I searched a lot of online platforms and found that there were really not many mothers who gave their daughters a room for marriage.
Why doesn't the girl's family leave her a room after she gets married?
For girls, it is a childhood home, a place that will never be forgotten, going out, marrying a wife, and the dreams in their hearts are all memories of childhood, but for many married girls, the original home is no longer home, you are a guest, once really just once.
I'm like that, to tell everyone, my mother's house has built a two-story house, and I don't have my room or bed when I go back, and I feel very uncomfortable doing anything at home, including sleeping.
In fact, many female friends are like me.
Netizen @炘淾 said, I don't care if there is my room, what I care about is their attitude, and I can't stand the feeling that you are a guest after really getting married.
I scolded me for not bringing milk to my grandparents once I went back, I was thinking that I used to be like this and went home directly without saying anything to go back, and now I imply that I can't go back empty-handed, which makes me feel that it is not my mother's house, it is my brother-in-law's house, my brother-in-law's house.
Netizen @Qingjiujiu said that my grandmother has always emphasized to my dad that he is just a daughter and not a son, so he doesn't have to be so tired to buy me a house.
At that moment, I suddenly realized a problem, if I am not an only child, if I have a brother, then if I get married and have a conflict with my in-laws or divorce or something, I may not even have a place to go.
At that moment, I realized that the word "patriarchy" has not gone away, it is deeply engraved in the bones of the Chinese people.
Netizen @妍 said that my family is a self-built house, and for a few years, I don't even have a wardrobe, and the thick clothes are basically placed in the cabinet in my mother and sister's room, and their tin cabinet is also full.
I often say that I will get married sooner or later, it is useless to buy it, and I am not at home often, I just want to put clothes at home, and I don't have to pile them on the bench or in my suitcase every time I come back.
Some people say that there is no need to be so hypocritical, if there are brothers and sisters-in-law in the mother's family, the parents forcibly leave a room for their daughter, which is too disturbing to the normal life of others.
In fact, different people have different choices, and not all girls do not have a room in their parents' house after marriage, and some parents will always leave a warm room for their married daughter.
Netizen @lotus豆豆 said that I have been married for five or six years, and the room left for me by my mother's family is still the same as when I was in high school.
This made many netizens envious, netizens said that in real life, they have almost never seen anyone married and a room, most people get married, although the room at home is empty, but there is no room of their own, unless it is an only child, there is an older brother or younger brother, and if they marry out, they are relatives.
No wonder it is said: "The daughter who marries out spills the water", in the hearts of the older generation, parents seem to prefer their sons more and do not care so much for their daughters.
From the question of leaving a room for my daughter, another thing can be extended, my mother's house is demolished, can the married daughter share the demolition money?
Netizen @ exam is always the first to say, the family is demolished but not happy, why, because there is no part of me, there are four children and three daughters in the family, and the younger brother has bought a house of 2 million before he gets married, and the remaining three daughters are not married, but the house that was demolished warns us not to be delusional.
I have to pay one-third of my salary every month, and I want us to provide for the elderly in the future, but I don't think about us even though I have money, and I feel hurt when I think about it.
Netizen @ Please call me Her Royal Highness the princess said that her mother's house was demolished, and her father and brother received more than 5 million yuan in compensation for the demolition, and after the father got the money, he transferred 100,000 yuan to our two daughters respectively, and kept 1 million for himself, and the rest was given to his brother.
Many people say that daughters can sue their father and brother in this situation, and I won't sue them, but I will keep them in mind and stay away from such relatives in the future.
Why do most parents give their property to their sons?
For now, most parents will leave all their property to their sons, in fact, it is not necessarily the son, but the one who stays with the parents to pass on the lineage.
I have a relative, two daughters in the family, a self-built house in the countryside, farmland and more than 500,000 deposits, my sister is married, not married, the kind of two cares, the family property is my sister's, my parents are still working, and the income is also to contribute to my sister's family, my sister married out, gave 10 tens of thousands of dowry to her parents, and there is no dowry.
Some people say that this kind of distribution is reasonable, and I feel that there is nothing wrong with it, because when the time comes to take care of the parents, the one who marries out will be busy, so don't stand up when fighting for the family property.
However, the reality is that there are many cases where there are three children in the family, a boy and two girls, and the only house is left to the younger brother, but the cost of supporting the parents is divided equally among the three sisters.
Netizen @一一Moo said, my mother said that the child born by her son is her own, and the girl is an outsider, saying that the girl I gave birth to has nothing to do with my mother's half a dime.
When I got married, my family had an idle house, and my father told me, not for you to marry, if you want to give me 200,000, I will give you a house, you can't transfer the house, you can only live, I have the final say when I live, I want you to live, just live, don't want you to live and leave, in the end I didn't want it.
Therefore, in the hearts of the older generation, her daughter is an outsider when she gets married, and she doesn't need to leave her another room, and her property is not her share.
Summary at the end of the article:
In fact, to put it mildly, it is a human touch, and the vacant room is not to be occupied, but perhaps it is just a measure of how deeply our parents love us.
This lets us know that no matter how far away, no matter when, there is always a place for us in this world.
For example, people know that they are warm and cold when they drink water, as ordinary people, we are just seeking a little warmth in ordinary life, and it is not hypocrisy.
So, if you can, it's okay to leave a room for your daughter, what do you think?