01
It has been raining incessantly in recent days, and I have had to stay home all day.
Normally, when the weather is nice, I wake up in the morning and accompany my mother to the park, where she and her sisters square dance while I take a walk in the sun. I love the feeling of walking towards the rising sun.
After dinner, I usually go out for a walk for more than an hour, which is a unique moment of the day.
But the continuous rain in the past few days has forced these two activities to be cancelled.
In rainy weather, there is more time for family members to be together, or play mahjong together; Or, let's learn cooking skills together; Or, get together and chat.
The rain also takes away the heat wave in the summer air, which makes people feel a lot more refreshed.
I slept at night, and I slept with the sound of rain all night, and I don't know how comfortable it was.
Now I am more and more aware that whether a person is happy or not does not depend on your personality, but how you interpret and react to some problems when you are faced with them.
02
When I was younger, I often envied many people around me and thought that everyone was happier than me.
There are people who have quick brains and good eloquence, and good luck will always favor them. I thought that if I had this ability, life would be happy.
Someone has a sweet look and is welcomed wherever he goes. I thought that if I had such looks, life would be happy.
Some people are cheerful and optimistic, and there is never a shortage of friends around them. I figured if I didn't have such an introverted personality, it would be fine.
I attributed the reason for my unhappiness to that I didn't have these conditions, and I felt that life was really unfair.
In the past few years, in the process of researching psychology, combined with decades of thinking about life phenomena, I have found that the only core factor that affects people's experience of happiness,
It's a way of interpreting a thing.
Like what:
When you fail to do something, do you think you are stupid and useless? Or do you think that failure is the norm in doing things?
When you are walking on the road and you meet a colleague who doesn't greet you, do you think that the other person has an opinion about you? Or do you think he might not have seen you?
When your partner forgets your birthday, do you think you're unimportant in the other person's eyes, or do you think he's been busy lately and doesn't have time to think about anything else?
Different interpretations will make you take different ways to deal with it.
And different ways of dealing with it, in the end, make our lives very different, which is called fate.
03
I remember reading a story about an old lady who had two sons, the eldest son was an umbrella seller, and the younger son was a straw sandals.
The old lady frowned every day, she was worried that on a sunny day, her eldest son's umbrella would not have a business; I'm worried that when it's cloudy, my youngest son's straw sandals won't sell.
Isn't it a good thing that a wise man told her that no matter whether it's sunny or rainy, there will always be a son who has a good business?
The old lady thought, yes, why didn't I see it? No more worries.
Each of us will encounter difficulties in life, and if we only see the bad side, we will fall into depression and pessimism every day.
If you see more of the positive side and see more of what you have, you will find that life is actually very beautiful.
As adults, we have our own choices in life, and if we want to change our fate, we need to change the way we interpret and respond to problems when we face things.
So how can that change?
This requires us to constantly improve our self-awareness, learn more, explore more, think more, and maintain the ability to think independently, in order to truly find happiness.