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A person's departure will not be for no reason, let alone improvised, but has been planned for a long time. So, when a relationship is about to end, there are always some "signs".
Especially in the relationship between lovers outside of marriage, if you don't love it, then you don't want to be entangled anymore, and you will try everything you can to get out, and no one wants to be responsible.
The man in the "lover" relationship, once he feels that the woman has no freshness and loses interest, then he will think about how to get rid of the woman, and will not have any attachment to the woman, which is very ruthless.
The woman in the "lover" relationship, once the goal is achieved, after weighing the pros and cons, will never be entangled, and just wants to leave as soon as possible.
After all, most of the lovers in extramarital affairs take what they need, and there is very little true love, and the seemingly romantic love is actually combined under the guise of love, coveting the dewy joy of the moment.
If both of them have their own goals and false feelings, the relationship will not last long, but if there is any trouble, they will definitely cut off contact.
In the final analysis, between "lovers", there are the following three performances, and they are basically over.
First, began to disconnect and left quietly
There is such a sentence: "The state of a lover's breakup is not a quarrel, but you understand what I mean, I understand your desire to stop talking, and end the relationship quietly." ”
Between lovers, if there is a sudden loss of contact and a disconnection, it means that the relationship between the two is about to come to an end.
At the beginning, both of them had a strong sense of freshness and always wanted to get tired of being together, but as time passed, the relationship between the two gradually faded.
When intimacy occurs, the interest of both parties will obviously wane, and once the novelty is gone, and maybe even a little bored, they will deliberately distance themselves and reduce contact until one day they will completely break contact.
In fact, the two of them knew it, but they didn't make it clear, forming a tacit understanding, no one would ask, and with the disconnection, the relationship between the two lovers ended.
When Miss Wang was married for five years, she couldn't control her emotions and had an affair with a married male colleague in the company.
At the beginning, they got along very sweetly, and the two have been together for three years, and they feel very tired and tired of each other. Because of running between the family and the lover, I worry about the exposure of the relationship all day long, which will affect the family.
Miss Wang, who was suffering, took the initiative to cut off contact with her male colleague and forced herself to stop thinking about him.
Even if a male colleague sent a message, she wouldn't reply, and she deleted it without even looking at it.
In this way, slowly the male colleague also understood what she meant, so he stopped contacting her, and the two began to cut off contact, and the relationship ended from then on.
It can be seen that between the "lovers", as long as the two begin to break contact, they will basically be finished. After being disconnected for a long time, both parties no longer have expectations, then the relationship will naturally collapse, and the breakup will eventually end.
2. Rejection of intimate behavior and cold relationships
In a relationship, intimacy is an important way of emotional communication between couples. And the maintenance of the lover relationship outside of marriage also depends on the intimacy between the man and the woman.
After all, extramarital affairs are an instinctive reaction, and the men and women in the extramarital affair are nothing more than coveting short-term romance and pleasure.
The man is just a woman's body, while the woman is eager for love and emotional comfort, and the two hit it off, have an intimate relationship, and enter into an extramarital affair.
When the novelty is still there, the two will always want to be tired of being together and crave more intimate behavior, so as to solve the need for emotional desire.
However, once both parties lose faith in this shady relationship and get tired of it, then the relationship will become more and more cold.
When two people are together, they begin to refuse intimacy, no longer expect each other's love and companionship, and lose interest in physical contact, then the relationship is about to end.
For example, when two people meet together, they no longer crave intimate actions such as holding hands, hugging, and kissing as they did at the beginning, but rejection, which is a sign that the lover's relationship is coming to an end.
Therefore, between "lovers", the refusal of intimacy and the cold relationship indicate that the foundation of the extramarital affair has been shaken, and the breakup is the inevitable result.
When Miss Chen was married for six years, she fell in love with a married man, and after the two had been together for a year, the man became cold to her.
At first, Ms. Chen thought that the man was busy with work, so she kept waiting.
Later, I couldn't help but go directly to him, not only did he not even have a word of concern, but he didn't even have a hug, he was very indifferent.
Miss Chen took the initiative to hug him and wanted to kiss him, but he pushed her away, saying impatiently that he was busy with work, tired, and uninterested.
Since then, the man has not looked for her again, and it is only then that she understands that her relationship with the man has ended.
It can be seen that once the "lovers" refuse to be intimate and have no emotional desire, then they will basically be destined.
3. Don't want to pay, calculate each other
In an extramarital affair, when both parties are sincere, they will not account for so much and will take the initiative to pay for each other.
However, after a long time, the feelings are contaminated with the trivialities of real life, then the two parties will become calculating each other and don't want to pay anymore.
Or, when the two of them are together to take what they need, they don't have a sincere delivery at all, and when they find that they can no longer get the expected value in each other, then they don't want to pay anymore, and no one wants to suffer.
At this time, the man does not want to give anymore and wants to get the woman for free, while the woman wants to get more money and material goods.
When both parties feel that they have suffered and paid, but they cannot get what they want, the relationship will naturally crack and collapse.
After giving birth, Miss Liu returned to the workplace, and at this time she happened to enter the senior's company, and the senior coveted her beauty for a long time, so he began to pursue her.
At work, he provides convenience to help Miss Liu everywhere, and also cares for Miss Liu in life. The two often eat together, go shopping and buy things, and he pays for all the consumption.
Whether it is clothing, cosmetics, jewelry or high-end bags, as long as Miss Liu likes it, he is willing to buy it for her, and he is very affectionate.
Therefore, in less than two months, he successfully turned Miss Liu into his lover, and the two began a sweet and romantic extramarital affair.
However, the good times didn't last long, and the two were together for less than half a year, and Miss Liu found that he was gradually getting better, not only becoming more and more calculating, no longer spending money for her, but also no longer caring and taking care of her.
Miss Liu took the initiative to ask him, but he not only ignored her, but also said directly: "Everyone is an adult, just playing, don't take it seriously!" ”
At this time, Miss Liu realized that he was just playing, and his feelings were particularly false, so she resigned decisively and broke up.
It can be seen that once the "lovers" do not want to pay and calculate each other, then they will basically end their fate.
Emotional Message:
In extramarital affairs, between lovers, with these 3 manifestations, it is basically coming to an end.
began to disconnect and leave quietly; rejection of intimacy, cold relationships; Don't want to pay, calculate each other.
It can be seen that there is no future for lovers outside of marriage, once both parties get along for a long time, lose their freshness and interest, then the relationship will come to an end.
After all, extramarital affairs are mostly not true love, and it is difficult for both parties to choose to give up their original marriage for the sake of their lover.
Moreover, when the two come together, they are just greedy for temporary freshness and pleasure, once they lose interest, they will not be entangled, and they will definitely try their best to get out, which is particularly ruthless.
Therefore, men and women in reality must refuse extramarital affairs, which is not true love, but just an emotional game of dewy joy.
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