The state of children today is actually completely different from when their parents were young.
People are generally more self-conscious, and they are not willing to wronged themselves. And then the economic material conditions, too, are better.
However, sometimes, if the personality is too strong, it will lead to a wall everywhere after entering the marriage, and the two parties will have frequent conflicts.
Therefore, as a parent, you need to tell your children: in marriage, you need to understand the law of crows.
That is, don't blame the other person forever, but change yourself appropriately to adapt to the marriage.
In this way, the marriage can be smoother.
01 Whether the other party is willing to accept the law of the crow
In reality, if children want to enter into marriage, the first thing is to choose an object that knows how to tolerate, rather than a stubborn object.
In reality, some objects are very confident and even arrogant.
When he encounters any conflict or contradiction, he will not give in, let alone reflect on himself.
It is very sinful to marry such a person.
For example, some young couples, when they get along, encounter discord. In fact, it would be good to make each one step aside.
Or just find out where the cause is and correct it.
But the problem is that some people themselves never correct it. Blame all the problems on the other side. Let the other person suffer.
Obviously, this kind of person is not suitable as a marriage partner.
In marriage, both partners need to give, and sometimes even compromise.
There is no way to be happy if you compromise unilaterally.
Therefore, when falling in love, we must let our children carefully examine this point.
02 Whether the other party's family understands the law of crows
When children talk about marriage, they also have to examine each other's family members, do they understand the law of crows? Do you know how to make appropriate changes?
Because some family members don't know how to tolerate and adjust themselves at all.
Instead, use a lot of rules to bind each other.
This kind of family will be especially painful after marriage.
For example, in some families, it is very difficult for the elders to communicate and always have to restrain each other.
No matter how trivial and trivial, you have to abide by the rules of his family, which is very disrespectful.
This kind of marriage, even if it is concluded, will be very uncomfortable.
Parents are strong and lack tolerance.
In reality, the attitude of the elderly is also very important.
Old people who don't know how to be easy-going and tolerant will be very uncomfortable after getting married.
03 Whether your children are willing to change
In reality, when talking about marriage, whether your children are willing to change and how much they are willing to change. This is also very important.
Everyone, there are things that can be tolerated. There are also things that cannot be tolerated. It's a personal bottom line that is different.
It's important to think about this.
Don't regret getting married.
For example, can their children tolerate their objects, those sloppy living habits?
Can you tolerate those vulgar hobbies? Or a circle of friends?
Can the other person's personality and past experiences be accommodating?
If you keep forcing yourself to endure instead of accepting it, it will be very uncomfortable.
Tolerance is not for children to be unconditionally tolerant, that would be too aggrieved.
People can have requirements. Even in marriage, there can be requirements.
But people must understand what they can tolerate and what they can't.
This is crucial.
Marriage is by no means the same as falling in love, as long as you like it.
Marriage is when two people live together for a long time, and there will be a lot of small frictions. Therefore, in the matter of tolerance, it is difficult for people who are not transparent to manage their marriage well.