"I want to return the bride price!" "No, you have to give me another 100,000!" How does the conversation between this "prospective couple" sound like haggling in a vegetable market? But isn't it, where is this talking about marriage, it's simply fighting a "bride price defense war"!
Speaking of which, it's really a modern version of a "rural love story". The man's young man, honest and honest, emptied six wallets in order to marry his daughter-in-law. The woman's girl, who is as beautiful as a flower, "accidentally" forgot to mention that she was once married. It's good now, the marriage didn't get married, but there was a "bride price defense war".
As soon as the man heard that his fiancée was a "second marriage", he suddenly felt like he had bought a fake, and his face turned green with anger. "Return! Must be returned! He shouted. But the woman quit, "The bride price is mine, why should I return it?" You'll have to give me another 100,000! This time and forth, the two changed from talking about marriage to "meeting in court".
To be honest, it's really not a good judgment. From the man's point of view, he spent a lot of money, but bought a "second-hand product", who can swallow this breath? But from the woman's point of view, isn't the "second marriage" a person? Do you have to write "antecedents" on your face? When you think about it, it's really a dilemma.
But then again, this girl is too unkind, isn't she? How can you hide such a big thing as being married? Isn't this a deliberate attempt to play tricks? Besides, you have accepted the bride price from others, and you still want another 100,000? This is trying to squeeze people dry! is really "greedy enough to swallow elephants", and he is not afraid to kill himself.
Actually, the problem reflected in this incident is quite big. First of all, how did our marriage market become a "second-hand market"? "Second marriage" has become the original sin, and it has to be concealed. Isn't this a disguised encouragement to lie? Secondly, how did the bride price become an "investment" in marriage? It seems that if you don't give a bride price, you can't marry a daughter-in-law, and if you give a bride price, you can guarantee happiness.
Let's talk about this young man, you said that you are too, just look at your face when you find a partner? Don't even inquire about people's details, dare to empty six wallets? Isn't this "cut first and then play"? No wonder people dare to lie to you! But then again, this girl is also ruthless enough, even if she cheats, she still wants to extort another 100,000, this is using people as "cash machines"!
In the final analysis, the root of this matter is still in the word "integrity". Marriage is a major life event, how can it be built on a lie? What's wrong with you saying you're a "second marriage"? Say it generously, if the other party minds, it means that he is not blessed! You have to hide it, and it turns out to be a lose-lose situation, how not worth it!
But then again, it teaches us a lesson. If you're looking for a partner, you can't just look at the surface. It is necessary to understand more about the other party's personality, personality, and family background, which is the foundation of maintaining a marriage. As for the bride price, it is a sentiment, not an obligation. It is love to give, and it is understandable not to give. Don't treat marriage as a "deal", that will only turn love into a "deal".
In the end, I'm curious. If the "prospective couple" really went to court, how would the judge decide? Should the bride price be refunded? Should the 100,000 compensation be given? This is really a "dilemma" multiple-choice question!
So the question is: in the marriage market, should we be more tolerant of the "second marriage" group? Is the bride price system still suitable for modern society? How can we prevent "concealment" in marriage? These questions may be worth pondering for each of us. After all, in this era of "routines" flying all over the sky, each of us has the potential to become the next "victim" or "perpetrator".