Every parent wants their children to grow up healthy and happy, but how to better educate their children and let them have a sunny life requires special wisdom and care.
Different education methods not only affect the future of children, but also determine the bond between parents and children. From the celebrity families in the entertainment industry, we can get a glimpse of the results of some different educational concepts.
On one side, Huang Duoduo dyes his hair and sells cuteness, and on the other hand, Wang Shiling's luxury car sachets; On the one hand, Zheng Jun severely punished, and on the other hand, Li Chengru sneered.
Different educational philosophies create different environments for children to grow up. Huang Lei implements "respect education" for his daughter Huang Duoduo and respects any ideas and decisions made by children;
Li Xiang "enriched" his daughter Wang Shiling with material materials, and has had a luxurious life since she was a child.
On the other hand, Zheng Jun severely punished the child, and he had to kowtow a thousand times if he lied;
And Li Chengru "suppressed education" for his son Li Dahai, often strictly guiding and criticizing and reprimanding him.
Behind each parent's education style, there is a unique life course and family environment. Li Chengru's childhood was destined for the way he educated his son.
Born in 1954 in a wealthy family in Beijing, his family's fortunes plummeted after his father's early death. He spent his childhood in poverty and experienced the hardships of life at an early age.
Since he was six or seven years old, he followed his brother to the village fields to dig up the remaining wild potatoes to solve the problem of food and clothing.
These wild potatoes are often remnants that farmers have not thoroughly picked up after harvest, and although of average quality, they are a valuable source of food for them.
In the fight for these scarce resources, he often clashed and fought with other village children, each time fighting for a little more food.
At the age of 17, he began his apprenticeship and began his career in society. Although his monthly salary was only 16 yuan, it was still difficult for him to meet his basic living needs, let alone enjoy any additional small blessings.
Even the tempting snacks in the old Dong'an market are prohibitive luxuries for him. He often stood in front of the food stalls, looking at the delicacies, his heart was full of longing, but he could only turn away helplessly.
Poverty has made him tenacious, but it has also deprived him of the nourishment of his father's love. As time passed, Li Chengru's career gradually got on the right track, and he began to enjoy a luxurious life that he had never had before.
However, just when everything seemed to be going well, however, his private life faced serious challenges. Due to a number of complicating factors, the relationship between Li Dahai and his wife deteriorated day by day, and finally they decided to end their marriage and chose to part ways.
This accident forced six-year-old Li Dahai to move into a rental house of only 18 square meters with his mother, which is undoubtedly a huge blow to the family that was once getting better.
In such a small space, Li Dahai and his mother depend on each other, and the living conditions are very difficult. At the same time, the trajectory of Li Chengru's life contrasts sharply with his childhood experience.
Although he is now able to enjoy more material comforts, his heart is always full of mixed emotions about his son's love and education.
In his opinion, he has cultivated a resilient character by facing the difficult challenges of life in those years, so he believes that by imposing a strict education on Li Dahai, he can also help his son build the ability to face future challenges.
Even so, Lee Sung-ru's relationship with his son was not as close as he expected. His approach to education made Li Dahai feel pressured on his way to growth, rather than complete support and understanding.
Although the father's intention was for the good of his son, the choice of way and method caused a lot of controversy and inner contradictions.
In this case, Li Dahai inevitably had the shadow of a lack of father's love in his upbringing, and although his childhood was similar to his father's childhood, he also had a completely different emotional experience.
Li Dahai's childhood was not easy. Due to his lack of paternal love and the harsh criticism and public humiliation he often encountered in his interactions with his father, he accumulated a deep resentment towards his father, Li Chengru.
This accumulation of affection stems from years of emotional estrangement and misunderstanding, especially during his teenage years, when he needed the most support and understanding from his father.
When Li Dahai was 17 years old, while his peers were still preparing for college, Li Dahai had to drop out of school to find a job to help his mother pay for her daily expenses.
The daily work is heavy and boring, from early morning to late at night, and there is little time and energy to think about music composition, let alone systematic music learning.
Despite this, Li Dahai has never completely given up his love for music. Outside of work, he finds as much time as possible to practice guitar and keyboards, which are the only instruments he can afford.
He would also try to compose simple pieces that, despite their simplicity and unpolished, would give him an indescribable sense of satisfaction and joy whenever a note flowed through his fingers.
Li Dahai also uses online resources to teach himself music theory and composition skills. He often spent late at night in his hut listening to works of various musical styles through headphones, trying to find inspiration and a direction to learn.
Whenever he hears a touching melody or a subtle arrangement, his heart still swells up with the desire to become a musician.
Despite the harsh conditions, Li Dahai still maintains his passion and dream for music. He knew that he might not be able to achieve his dream of becoming a musician right away, but he was determined not to let the difficulties completely wipe out his passion.
In his opinion, as long as he can continue to be accompanied by music, there is still hope and brightness in his life. Whenever he tried to share his passion and dreams for music with his father, he asked for an idle piano, but he was often harshly criticized by his father, which made the relationship between father and son even more strained.
Especially being humiliated in front of everyone made Li Dahai feel deeply disrespected and belittled.
These painful experiences not only undermined his self-esteem and self-confidence, but also caused his feelings for his father to gradually turn from disappointment to deep resentment.
Despite this, Li Dahai still strives to find his own direction and value in life. The sense of responsibility and hard work he shows in his work, as well as his constant self-learning and experimentation with music, are all ways in which he tries to achieve self-fulfillment in the face of adversity.
The experience, while challenging, also shaped his resilient and independent character. Despite the lack of understanding and respect between father and son, Li Dahai still did not give up his love for music and hope for the future.
It wasn't until he entered old age that Li Chengru, who was alone, realized the importance of his relationship with his son and began to try to repair the friendship between father and son.
But the desire to endure hardships for his children was late, and he had lost his son's trust and understanding. The relationship between parents and children will eventually return to the origin of "the tree wants to be quiet but the wind does not stop, and the child wants to raise but does not wait".
The choice of education method is never simple, it carries the unique experience of parents, and also determines what kind of life children will go to.
Either way, the parent-child relationship can only go further if it is based on mutual understanding and trust.
Ignoring a child's needs for development, or imposing one's own experiences on others, can traumatize the parent-child relationship and negatively affect the child's development. Perhaps, education requires the wisdom of teaching students according to their aptitude and adapting to the conditions of the time.