Hello, I'm Yang Xiaoqian. A post-80s generation who focuses on personal growth and mental improvement
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Everyone, like a leaf, has a different vein and texture.
Some people are enthusiastic and lively, easy to accept others, and can make a lot of good friends. Kind-hearted, optimistic, and able to face all kinds of relationships positively.
And some people, accustomed to indifference and alienation, dare not easily deliver their sincerity. It's hard to trust other people.
Discover the truth of human nature: Some people can talk to anyone, never please anyone, and seem to be generous, but in fact, they are cold by nature.
People with the following characteristics are cold by nature and will not have a heart-to-heart with you.
01. People who can talk to anyone for a few words, no one has a heart-to-heart relationship
Not long ago, I was at a banquet with a client, and I met a man at the table.
He was so delicate that it seemed that there were people he knew at every table, and he was very familiar with them.
I said casually, he seems to be quite good.
The client scoffed and said: he likes to take shortcuts, he likes to speculate. I can talk to anyone, and I call everyone a brother, but I don't have a deep friendship with anyone.
There is a kind of person who seems to be very talkative, like a social master, but he only wears a friendly mask, but in fact his heart is not open to anyone.
It seems that you can easily talk to anyone, but it's just a small talk. He is very wary of everyone, he just wants to take advantage of it, and he doesn't want to give anything.
When getting along with people, he will not easily communicate with others, and his heart is generally not sincere. Get used to looking at interests and shorten the distance with people.
The greater the interest, the closer he will be to others; The smaller the stake, the more likely he is to alienate you.
seems to be a good brother with everyone, but they are all general friends, and they are actually very thin and cold in their bones.
02. Never please anyone, and never get too close to others
People who are cold by nature and will not communicate with you always keep a distance when they get along with you.
He doesn't like to socialize with anyone, likes to be alone, and enjoys solitude even more. Or, when interacting with people, he has his own bottom line and boundaries.
When someone shows favor to him, he will show a very cold appearance and don't want to complicate his relationships.
When dealing with others, he does not take the initiative to establish intimate relationships, does not take the initiative to reveal the secrets of his heart, and does not want to take the time to understand others.
Whether others are rich or powerful, he will not please them at will.
Writer Meng Si once said: "Chatting and making friends is not about the elegance and vulgarity of the words on the surface, but about whether the heart of the expression is consistent." ”
He is used to dedicating his time to doing what he loves.
They will not give up their own interests to fulfill others, nor will they please anyone.
He is independent, has a clear plan for life, does not overflow with empathy, and connects with people at will.
Such a person, although he is a little cold in his bones, lives comfortably and will not be easily trapped by love.
03. Being a man seems to be down-to-earth and generous, but it is actually an exchange of interests
Shen Yurong in "Ink Rain and Clouds" seems to be a humble gentleman, full of poetry and books, and upright, but in fact he is a selfish person.
In order to keep his glory and wealth, in order to win the favor of the eldest princess and make his career smooth, he ruthlessly cooperated with his mother and sister to frame his wife.
Not only ruined her reputation, but also hurt her life.
He was close to the eldest princess, not necessarily because of his true feelings, but because he weighed the pros and cons. Everything he does, he does to achieve his own ends.
A person who is unsympathetic and unscrupulous does things based on profit.
"Friendship needs to be tested, and if a friendship breaks like a fragile vase at the touch of a frailty, it's not a real friend," Cai said. ”
Some people seem to have a good character and are very reliable in doing things, but they approach you not because of how deep his feelings are with you, but because you can bring him more benefits.
Whatever his heart desires is for profit, as long as he can satisfy his wishes, he will not hesitate to give up anything.
04. Conclusion
Yishu said: "The people in the city seem to be glamorous, but in fact, they all have hidden loopholes. The seats are full of friends, and the guests are like clouds, but there may not be three or two people who can really talk to each other. ”
In this world, love words are the most expensive.
When you get along with others, you give everything you have, and you may not be able to get the sincerity of others. So, if someone is genuine about you, cherish it.
With two or three confidants by your side, life will become warmer and warmer.
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Xiao Qian: A writer who loves words, loves words, and codes words for ten years. In his spare time, he will meet friends with words. For the rest of my life, with you by my side, life will be steaming.