Guo Degang once said:
"The poor man plays ten steel hooks on the cross street, but he can't hook the flesh and bones of his relatives; The rich are swords, guns and sticks in the deep mountains and old forests, and they can't break up the unrighteous guests. ”
This sentence is about the difference between rich and not, and the comparison between the two is simply the difference between heaven and earth.
In reality, that's exactly what happened.
People are warm and cold, the world is full of variety, and you can see it once you don't have money.
The world panicked, but it was just for a few taels of silver. But this broken silver is a few taels, which can solve thousands of melancholy.
When you have money, do a good job; When you don't have money, get things done.
Whether you have money or not, having a good relationship with these 3 types of people is not snobbery, but foresight!
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Someone who is willing to help you when you are in trouble
I've seen a news report:
Non-profit organizations found an elderly man living on the streets of Shenzhen, looking haggard, with messy hair and wearing thin clothes.
According to the locals, the old man has been wandering for many days.
Later, in an exchange with the volunteers, the old man said that he was 75 years old, his name was Jiang Yuanchen, a native of Yantai, Shandong, who had opened a garment factory in his early years and had worked hard in Hong Kong.
First, Hong Kong Shenglong Group was founded.
After that, he went to Shenzhen to develop and established Shenzhen Shenglongfa Food Industry Co., Ltd. and served as the chairman.
The net worth was as high as tens of millions of yuan, and the maximum number of employees was hundreds.
It's just that because of the expansion of the business, due to the arrears of the supplier, the capital chain will eventually be broken and the company will go bankrupt.
I also went around collecting debts, but I couldn't find anyone.
The gap in life is too big to stand this blow, so he lives on the streets, scavenging for a living, and usually rests on a chair in the park.
Volunteers helped him get in touch with his family, but his ex-wife was bedridden due to illness and had difficulty moving, and she was reluctant to pick up her ex-husband because her husband had not fulfilled his family responsibilities and did not care about the family.
He had two sons and a daughter, and no one wanted to talk about the past.
From the chairman to the homeless, it is embarrassing.
Why am I saying this news?
I want to say that if someone is willing to help you when you are in trouble, you must cherish it, this is your nobleman.
Adversity sees human nature, and adversity sees sincerity.
As the saying goes: "Knowing horses in mud is difficult to recognize people." ”
When someone is in a high position, the door is like a city, full of friends, and friends are all over the world; When some people are rich, they donate generously and help countless people, and there is no vain exchange.
But once you are down, the door is full of birds, not to mention sending charcoal in the snow, it is rare not to fall into the well.
"Zengguang Xianwen" has a cloud: "There is wine and meat, brothers, how can I see a person in an emergency." ”
The world is cold, but that's it.
One should not overestimate one's place in the hearts of others, nor should one overestimate others. Husbands and wives still have the possibility of flying separately when disaster comes, not to mention some people who have intersecting interests?
The person who is willing to help you get out of your predicament is the one who is truly worthy of deep friendship.
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When struggling, like-minded people
In nature, many people hate this animal very much, and that is the African hyena.
Hyenas are not large, but they are one of the more ferocious of carnivores.
They never hunt alone and always hunt in groups.
It looks like a "little gangster" in the animal kingdom. ”
He rarely exerts his strength to hunt for food, and always cuts off his beard.
But such a "little gangster" can often win in the competition for food with cheetahs and lions.
A single hyena is very weak, and it is no match for lions and leopards, but a group is very strong.
Even the king of the steppe must avoid its edge.
As the saying goes, it's hard to stand alone, and it's the same on the road of life.
A person is strong and worthy of praise; Strong teamwork and worth learning.
Liu Run shared a point of view:
"The basic plate of a person's wealth has two components. First, your own abilities; Second, your ability to connect with other people. The latter, on the other hand, is an amplifier of the former. ”
After all, personal ability is limited, and huddles can keep warm, and they can also break the ceiling when fighting alone.
On the road of struggle, only by finding like-minded people and working together can we achieve brilliance.
The strength is used in one place, and the force is used in one place to get the optimal solution.
Writer Rhonda · Byrne once wrote, "Everything around a man is drawn by his inner thoughts and qualities." ”
I think so.
Like-minded, in fact, more often than not, the three views are the same.
Because only people with the same three views can attract each other.
Everyone's background, growth environment, and life experience are very different, and each has its own magnetic field.
People with similar magnetic fields tend to be attracted to each other.
On the way to struggle, please have a good relationship with the person who is like-minded with you.
A like-minded friend is better than a hundred general friends.
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When frustrated, encourage your family
Mark Twain said, "A sincere compliment can give me two more months to live." ”
It is true that criticism is the ladder of human progress. However, compliments are just as essential.
On the road of life, it has never been smooth sailing.
Whether it is family, career, or life, there are always sudden changes that break everything.
Sickness, frustration, etc., it is easy for people to fall down.
That's when family members' encouragement, support, and praise are even more important.
When a person is injured and encounters difficulties, in some cases it can slowly heal itself, and in some cases it is impossible to heal itself at all, but it will fall into a scabies.
The life of an adult is not easy, we often report good news but not bad news, there are problems to bear, there are difficulties to overcome by ourselves, but there is always a day when we can't bear it.
If the string collapses too tightly, it will break, and it is easy for people to go to extremes and lose themselves in the case of long-term depression.
Therefore, it is important to ask for help when it is time to ask for help.
If you carry it to death, you may really die.
In this way, there is an urgent need for a place, or a person, to heal oneself.
In addition to confidants and nobles, only family members can act as your healer.
I've seen a word called deep relationship.
Psychology has researched that people who can deeply connect with their parents will have stronger inner energy and happiness than the average person.
This kind of deep linking is a kind of deep relationship.
As a parent, you should encourage your children.
As a partner, praise your partner a lot.
As a child, you should be more supportive of your parents.
Home is a warm harbor; Family is the source of our strength.
The greatest happiness in life is that you will always have the most supportive and solid backing family behind you.
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I especially like a sentence:
It is easy to scatter, but it is difficult to gather; Freedom is easy, rules are hard; It's easy to go with the flow, it's hard to get used to; It is easy to relax, but it is difficult to be self-disciplined; It's easy to make friends, but it's hard to get to know each other; It is easy to share happiness and hardship.
Fortunately, when things are difficult, there are always people who help us; When struggling, you will always meet like-minded people; When you are depressed, there is always encouragement from your family.
Life has its ups and downs, and with like-minded people who are mentors and friends, even if we are knocked down by life, we will never be defeated.
When we look into the distance, we will not be obscured by the fog in front of us.