There is a saying: If you want to have one heart, the white head will not be separated. This is many people's expectation of love, and it is also the most beautiful vision of marriage. However, the ideal is beautiful, but the reality is very skinny.
How many people find solace in their hearts in marriage? And how many people have enjoyed the warmth of marriage and are getting better and better? I don't think there are many people who can give positive answers. Because marriage is very different from love.
Recently, a man posted a video of him frantically looking for his wife all over the world, and many people were in tears when they saw that video.
After the husband and wife quarreled, the woman ran away and disappeared, and the husband went crazy looking for the last figure, and he felt sad when he saw it
It takes countless details to impress the other person with a heart that warms up a heart, but it is easy to cool a heart.
Recently, a man used his personal experience to tell us that marriage needs to be cared for and cherished.
On this day, the man and his wife quarreled. The two have quarreled countless times since they got married, sometimes because of the trivialities of life, sometimes because of their different personalities and habits, every time they quarreled, they were cold to each other for a few days, and then they returned to the same as before.
This time the couple quarreled again, and the man was used to it, thinking that after he went out to work, his wife would be at home and do housework. But this time it was different, when he came home, he found that the house was empty, and he couldn't see his wife.
He thought that his wife was angry and went out for a walk, but he didn't expect that he would wait for a long time, and he couldn't help but call his wife's phone, but the phone couldn't get through. The man was a little anxious, and he hurriedly looked for his wife, but everyone he knew had already searched for him, but he didn't see his wife, and no one knew where she was.
The husband searched all the places where his wife might appear, but he couldn't find any trace of his wife, so he had no choice but to look for the surveillance cameras near his home. Seeing the last figure of his wife leaving home, the husband felt infinite sourness in his heart.
I saw that after the quarrel, his wife walked out of the house without hesitation with her things, and she lowered her head in casual clothes and walked forward slowly. Soon she appeared at the intersection near her home, walking alone on the road with two plastic bags in her hands.
Looking ahead, her steps did not hesitate, it seemed that she had made up her mind to leave this time. The husband saw his wife carrying a red and blue plastic bag in her hand, and when she looked closely, the bag contained a change of clothes.
She walked to the end of the road, turned to the right, and disappeared from the surveillance cameras. Now, she has been away from home for almost ten days, and her husband has gone crazy to search for her all over the world, but his wife has not heard from her.
Now, the husband posted the video of his wife leaving the house on social platforms, in which he appealed: "My daughter can't live without you, come back, I went crazy with the whole world looking for you, and you disappeared." ”
After watching this video, many netizens sighed for his wife's loneliness and loneliness, and netizens said: "Don't go back, you won't even buy a handbag, why do you go back?" ”
Netizens said: "He is not repentant, he has no one to work and take care of the children." ”
Netizens said: "What does marriage bring to women? ”
The netizen said: "Alas, the heart is dead, just take two plastic bags." ”
The netizen said: "It's so sad, I'm also a woman, I can't stand it!" ”
There is indeed too much helplessness in this world, and such stories have triggered people to think about "what marriage brings to women".
In that agricultural era, under the influence of the concept of three obedience and four virtues, women were in the deep boudoir, staying at home, they took their husbands as their heavens and their sons' glory as their glory, without self, dignity, and status, so no matter what kind of marriage they faced, they chose to swallow their anger.
But now, with the development of the times and the change of people's concepts, women can go out of the house, go to school, and do business. But for thousands of years, the requirements for women's "husbands and children" have not changed. Nowadays, many people's lives are becoming more and more stressful, and it is difficult for a family to support itself with men alone, and women are needed to work to help.
Today's women are almost "enemies on their backs", and they want to make money to support their families, and they have to take a step back to teach their husbands and children, but the kind of machismo in men's bones has not changed much, and they always feel that women must serve themselves, and it is women's business to do housework after marriage, and they are only responsible for making money.
When women are tired, when women are too busy to deal with it, men are not a little considerate, and some even complain, scold, and even more excessively, domestic violence. As a result, many women gradually awaken in marriage, what does marriage bring to women?
The new generation of intellectual women see the future more and more clearly, some people simply choose not to marry, in their opinion, they have a career to support themselves, they can live a life without disputes between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, without the complicated relationship between husband and wife, why not?
If marriage brings warmth to women, if every man can realize that the times are changing, and their responsibilities also need to change, make money together, support the family together, do housework together, support each other, understand each other, tolerate each other, if they can do so, I don't think women will be afraid of getting married.
Just like the woman in the video, if her husband can treat her well in this marriage, I don't think she will leave her young children and run away from home, it must be this home that makes her unable to see hope, it must be her husband who makes her heart completely cold, she will simply pack a few changes of clothes and leave the house without looking back.
The reality is that the call of the husband can really bring back the wife? Maybe it must be seen whether he can change, whether he shows sincerity, cherish this marriage from now on, and help each other with his wife, so that he can raise his eyebrows.
What do you think about this?