I believe that every pair of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law have an attitude of harmonious coexistence when they first get along, and no one is rushing to turn their faces as soon as they come up.
But living under one roof always inevitably involves friction and collisions.
The upper and lower teeth may collide together, and the teeth may bite the lip, let alone socialize with people.
If it is a person, there will be conflicts, even if it is a kind and weak person, it may explode because it can't stand the other party.
Blindly submissive, accommodating and accommodating, will not be cherished by others, but will only be exchanged for ignorance and inch.
The daughter-in-law must not be too weak in front of her mother-in-law, don't be too honest, she must turn her face when she should turn her face.
The weaker you are, the less you will be taken seriously
People are good at being bullied, and horses are good at being ridden by others, this truth remains unchanged for eternity.
Kindness is not the same as weakness, and weakness is destined to be pinched only as a soft persimmon.
Why are people weak?
It's because you feel unworthy, and the sense of unworthiness in your bones makes you voluntarily lower yourself, to please, to accommodate.
But remember that if you yourself look down on you and feel that you are not worthy, then rest assured, in the eyes of others, you will be looked down upon.
It is said: The mother-in-law looks at her son-in-law, and the more she looks at it, the happier she becomes, while the mother-in-law looks at her daughter-in-law, and she is picky.
Only self-esteem and self-confidence can be exchanged for respect, and the weaker you are, the less you will be taken seriously.
Guard the boundary, stick to the bottom line, and turn your face when it's time to turn your face
Turning your face does not mean that you are unreasonable, nor does it mean that you will provoke trouble for no reason.
Instead, there are principles and bottom lines, knowing what things can be negotiated and what things can be compromised. And what is resolutely not allowed to be allowed.
Many mothers-in-law, they just regard their daughters-in-law as a tool to pass on the lineage, you have to have a baby when you get married, and you have to pass on the lineage.
If you don't plan to have a baby at this time, do you compromise or say no?
Some mothers-in-law have no sense of boundaries and frequently interfere in the lives of their sons and daughters-in-law, at this time, what do you do?
In the face of her mother-in-law's unreasonableness and no boundaries, you have to turn your face when you should turn your face, and keep your position and bottom line, in exchange for attention.
The relationship that can turn the face is the most stable
Have you noticed that many times, the more you dare not turn your face, the easier it is for the relationship to break down.
You are cautious and respectful, for fear that if you say something wrong, you will make others unhappy.
The more a relationship needs to be carefully maintained by one party, it is full of hidden dangers from the beginning.
On the contrary, those who do not hide their hearts, speak out, and quarrel when they disagree, turn around and reconcile, as if nothing happened.
Saying nothing does not mean that the wind is calm, and it is very likely that a big storm is being planned.
Many mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law are not noisy or noisy, and they seem to be very harmonious, but in fact, both parties are holding back their grievances in their hearts, maybe a small thing hits the nerves and sets off a huge wave.
And some mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law seem to be noisy and noisy, babbling, and if there is something to say directly, the closer the relationship.
The right way to express dissatisfaction, don't hide it, and communicate and solve problems is the right way.
Give yourself the ability to turn your face
What is the key to a woman's ability to gain a foothold in her in-law's family and be looked up to by her in-laws?
It must be financially independent, have the ability to make money, and have the right to speak in the control of money, so that it can have the right to speak in the in-law's family.
If you don't earn money, rely on men to support you, and rely on your in-laws to help, where is your confidence to turn your face?
angered your mother-in-law and cut off your stipend payment, and you don't even have the right to argue.
Take people with short hands and eat people with soft mouths. Don't think that your in-laws are helping his son, and you should help the little couple.
There is nothing that should or should not be, and don't have old thoughts about your in-laws.
In this way, you will be a little shorter in your in-laws' house.
You must have the ability to make money in order to have the ability to turn your face, otherwise you will always be controlled by others and look at people's faces.
Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, turn their faces when they should turn their faces.
Turning the other cheek is to guard the boundary, not to make a fuss out of nothing.
If you have something to communicate directly, don't be aggrieved and accommodating, sulking, and finally holding back your illness, and no one will feel distressed.
To be financially independent forever, no matter what time it is, this is a top priority.
Only independence can be exchanged for respect.