disputes between relatives,
It is often the "law knot" and the "heart knot" that depend on each other.
Sometimes, the conflict of interests is the appearance,
The hidden emotional conflict is the crux of the problem.
Recently, the Xiangzhou Court resolved
A case of a dispute over a gift contract between a mother and daughter.
The daughter blocked her mother's WeChat,
But the mother complained that her daughter went to court,
Let her return the more than 20 yuan she gave before.
What's going on?
Let's take a look↓
After being blocked by her daughter
The mother sued for repayment of 212,000 yuan
It all started six years ago. In 2018, Aunt Zhang's daughter Ami borrowed money from others for personal reasons, but she has been unable to repay it. After Aunt Zhang learned of this, she decisively paid off the debt owed by Ami, and said that this amount was a gift to Ami to fulfill her maintenance obligations in the future.
Six years have passed in the blink of an eye. Although Aunt Zhang helped her at the beginning and devoted herself to her daughter on weekdays, the relationship between the two was not harmonious. They often quarrel constantly, and they are tense at every turn. As the relationship deteriorated, Ami has been away from home for many days, and even blocked Aunt Zhang's WeChat. Aunt Zhang thought that Ami's behavior had broken her heart, so she sued Ami to the court, demanding that Ami return the 212,000 yuan she had gifted.
The relationship has come this far
Both mother and daughter are very aggrieved
After receiving the complaint, the Xiangzhou Court transferred the case to the pre-litigation mediation procedure, taking into account the particularity of the relationship between the parties. The mediator immediately contacted the mother and daughter after receiving the case. After several rounds of back-to-back communication, the mediator found that although the case was the revocation of the gift contract between the mother and daughter, there was actually another hidden story behind the case.
Ami said that she didn't love her mother, nor did she deliberately avoid and block WeChat, but because her mother's long-term excessive control and repressive education made her feel suffocated, which caused resistance. From childhood to adulthood, even if it is a little thing in life, my mother has to ask about everything in detail. also due to her mother's excessive interference, her first marriage ended in failure. Even though she is now over 40 years old and remarried, her mother still interferes in her life by disciplining her children, which puts her under great pressure on her spirit and life, and the friction between the two is increasing. Ami couldn't help but cry as she told about the past.
Aunt Zhang said frankly that since she separated from her husband, she has focused her life on her daughter and has paid a lot for her daughter's growth. Including the more than 200,000 yuan that her daughter borrowed abroad, she also helped pay it back without saying a word. This prosecution does not really want her daughter to pay back the money, but just hopes to take this opportunity to see her and let her go home more. Aunt Zhang wiped her tears and poured out her grievances. She didn't understand, everything she did was for her daughter's good, why did she push her daughter farther and farther?
The mediation was successful and successfully resolved
After understanding the inner thoughts of the parties, the mediator believed that the crux of the conflict between the two was not the money itself, but the bad relationship caused by the wrong communication and getting along for a long time, so he applied to the court for psychological counseling for both parties, in order to truly eliminate the estrangement and resolve the conflict.
Under the arrangement of the Xiangzhou Court, psychological experts successively conducted psychological counseling for the two. After a series of emotional catharsis, in-depth communication and professional guidance, Aunt Zhang re-examined her communication and discipline methods, and understood that she should no longer over-control and lecture her daughter, but directly express her concern. Ami also realized the damage caused to her mother by her excesses, and began to try to understand her mother's good intentions, and promised to visit her mother often in the future, giving more care and attention.
In the end, under the guidance of psychological experts and mediators, Aunt Zhang and Ami met smoothly. Under the careful guidance of psychological experts, the two gradually opened their hearts and complained to each other, and the depression accumulated for many years was relieved, and the gloom on their faces finally dissipated. The next day, Aunt Zhang withdrew the lawsuit to the court, and Ami also expressed her sincere gratitude on WeChat, and the case was successfully resolved before the lawsuit.
Screenshot of Ami's chat with the mediator
Zhuhai Media Group, Shi Zhanhua, correspondents, Yao Yao, Liang Jueyuan/text
Image source: Xiangzhou Court
Hu Jieting/Editor-in-Charge
Yang Ziwei Zhao Qingying (intern) / Editor