#头条创作挑战赛#经常有妻子找到我, he asked anxiously: "Teacher, my husband betrayed me and said that he wanted a divorce, what should I do?" ”
In the face of this situation, I have to say, if he is really determined to leave and wants to get out of this marriage, then you have to hurry up and get ready.
Why? Because if you really leave in the end, you have to make sure that your interests are not harmed and cannot be calculated by men.
In short, whether he really wants to leave or just talking, you have to have something to do.
Don't let yourself fall into passivity, be ready to fight back at any time. Remember, no matter what, you must protect your rights and interests, and you can't let him succeed easily.
Blatantly with other women
True love should be that there is only one other person in the heart, and there is no room for a third person.
But if one of the partners starts to openly engage in flirting with others, completely ignoring your feelings, then the marriage is in danger.
Just like one of the students I mentored before, her marriage seems to be quite happy, her husband has a successful career, and the family is harmonious.
But who would have thought that behind his back, he had intimate contact with different members of the opposite sex. After the student found out, he wanted to rely on the trust between the husband and wife and the relationship for many years to make him turn back.
As a result, not only did he not repent, but he also openly took the woman in and out of various occasions.
Some cheating men always say that they just made the mistakes that men will make. If you truly repent, you may be able to leave some thoughts on your marriage.
But the kind of person who goes out with other women in public without any scruples actually has no place for the original partner in his heart.
They use this behavior to humiliate their partners and make them unable to get off the stage, in fact, they are determined to separate.
If he really wants to leave, it means that he doesn't care about losing you anymore and doesn't care about making you sad. His kindness to you in the past is now a thing of the past.
So, in the face of a man who no longer cares about you, don't expect him to think about affection.
Since he is already unkind and unjust, you might as well be ruthless.
Everywhere you say you're in a broken relationship
It is said that family ugliness should not be publicized, but this man unabashedly "shared" the gossip of the breakdown of your husband and wife among relatives and friends.
And he pretended to be quite calm and rational.
For example, with a friend, casually say "Hey, we don't get along with each other in personality, and there are always a little conflicts";
inadvertently revealed to a colleague, "Hey, maybe my marriage with her is coming to an end, but it's not officially separated yet."
What's more? Not only do he talk to one or two people in private, but he may repeat it on various occasions, such as family gatherings, dinners with friends, and even small talk with neighbors.
He may use an "oops, I can't help it" tone to talk about the disagreement between you, giving the impression of "I've tried my best, but I really can't change it."
In doing so, he is vaccinating himself in advance, and in case of a divorce in the end, others will put the blame on you, thinking that your wife is not good enough.
I know you're angry when you see him like that. But we still have to be calm, don't wait until everything is a foregone conclusion to suddenly realize, we have to take the initiative!
Find a way to solve the problem and fight for your due rights. In any case, it is necessary to firmly hold the initiative in your own hands.
Remember, protecting yourself is always the most important thing! Don't let this man's little dirtiness affect your life and mood.
Can't get in touch, cut off the family
Since two people are married, they have to pretend to be each other in their hearts, know that husband and wife are one, and they have to say everything so that the other half will not worry.
If he starts to disappear at every turn, and he can't be contacted, it's obvious that he doesn't care about you anymore and doesn't think it's necessary. What's more, the family is not given, completely ignoring the family's economic situation.
I met a student who lived in Hong Kong with her husband. originally wanted to live a good life, but my husband met other women while working in the mainland.
Not only did he disappear often, but he was denied even a home, completely ignoring how difficult it was for her and her children to live in Hong Kong.
Many girls comfort themselves when faced with the man's lack of care and frequent disappearances, saying "he is busy with work" or "he just forgot".
But the truth is often cruel, when a man doesn't even give a home and doesn't even reply to your messages, he has already told you with actions: he doesn't care about this family, and he doesn't care about you.
So, when you find that he can no longer be contacted and the family is cut off, stop being nostalgic and fantasizing. At this time, maximizing benefits is the wisest choice.
Secretly transfer property in private
On the surface, it's quite easy to take precautions, but what I'm most afraid of is the kind of thing that quietly transfers property in private.
Speaking of which, I would like to share a real-life case. I have a student who has been through the same hardships with her husband. At that time, thanks to her finding a job in sales, the two of them were able to make ends meet.
Later, she funded her husband to open a second-hand car trading company, so that her husband made some money.
However, a few years ago, her husband invested in catering despite her opposition, but he lost all his money and went into debt. They had to sell their house to pay off their debts, and in the end they were left with an old house.
At this moment, she found out that her husband had been living with another woman for many years!
When she was in a trance, her husband suddenly returned to the family and said that he wanted to renovate the house and start over. She also had a big heart, and actually agreed.
When she moved out, she found that the lock on the house had been replaced! It turned out that the husband had already secretly transferred the house.
The return of this husband has been planned for a long time! He said that the money from the sale of the house had been used to pay off the debt, and the woman he had lived with before was his creditor.
You say that the property is indeed the joint property of the husband and wife, but the debt is also the joint debt of the husband and wife.
What happened to this student is quite distressing. If she had sought our help earlier, she might have been able to avoid such a loss of money and money.
Of course, this also reminds us that when marriage comes to this point, we need to be more mindful of our partners and not blindly trust.
Don't wait until your family's possessions are emptied and you are abandoned by your partner.
If you really come to the step of divorce, but find that you have nothing to gain, but instead you have fulfilled him and a third party, it will be too late to regret and wrong.
I know that when people reach middle age and suddenly face the risk of divorce, they will definitely be at a loss.
But remember, no matter how lonely and helpless you feel right now, you are not alone in this situation, and I will always be here, with you and with your support.
You deserve to be loved and you deserve a happy future. Divorced or not, try to live a happy, free life.