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Dictation: Wang Qiang
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Family dilemmas in a busy life
Every morning, Xiao Min and I are like a war, racing against time. She had to drop off her kids to school by seven o'clock, and I had to get to the office by eight o'clock. The only clock in the house is like urging life, and it doesn't make people breathe a sigh of relief for a minute. Xiao Min hurriedly sorted out the children's clothes and had to prepare breakfast; I hurried to change my clothes next to me, afraid of being late. The child always innocently tugged at the corner of our clothes and smiled and asked us to play with him, but how could we have that skill.
Work is also not worry-free. I work as an engineer in a construction company, and every day I look at a pile of drawings and my ears are full of construction site noise. The progress of the project and the quality control have kept me nervous. After work, the office phone is still ringing, and the customer's requests are endless. As for Xiao Min, she has to deal with dozens of naughty elementary school students, and there are a lot of miscellaneous things in the school. She often dragged herself home tired and had to make us dinner. We barely had time to sit down and chat, and the words we spoke every day were dry.
The cost of living is prohibitively high. Housing loans, car loans, money for children's early education classes, and ordinary expenses, each of them is like a big stone, which weighs us down. In order to be able to afford these payments, I had to work overtime and couldn't rest on weekends. Xiaomin's salary is not small, but prices have been rising, and we still feel that the money is not enough to spend. These financial pressures made us tired and annoyed, and the relationship between the two of us became more and more strained.
Sometimes, I feel that our marriage is overwhelmed by work and life. Every time I see Xiao Min busy at home and outside the house, I feel guilty and helpless. We used to have a lot of happy times, but now, it seems like those are gone. We talk less and less, and we quarrel more and more.
However, these pressures and contradictions are nothing. It's really difficult that my parents came to help take care of the children, I thought it would be easier, but I didn't expect the days to be more chaotic. As soon as they came, the already tense life became more complicated, the previous contradictions were revealed, and new troubles were also one after another. In the coming days, can we find a balance at home, and how to deal with these unexpected conflicts?
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The Arrival of Parents: The Gap Between Expectations and Reality
When my parents decided to come from their hometown to help, we were looking forward to it. Thinking that this time I can breathe a little relief from the busy days, I can have more time with Xiaobei, and the two of us can spend more time together. My mother always said that she had a lot of experience and brought up my brother and me, and now she is helping to bring up her grandchildren. But reality is often a big drop from expectations.
In the first few days of my parents' arrival, there have been some changes in the family. Mother got up early to make breakfast, and when Xiaobei woke up, she took her to walk around the community so that we could sleep more. My father also took care of simple household chores, sweeping the floor and taking out the garbage, which made us feel much more relaxed. However, as the days went by, problems slowly popped up.
First of all, the difference in living habits has become the first problem. My parents used to go to bed early and wake up early, and we often went to bed late because of work, and we wanted to sleep more in the morning. Our parents felt that it was unhealthy for us to live like this, and they always urged us to go to bed early and get up early to exercise. Every time Xiaomin wanted to watch a TV series to relax after dinner, her mother muttered beside her: "If you don't sleep so late, how can you have the energy to take the child tomorrow?" This made Xiao Min unhappy, but it was not easy to have a seizure, so she could only endure it by herself.
Secondly, it is even more troublesome to educate children with different ideas. Parents always think that their past method is better to take care of their children, like letting Xiaobei eat more, otherwise he will not grow tall; Don't let your child cry, it's not good to cry too much; If the child loves to play, let him play more, anyway, there will be more time for learning in the future. But Xiaomin has his own modern concept of education, and hopes that Xiaobei eats and sleeps on time, and engages in early education activities regularly. Every time the mother feeds Xiaobei too much, or asks him to watch more TV, Xiaomin will remind worriedly: "Mom, this is not good, the doctor said that the child has to control his diet and not eat too much." But the mother didn't take it seriously: "What do doctors know, didn't we take you like this at that time?" "The contradictions on both sides are accumulating little by little, and I am caught in the middle, which is really a dilemma.
The most serious thing is the conflict between Xiaomin and her mother. My mother is accustomed to the way she does things in her hometown, and she feels that she is an elder, and she should have the final say in some things. Xiao Min feels that this is our own little family, and she should have more decision-making power. For example, my mother always likes to start cleaning early in the morning, and the house is tinkling, and Xiaomin feels that it is too noisy and she can't sleep well. Once, she couldn't help but say to her mother, "Mom, can you wait for us to get up and then clean up?" "My mother was upset on the spot, feeling that she had worked hard to do housework and was disliked. As she cleaned up, she said angrily, "Who am I doing this for?" It's not all for this family! ”
My father was already in a hurry, and when he saw this, he also got angry: "You young people are squeamish, we suffered hardships at that time, who is as particular as you?" Xiao Min was so aggrieved that tears rolled in her eyes, but she couldn't bear to cry. I'm next to me, don't mention it in my heart, I don't know how to calm this turmoil at home.
In such a situation, my relationship with Xiaomin was also affected. She felt that I was not on her side, and always left her alone to face these contradictions. As for me, I feel that both sides are relatives, and no one wants to hurt anyone. We talk less and less, and it becomes harder and harder to communicate. Every time I get home, the atmosphere is dreary, as if the air is full of tension and depression.
Watching the conflict between my parents and Xiaomin continue to get worse, I feel uncomfortable. I wondered, how long will it be like this? How can we resolve these conflicts and make our home harmonious and warm again? You can guess what will happen next, and you are welcome to leave a message to tell us what you think.
Contradiction erupts: the moment the coffee table is kicked over
That night, I was so tired that I worked overtime for several days in a row, and it was almost twelve o'clock when I got home. I dragged myself through the door, trying to find a place to sleep, but when I saw the scene in front of me, I immediately became angry.
Xiao Min was coaxing Xiaobei, who was crying non-stop, and was busy cleaning up the house, looking tired and helpless. My parents were watching TV and chatting on the couch, as if all the mess at home had nothing to do with them. It pierced my heart like a needle.
"Can't you just help?" I couldn't help but shout, my voice full of irrepressible anger. My mother didn't even look up and said, "We just finished our work, why don't we rest now?" "That made me blow up.
"Work? What you mean by working is to feed Becky fat, and then lie on the couch and watch TV? "I couldn't bear it anymore and kicked the coffee table over. The teacups and dishes on the coffee table were shattered to the ground, and the living room was in chaos.
Xiao Min screamed in fright and hid to the side with Xiaobei in her arms, while my mother looked at me dumbfounded. My dad stood up, his face dark: "What kind of attitude do you have?" We've worked so hard to help you, and you don't know what to do? ”
I've never been so angry, and I feel like the whole world is against me: "Help? What do you call help? You're here, and there are more conflicts at home! Xiao Min takes care of Xiaobei every day, and I have to listen to your nagging, we can't stand it anymore! ”
My dad was also angry and shouted, "Let's not do it!" Do it yourself! My mother said with tears in her eyes: "We worked thanklessly, we wouldn't have come if we had known!" ”
Xiao Min was beside him, tears flowing: "Stop arguing!" It's so noisy every day, when is it a head? Her voice was full of despair and exhaustion, and my heart ached.
I took a deep breath to calm down, but found that there was no way to do it. My parents' faces were still ugly, and Xiaomin's tears made me feel terrible. The atmosphere at home was tense like a string about to break.
I looked at Xiao Min helplessly, and I couldn't say the apology in my heart: "I'm sorry, Xiao Min, I ...... I'm just so tired. Xiao Min kept silent, lowered her head, and bit her lip vigorously to prevent herself from crying.
This conflict has us all pondered. I began to understand that the problem was not only the conflict between my parents and Xiaomin, but also my own failure to deal with the pressure and responsibilities at home. I can't hide anymore, I have to face this and figure it out.
That's just the beginning, though. In the days to come, how can we resolve these contradictions and make our home peaceful? How to find a balance between busy work and family? How to repair the relationship between Xiaomin and her parents? A bunch of puzzles are waiting to be solved.
Communication and understanding after calming down
The conflict that night made the atmosphere at home cold to the bottom, and it also made us clear that if we continued to make trouble like this, the conflict would only get bigger and bigger. Early the next morning, I discussed with Xiao Min to calm down first, and then find an opportunity to have a good chat.
At night, the child slept, and the four of us sat in the living room, and the atmosphere was still a little stiff. I opened my mouth first, trying to make my voice calmer: "Dad, Mom, Xiaomin, we had that fight last night, let me understand, we have to talk about it." Everyone has pressure and dissatisfaction, but we are a family, and we can't let these separate us. ”
Xiao Min nodded, his eyes full of tiredness and helplessness: "I am also tired enough these days, I have to take care of Xiaobei every day, and I have to deal with a bunch of housework." Mom and Dad, you came, I thought I could relax, but I ended up getting even more tired. You are kind, but your living habits and methods of educating your children are different, and I am under a lot of pressure. ”
The mother sighed and said, "We really want to help, maybe it's not the right way." You young people have your own ideas, and sometimes we can't keep up with them, and we don't know how to do it. ”
The father also softened his tone: "Wang Qiang, Xiaomin, we also know that you are working hard. It's just that we're old and can't do a lot of things. We are willing to change, as long as you mention it, we will definitely do our best. ”
These words made me feel a lot more relieved. I went on to say, "We have to find a balance and share the responsibilities together." Mom and Dad, you can help take care of Becky, but you have to respect the way we teach the children. Xiao Min and I also do more housework to keep you from working too hard. ”
Xiao Min also nodded in agreement: "Yes, let's divide labor and cooperate, so that everyone can be more relaxed." ”
Our parents looked at us with understanding. The mother said, "Okay, listen to your arrangement, and we will try our best to cooperate." ”
Although this exchange was not long, everyone told their hearts about their unhappiness and pressure. Speaking so openly and honestly made us all feel understood and cared for each other. Although the problem cannot be solved all at once, at least we have found a direction to work together.
Thinking after this conflict made me realize how important it is for my family to communicate well with each other. Only by understanding and supporting each other can we truly deal with problems well and find a balance in life. In the future, we will work together to solve the problems of the future.
As the atmosphere at home gradually improved, our days began to normalize. Next, how can we regain the balance of our home and create a warm and harmonious home together? What changes will the new way of life bring? Welcome everyone to continue to pay attention, take a look at the growth and changes of this home, and welcome everyone to leave a message to share their views. #情感 ##长文创作激励计划#
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