatment of many Liyuan wives, and the more unfortunate Liyuan wife, perhaps like Kobayashi Mayang, died of cancer at the age of 34.
Kobayashi's husband is Naritaya's Kabuki actor Ichikawa Umizo, who has a high level of achievement, and he was the one who performed at the opening ceremony of the Tokyo Olympics, and his performances are very famous in the industry, and his abusive feelings are also famous in the weekly magazine.
Kobayashi resigned from his job as a female anchor after getting married and became a good assistant to Liyuan, but this didn't seem to make Ichikawa Hai Laozang relent, and after marriage, he drank and made trouble, and scandals continued.
(Ichikawa Umizo is said to be a guest of honor at major clubs in Ginza, and once held a press conference to apologize for beating someone after drinking)
In 2016, Mayang Kobayashi was diagnosed with breast cancer, because this disease has a lot to do with emotions, so it was speculated that Kobayashi got breast cancer at a young age because he was too tired to be Liyuan's wife and often angry with her husband.
During Kobayashi's illness, Ichikawa Hai Laozang restrained a lot, and went to the temple to shave his wife to pray for his blessing, and later cried bitterly at the press conference after Kobayashi's death.
After the death of his wife, Ichikawa Hai Lao hid the character of a good man and a good father for several years, but he began to slack off over the years, and he was photographed secretly meeting different women many times, and it was revealed that he had been talking to women on the Internet.
Kobayashi Maya's sister Maya Kobayashi also complained on her personal blog and YouTube channel about Ichikawa Haizo's behavior when his wife was sick: Ichikawa Haizo had a bad attitude and impatience when he was in the hospital, and he couldn't stay even for 5 seconds, but he was more concerned about horse racing when his wife was sick, and even watched horse betting news in front of relatives in the ward.
Kobayashi Maya also said that her sister had vented bitterness with herself, saying that her life was painful and she wanted to die quickly and divorce quickly.
Kabuki actors enjoy the starry status of the moon, but they are not ashamed of their personal morality, they enjoy the little things that the wives of the pear garden pay, but they don't have to respect the efforts of their wives at all.
There is a common problem in the world of Kabuki: "Cheating and stealing food is the norm." ”
Because they felt that working in the arts needed inspiration, some Kabuki actors had chaotic private lives, and there were often scandals about "illegitimate children".
As a good wife, you must "understand the general situation and be able to tolerate people".
Even after her husband's affair was photographed, she had to be responsible for public relations and apologize, otherwise once it caused a sensation in the outside world, Liyuan's wife would be blamed: "If your business ability is not good, it will cause such a big commotion, and it is discrediting the family."
The tolerance of male indulgence in the pear orchard and the strict requirements for the wife of the pear orchard undoubtedly contributed to the distorted male power consciousness in the pear orchard.
Of course, not all Liyuan wives have experienced a "golden and jade" marriage.
Another person who comes to mind when he mentions "Rishien Wife", Norika Fujiwara. has attracted a lot of attention because she became a "pear garden wife".
52-year-old Norika Fujiwara did not give up her acting career after marriage, but chose to coordinate her career and family.
At the beginning of the year, he participated in the TV series "The Man Who Doesn't Divorce", and the stage play he starred in recently is also about to be released. Outstanding temperament and full of refinement.
While working hard for her acting career, she also serves as the "wife of Liyuan" wholeheartedly. People around her commented that she was "very conscientious" and "studying hard every day......
Although they learned that the Rishien wife was not as relaxed and gorgeous as they imagined, there are still some Japanese women who want to become "Rishien wives".
I want to be the wife of Rishion.
I want to marry a Kabuki actor.
The question is, if we can somehow build a good relationship, can the identity gap be filled? (For example, when a geisha gets married, does her origin have to be good?)
My family is in the lower middle class (income, family, etc.), and if I don't have a high status in the Kabuki world, can't I get married?
Please let me know if anyone knows.
Maybe I'll be the wife of Liyuan in a few years, with a probability of 0.002% (a bit wishful thinking.)
However, most people still look at the identity of "Liyuan Wife" very rationally, and know that "famous wife" is not as beautiful as it seems on the surface.