With the development of society, more and more young people choose to rely on their parents to live and become the so-called "gnawing old people". This phenomenon has attracted widespread attention and discussion. From a psychological perspective, this article will analyze the reasons why children are lazy and gnaw at old age, especially the influence of unreasonable mothers behind it.
First of all, let's be clear that not all children are lazy and gnawed because of their mother's ignorance. However, in many cases, we can see that this phenomenon often has a lot to do with the distortion of mothers' ways and values about their children's education. The mother's ignorance is mainly manifested in the overprotection and doting of the child, which not only hinders the cultivation of the child's independent ability, but also makes the child lack self-restraint and sense of responsibility.
On the one hand, overprotection and spoiling make it impossible for children to be exercised in real life, and they are often accustomed to the care and protection of their parents, and are unwilling to take responsibility for life. On the other hand, this kind of doting also makes it impossible for children to accept the letting go of their parents, who expect their parents to always be there for them to solve all their problems. In the long run, children will gradually lose the ability to grow themselves, become lazy and dependent.
In addition, unreasonable mothers often have high expectations of their children, which are often divorced from their children's actual abilities and interests. They often ignore their children's personality and potential, focusing only on their children's grades and performance. Such unreasonable expectations will not only cause children to feel stressed and anxious, but also make children lose confidence and motivation for the future.
So, how to solve this problem? First of all, as a mother, you should be clear about your roles and responsibilities. Mothers are not only the caregivers of their children, but also the educators and guides of their children. Mothers should respect their children's individuality and interests, provide them with appropriate support and guidance, and help them develop self-discipline and responsibility. At the same time, mothers should also learn to let go, let their children grow in practice, and cultivate their independence.
Second, society and educational institutions should also assume corresponding responsibilities. Schools and families should share the responsibility of nurturing children's independence and allowing them to learn and grow in practice. In addition, society should also provide more employment opportunities and vocational training for young people to help them better integrate into society and realize their self-worth.
In short, the problem of children's laziness and gnawing on the old is not only the problem of the children themselves, but often the influence of an unreasonable mother behind it. As mothers, we should be clear about our roles and responsibilities, respect our children's individuality and interests, give them appropriate support and guidance, and help them develop self-discipline and responsibility. At the same time, we should also provide more employment opportunities and vocational training for young people from the perspective of society and educational institutions, so as to help them better integrate into society and realize their self-worth.