"The gold bracelet for my mother was given to my brother and daughter-in-law by my mother" is on the hot search: When a person can't understand others from the bottom

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2024-07-30 18:35Published in Fujian

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Seeing a hot post, I couldn't help but feel the loneliness and chill of the subject between the words.

In the subject's previous small talk with his mother, he learned that his mother was very envious of the people around her who had a gold bracelet and wanted one herself.

So, the subject went home and discussed with her husband to buy one for her mother on Mother's Day.

On the day she received the gift, the subject's mother naturally closed her mouth happily.

But to the surprise of the question, only a few months later, when the subject went home to visit his mother again, he found that the gold bracelet he gave his mother had already been worn on the hands of his brother and daughter-in-law.

At that moment, the subject's heart was mixed, with doubts, losses, and even more chills.

Seeing that his mother did not take the initiative to mention the matter, the subject pressed the matter in his heart.

Although the subject's husband comforted him many times, the subject could always feel the discomfort in his heart.

After the post was exposed, the comment area was full of sighs.

Netizens don't understand why as a mother, she is willing to give her daughter's expensive gift to others. Didn't this mother think about her daughter's feelings at all?

Girard, the guru of communication, once said:

"The atmosphere is only harmonious when you think that other people's feelings are as important as your own".

In the same way, for others, only by keeping your feelings in mind can you get along with each other happily.

It's a pity that there are always people who ignore the feelings of others, so they can only push the people around them away little by little.

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Netizens officially received the admission notice from Peking University some time ago, and they couldn't hold back the excitement in their hearts, so they dialed the family video as soon as possible, and couldn't wait to share the joy.

On the other end of the phone, netizens excitedly expressed their joy, but on the other end of the phone, the netizen's mother interrupted her carelessly:

"You've finished the test, you have to find a boyfriend."

The netizen sister who was on each other's side noticed the subtle change in the netizen's expression, and hurriedly jokingly said that there was no need to worry, and she could work hard to go abroad to see the world.

I didn't think that my mother sank her face on the spot:

"Is this a book to read for a lifetime?"

Seeing this, netizens didn't want to continue chatting with their mother's words, so they hurriedly changed the topic, but the netizen's mother said to herself:

"I have already told others, and I will rely on you for retirement in the future."

After listening to these words of my mother, the mood of netizens instantly fell to the bottom, and the ecstasy of receiving the notice disappeared with it.

It was a kind of breathless discomfort, and the joy of being admitted to Peking University was constantly pushed to a corner of my heart between my mother's words, which became smaller and smaller, almost disappearing.

After the post was exposed, too many netizens empathized with the subject's experience.

But it's a pity that the most important mother in the subject's life can't see the subject's heart.

Zhihu netizen Alice summarized the common characteristics of this type of parents:

"Share happiness with them, and happiness will disappear;

Confide in them your troubles, and they will be doubled. ”

In just two lines, it makes people sad and helpless.

is obviously the person he cares about the most, but he says stinging words.

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Seen such a story.

The wife is stir-frying in the kitchen. Her husband kept nagging beside her: "Slow down, be careful! The fire is too big. Hurry up and turn the fish over, there is too much oil! ”

Seeing this, his wife blurted out: "I know how to stir-fry, I don't need you to point fingers." ”

The husband calmly replied, "I just want you to know how I feel when I'm driving and you're chattering next to me......"

If you can see the other person's feelings as important as yours, and when you feel that it is upset that someone is chattering in your ear, you will not babble in the ear of others.

If you can't see the other person's feelings as important as yours, it's hard for you to empathize.

At the end of the day, when communicating with people, you first have to learn to control your emotions, then let go of your thoughts and put yourself in the shoes of others. Only by doing this will you be able to feel the other person's feelings and understand the other person's difficulties.

I remember a saying that is excellent: "The so-called accident, if you look at it from another perspective, may be the story." ”

One more word of appreciation, one less word of reproach; More transposition, less self-righteousness.

When you focus only on yourself, it's hard to see what others want in their hearts. Only by changing the angle can you discover a different story.

You must know that high emotional value is always the best nutrient for interpersonal communication.

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