In the early morning of April 26, 2014, Ge Yifeng was still asleep in his dream, but was awakened by the noise of his mother-in-law.
After he got married, similar scenes continued to recur in his life. After all, he is a son-in-law, and his identity is not recognized by the public. It's a bit frustrating, but it's also unavoidable.
After quietly listening to his mother-in-law's rebuke, Ge Feng sent a short text message to his wife, who had not returned at night: "When will you be able to go home?" Your mom just got angry at me again. Can we find a time to talk? This reduces repetition with the original text, while maintaining the original meaning, using colloquial language, and being concise and clear.
Ge Yifeng originally planned to have an in-depth communication with his wife, but only a few hours later, he committed a heinous act of killing his wife. This is shocking and incomprehensible. Ge Yifeng also promised to have a good talk with his wife in the morning, but soon his behavior became cruel and unbelievable. This transformation raises questions as to why he went down the path of crime so quickly.
Why was he cruel to his wife? What is his mother-in-law's dissatisfaction with this son-in-law?
The marriage lasted only a little more than two months, was it genuine or just a flippant joke? In short, was this short-lived marriage a show of truth or a momentary game?
[Willing to be a son-in-law, but after getting married, he was constantly abused]
At the end of 2013, Ge Yifeng returned to his hometown in Anhui Province after working hard in a different place for a year. When he came back this time, he brought good news to tell his parents - he and his girlfriend Chen Qiao were planning to get married. The good news filled the whole family with joy.
Ge Yifeng was born in the 1990s, and at his age, it is neither too early nor too late to talk about marriage. If you really meet your favorite partner, then starting a family first is also a good choice.
Therefore, the parents of the Ge family were in a very happy mood after learning the news. They asked about the woman's family background, character and personality traits, and expressed their dissatisfaction with why their son did not take her home for them to see. They want to get to know the lady more deeply so that they can better evaluate the relationship.
Ge Yifeng looked at his parents' happy expressions, and he simply summarized it in a few words: "That person is very good, he is a fellow countryman like us, but his family conditions are slightly better than ours. He didn't say much, just expressed the general situation in the most direct language.
Because the Ge family has been farmers for generations, their education level is not high, and their skills are limited, so their family situation is relatively ordinary. When they heard that Chen Qiao's family was well-off, the Ge family's parents couldn't help but start worrying.
They were worried about the Chen family's attitude, fearing that they would feel that their son would not be accepted. At the same time, they are also worried that the young couple may quarrel over this matter in their married life. This anxiety makes them very scared and nervous. In short, their hearts are uneasy.
Ge Yifeng sensed his parents' doubts, so he tried his best to defend Chen Qiao, showing that she was not such a person. The Chen family's parents were indeed a little difficult to deal with, because they made two requests to Ge Yifeng.
"Mom and Dad, I have something I want to share with you. Regarding Qiaoqiao, she is the only child in the family, so her parents have relatively high requirements for the bride price. ”
Ge Yifeng made a gesture, and as soon as his words fell, after his parents saw his gesture, they felt a chill hit them and took a deep breath. The gesture came as a surprise to them. In re-explanation, Ge Yifeng compared an action, although the action itself may not have any special meaning, but the perception of the two elders is more sensitive, which makes them feel a deep alertness and uneasiness. The end result was that this simple action produced an unusual reaction in the family, and the parents reacted unusually and surprisingly. This action is the gesture made by Ge Yifeng. While the short gesture isn't obvious, the effect it has is significant.
The amount of the wedding money was too large for them to bear, and it seemed that it was beyond their means.
In an instant, Ge Yifeng's speech was like an electric current passing through their hearts: "I just listened to my mother-in-law's arrangement, I have to become a son-in-law, and this marriage has to be agreed, and I have already agreed to it." "It was like a thunderbolt on them.
The Chen family's parents were too demanding, not only asking for a high bride price, but also asking their son to pay for it, which was really unacceptable. The behavior of the Chen family's parents is too extreme, they not only ask for a high bride price, but also force their son to slam the door upside down, which is simply unfair! The Chen family's request is really incomprehensible, they not only ask for a bride price, but also ask their son to be a son-in-law, which is too domineering. The Chen family's parents are too strict with their son's marriage, demanding both a bride price and an upside down door, which is simply unacceptable. To put it simply, the Chen family's demands were too unreasonable, they not only demanded a high bride price, but also let their own son into the money, which was too overbearing to be recognized.
Is his daughter like a fairy who fell from the sky? Why are you so determined to fall in love with her? A good young man actually wants to be a son-in-law, where can I put my face with your mother?
Hey, son, their family's attitude is too tough. I absolutely can't accept you to join their family, and our family's economic conditions can't afford such a high bride price. It's unfair to us and we have to think about it.
When Ge Yifeng heard the two conditions put forward by the Chen family's parents, his parents resolutely disagreed and were very resolute. Therefore, they not only opposed this marriage, but also demanded that Ge Yifeng immediately cut off contact with Chen Qiao. The Ge family's parents were completely unacceptable to the Chen family's request, resolutely disagreed with their son's marriage to Chen Qiao, and forced Ge Yifeng to cut off all contact with her.
However, Ge Yifeng, who was caught in the whirlpool of love, did not listen to any advice. In his opinion, the huge bride price at that time will become a common wealth for him and his partner in the future, which will be used to support the family's various expenses.
For this issue, in fact, everyone will not pay too much attention to the term "door-to-door son-in-law". After all, what era is it now, everyone is very enlightened, what does it matter if the child's surname is born? The important thing is family harmony and happiness.
Ge Yifeng made his own decision and did not completely listen to his parents' opinions. Despite his family's opposition, he still insisted on marrying Chen Qiao.
However, in retrospect, this decision seems rash and blind. Because he did not have the approval and support of his parents, nor did he have a deep understanding of the Chen family's personality and habits, this led him to make an immature decision.
Marriage is different from falling in love, and you can't just rely on the impulse of the moment to maintain a long-lasting relationship. Falling in love may only require a momentary passion and impulse, but marriage requires strong faith and long-term hard work on both sides.
Ge Yifeng faced a problem, that is, because his parents did not prepare the bride price, he had to look around for ways to borrow. However, when people learned about him, many chose not to lend him money. As a result, he was struggling to raise the money he needed.
Don't you know what you're doing? Why bother to pretend to be arrogant. Moreover, who will take the initiative to be a door-to-door son-in-law?
After Ge Yifeng finally saved up enough for the bride price, the Chen family's parents finally set the wedding date. However, they still don't give much respect and enthusiasm to Ge Yifeng as a door-to-door son-in-law, especially Chen Qiao's mother. Chen Qiao and Ge Yifeng's marriage went through a lot of twists and turns before it was finally decided. Although the bride price money has been gathered, the attitude of the Chen family is still cold. Especially Chen Qiao's mother, she didn't have a very good impression of Ge Yifeng. Ge Yifeng put in a lot of effort to get married, and it finally paid off. However, the atmosphere between their family is still serious, especially in the Chen family's attitude towards Ge Yifeng.
Although Ge Yifeng was deeply involved in preparing for the wedding, he did not dwell too much on the details. He genuinely wants to spend the rest of his life with Chen Qiao, and is convinced that he will be able to achieve his ambitions in the future, so that his father-in-law and mother-in-law will be impressed by him.
On February 5, 2014, Ge Yifeng and Chen Qiao held their wedding, and both of them seemed very happy and excited. However, there was a little regret at the wedding, that is, the parents of the Ge family and some direct elders did not attend this grand ceremony.
Seeing this situation, the mother-in-law began to sneer again, and Chen Qiao's expression became very unpleasant. It was supposed to be a joyous wedding, but it was very embarrassing.
Ge Yifeng chose to remain silent at first, and he planned to wait for his parents to stabilize before persuading. But his mother-in-law kept chattering, which made him feel very embarrassed, and he couldn't hold his face a little.
Later, driven by alcohol, he had some arguments with his mother-in-law. The consequence of this quarrel has made the relationship between the two sides even more deadlocked, creating a rift.
After getting married, Ge Yifeng, as his son-in-law, moved to live in his wife's house. In this small, compact two-room house, there lived a family of four, and they almost always saw each other every day, whether they looked up or down.
The biggest pressure Ge Yifeng felt was not actually brought to him by the environment, but the contempt and insult of his parents-in-law, which made him very unbearable.
On the second day of his wedding, he was severely criticized by his mother-in-law for being perceived as lacking the ability and financial resources to match his wife. To put it simply, he's not good enough.
Ge Yifeng knew the arrogance of his parents-in-law, so he did not respond to them directly. However, he believes that everyone has become a family, and there is no need to be at a stalemate all the time. So as a family, shouldn't we forgive each other's mistakes? Isn't mutual understanding and tolerance the way we maintain harmonious relationships? Isn't that a real family? So, he chose tolerance and understanding.
Unfortunately, Ge Yifeng's opinion was wrong. His marriage with Chen Qiao was not only opposed by the man's family, but also resolutely disagreed with the woman's family.
The two requests he made at the beginning were actually just to create some trouble for him.
Because this kind of slander and accusation will gradually become a norm, constantly happening in this family, especially for Ge Yifeng, their voices always surround his ears. This is not uncommon in this family of four.
How did Ge Yifeng and Chen Qiao get married? In this marriage, did Chen Qiao sincerely invest in his feelings? How did the two of them come together? Is Chen Qiao really committed in this relationship? These two questions have been haunting people's minds for a long time. What was the experience of Ge Yifeng and Chen Qiao's encounter? In their marriage, did Chen Qiao sincerely give her heart? We all want to know the answer. So, how did Ge Yifeng and Chen Qiao get married? In this marriage, does Chen Qiao treat each other sincerely? These are questions worth exploring. How was the relationship between Ge Yifeng and Chen Qiao born? In their married life, does Chen Qiao treat this relationship sincerely? We are all concerned about this. How did Ge Yifeng and Chen Qiao come together? In their marriage, did Chen Qiao give her love sincerely? Let's find out.
[Being bullied alone, love at first sight and chasing after it]
It is undeniable that in the early stages of a relationship, both parties are invested in sincere emotions.
But Ge Yifeng's emotional performance is more like the appearance of a person who is eager to love to go all out, while Chen Qiao's feelings are more like a filling and replacement after the emotional window period. There are different emotional manifestations and pursuits between the two.
Ge Yifeng, he came from a peasant family, although he only had a junior high school education, but when he was a teenager, he decided to go out into society independently and go to the world alone.
He doesn't have any relatives to support him, no strong social networks to help him, and no special skills to stand on his own. In the eyes of others, he is young and often bullied. He was isolated and in a difficult situation.
Therefore, the salary earned by Ge Yifeng in the first few years was not high, and he could barely maintain basic living expenses. The meagre income he earned only allowed him to barely make ends meet during those years, unable to have more savings or enjoy a better life. In his fledgling days, Ge Yifeng's salary was not much, only enough for daily expenses, and it was difficult to save more money.
He lives alone in a silent world, without any friends and no pastime for entertainment.
My phone conversations with my parents sometimes seemed incompatible, and our conversations often became difficult to continue. They always cared if I had found a stable job and if I was earning a good income. Although I understand their concern, sometimes I feel that the topic is a bit one-dimensional.
Ge Yifeng is a person with a strong personality, but he is unwilling to reveal the true situation to his parents, and always uses lies to prevaricate. However, this practice made him feel deeply depressed inside, because he could not find an outlet for his bitterness. The long period of repression made him feel very uncomfortable.
Later, he chose to go to Yantai to make a living, where the working environment was relatively stable. His salary is also quite stable every month, around 7,000 to 8,000 yuan.
In his memory, his parents always got along with each other in a respectful way. The relationship between them is more like a bond of affection and responsibility than a passionate love. The relationship between them, although not obvious, is consistent.
In modern society, this way of getting along with couples can weaken the warmth of the family. In addition, his parents are busy with life and work, resulting in little family attention and care that Ge Yifeng received during his growth. In short, this kind of environment is not conducive to Ge Yifeng's growth, making him feel that life is less warm and caring.
He lacked the nourishment of love in his youth, causing him to feel extremely empty and introverted as an adult. In his heart, he longed to get rid of the pattern of getting along with his parents since he was a child, hoping to find a partner who truly shared his heart and loved each other deeply to fill the emptiness in his heart.
At this particular moment, a girl named Chen Qiao came into his life. The appearance of this girl brought new changes to his world.
Compared with Ge Yifeng, Chen Qiao's growth environment is obviously different, and she seems to have grown up in the pampering of her family. She doesn't have a high degree of education, but with her cheerful personality, she still made a lot of friends. To put it simply, Chen Qiao is a person who is pampered by her family and has a cheerful personality, although she is not highly educated, she is very popular.
When he first met Chen Qiao, Ge Yifeng was attracted by her every move, and that impression was deeply left in his heart. She has a delicate appearance and a moving demeanor, which makes Ge Yifeng have an unforgettable emotion for Chen Qiao, which can be said to be in love at first sight.
Oops, it's a pity that Ge Yifeng didn't have time to enjoy his time with Chen Qiao, and suddenly found out that Chen Qiao actually had a boyfriend. And the man was not only more handsome than him, but also richer than him. It's a shame.
Ge Yifeng began to hesitate a little in comparison. However, once he has a strong belief in his heart, it is difficult to give up easily. He needs to muster the courage to overcome his inner struggles in order to make an informed choice.
Although he didn't know anything about Chen Qiao's personality, he had a strong liking for her, as if he was attracted to her. If he can't pursue her in an open way, he will choose to watch her silently in the dark. Although he didn't know her very well, he just had a special affection for her. Therefore, he chose a low-key approach, secretly following her without disturbing her life. He may not be too ostentatious in front of her, but he has always had her presence in his heart. This is his way of expressing his feelings for Chen Qiao, even if it is difficult to express his inner thoughts, he will never give up on her. At the same time, he decided to continue to observe, learn and respect her. For this helpless situation, he only hopes that one day he can express his heart to her frankly at a suitable time and in a suitable way.
After a long time together, their relationship is no longer a simple friendship. Ge Yifeng often finds various reasons to approach Chen Qiao when her real boyfriend is away. Their relationship has become very close.
Chen Qiao did not express any intention to reject such behavior. Chen Qiao did not explicitly oppose the above situation. Regarding the man's actions, Chen Qiao remained silent and did not directly express his opposition. Chen Qiao did not react to this refusal. Chen Qiao chose to accept this behavior and did not express any refusal or words.
She naturally accepted the other party's help, although she knew that Ge Yifeng's financial situation was not as rich as it seemed. Although she knew that Ge Yifeng's real income was not as good as he showed, she still accepted the other party's contribution with peace of mind. Although Ge Yifeng's wealth is not as it appears on the surface, she still accepts the other party's contribution calmly. She was grateful for the other party's efforts, even though she knew that Ge Yifeng's economic strength was not prominent. After knowing that Ge Yifeng's true financial situation was not luxurious, she still accepted the other party's assistance without reservation.
Therefore, in such a complex relationship, both of them seem to be willing to play their own roles, one takes the initiative like Zhou Yu, and the other accepts like Huang Gai. Both sides are willing, there are no clear boundaries and words.
After a while, Chen Qiao broke up with her boyfriend. Traumatized, she chose to find Ge Yifeng as her partner to confide her heart.
And Ge Yifeng seized the opportunity to seize the opportunity, he acted decisively, and the two of them finally came together naturally.
Therefore, in this relationship, the man is actively pursuing and reluctant to give up, while the woman just needs some comfort and faces it with an indifferent attitude. The man appears to be very persistent in the relationship, while the woman appears calmer. She wasn't desperate for anything, just hoping for some comfort and a moment of tranquility. The man is chasing his love with all his might, wanting to achieve his goal. The difference in emotional attitudes between the two parties is a clear feature of this relationship.
From beginning to end, the gap in status between Ge Yifeng and Chen Qiao is obvious. Ge Yifeng's situation was not equal to Chen Qiao's from the beginning. Their starting point is not on the same level. To put it simply, Ge Yifeng and Chen Qiao's starting positions are not equal.
In the subsequent exchanges, the imperfections of both parties soon became apparent.
Ge Yifeng's consumption concept is relatively conservative and he is not able to withstand frequent and high consumption; In contrast, Chen Qiao is more profligate, always seeking immediate pleasure and enjoyment, but unfortunately, she does not take into account that Ge Yifeng's economic strength is not enough to support this consumption style. In short, Chen Qiao spends money more casually and likes to enjoy the moment; However, Ge Yifeng's economic foundation is not strong enough to bear frequent and high expenditures. The two have different consumption concepts, and they need to communicate and coordinate on reasonable consumption.
Chen Qiao's cheerful and generous personality does exist, but she is also very strong and straightforward. For people like Ge Yifeng, who have an inferiority complex and lack the ability to adapt, Chen Qiao often puts forward sarcastic words bluntly. In the relationship between the two, this is an unavoidable reality. Specifically, when encountering Ge Yifeng, who has a very different personality, Chen Qiao often responds with sarcastic words without hindering. In terms of interpersonal relationships, although she can understand the inconvenience and helplessness of introverted people, to a certain extent, she will still show provocation to Ge Yifeng, who is not good at socializing. It's a true portrayal that can't be ignored. Although people can see her dual personality - extroverted and arrogant, there is also some arrogance, more people need to understand and accept her true face. Although it doesn't quite match the flattering appearance that the public expects, this is her indelible side. is different from the imagination of the outside world, when facing the difficult Ge Yifeng, she will indeed use more bitter language to express herself. However, in any case, it is sometimes difficult to reach a coordination and tacit understanding between Chen Qiao and Ge Yifeng because of each other's personalities.
At the moment when friends get together, Ge Yifeng chooses not to participate most of the time. One of the reasons was that he didn't like this kind of social occasion, and the other reason was that Chen Qiao felt that if he went, she would feel embarrassed and that it was not decent to take him out. This may be the difference between the two people's different styles and life choices. So in the moments of daily gatherings, his figure is always less frequent. In the same way, whenever he heard information about their meetings, he mostly ignored them. It is also an expression that is independent of the emotions of one's own choice. In addition, in the eyes of those around you, this special situation may also be related to personal social habits. In short, Ge Yifeng does not often appear at friends gatherings, and there are many reasons behind this.
Since there are many contradictions between the two, why not try to break up peacefully and end it in a way that respects and understands each other? In order to keep the text close to the original text and not exceeding, you can express the same meaning in the following short way: Why can't they agree and part amicably in the face of so many differences?
Ge Yifeng has always had expectations for Chen Qiaoxin, thinking that she is just temporarily incomprehensible, and believes that she will understand the difficulties of the family after marriage. To put it simply, Ge Yifeng felt that Chen Qiaoxin could still be saved, and he believed that after getting married, she would gradually understand the responsibilities and hardships of the family. He did not give up his expectations and fantasies about her.
And Chen Qiao has adapted to Ge Yifeng's dedication, with such a boyfriend who takes good care of spending money and doesn't ask others much about things, her life has not changed much. Such a relationship has become natural to her.
When the Chen family's parents learned that their daughter had a boyfriend, they felt very reluctant in their hearts. They felt that the boyfriend was not the ideal person for them.
Judging from Chen Qiao's previous love experience, her previous boyfriends seem to be inferior to the current Ge Yifeng. Such a contrast is obvious, and people can't help but sigh that one is really not as good as the other. Thinking back to Chen Qiao's past boyfriends, in comparison, Ge Yifeng is obviously better. The difference is so obvious that one can't help but feel that every step of the way counts. In short, it can be seen from Chen Qiao's love journey that every choice is different, and Ge Yifeng is undoubtedly the most outstanding one among them.
As far as the family situation is concerned, although it is not extremely wealthy, considering my daughter's conditions, she should not choose this, right? Simplified version: Although my family's conditions are not particularly superior, I don't think my daughter needs to look for such a thing, right?
The family were simple farmers, living in poverty, and they couldn't even come up with the money for a down payment to buy a house. They are ordinary-looking, introverted, and not good at words.
Mother Chen looked at Ge Yifeng, she couldn't help but feel a little disappointed and dissatisfied with her daughter, she shook her head helplessly and said, "Look at you, why is the object of choice so inappropriate, but you chose such a person." If you really marry him, I'm afraid the future will be miserable. In short, Chen's mother felt that her daughter's choice was not ideal, and warned that she might encounter difficulties in the future.
No matter how his parents objected, Chen Qiao still did not propose a decision to break up. In order to win the approval of his father-in-law and mother-in-law, Ge Yifeng constantly showed humility and obedience in front of them.
However, Ge Yifeng's concession did not return respect, but was further despised for it. In order to humiliate Ge Yifeng, the Chen family put forward extremely harsh conditions, including a high bride price and a requirement for him to become a son-in-law. Such a move only deepened Ge Yifeng's predicament.
[The family moved to Beijing, and the contradiction intensified]
In the face of all kinds of humiliation, Ge Yifeng bravely endured it. Deep down, he desperately longs for warmth and love, so he longs to have a little family of his own.
However, the joy of the newlywed is shattered by a harsh reality on the first day. Their small home became crowded, with the four of them in the same room, and the tension was so tense that it seemed to explode at any moment. In this family, Ge Yifeng seems to live at the bottom and is under heavy pressure.
Not only was he often verbally abused by his parents-in-law, but his family was also implicated. He often hears accusations such as "the toad wants to fly on the branches" and "the waste is incompetent". In short, he was devastated and humiliated.
Ge Yifeng was in an environment that made him feel suffocated, and he felt that his spirit was about to be overwhelmed. Therefore, he longed to return to Yantai to work immediately, so that he and his wife could live their own lives without being distracted by the outside world. That way, they can close their doors and live the life they want.
Originally, Chen Qiao agreed to the plan, and at first it seemed that everything was going well. But after a few days, she suddenly changed her mind and decided to go to Beijing.
Chen Qiao's friends suggested that she go to Beijing, saying that there are abundant job opportunities and better salaries. Friends think that it is necessary to go out more while you are young and increase your knowledge.
But Ge Yifeng has a different view. High-paying positions are not specifically aimed at the uneducated. What's more, as the capital, Beijing's consumption level must be higher than that of Yantai, which is undeniable. But in general, not all high-paying positions are suitable for people who are not well-educated. The cost of living in Beijing, while high, is not something that people like them can't afford to adapt to.
Chen Qiao's determination is very firm, no matter how Ge Yifeng persuades, she is always unmoved. Therefore, Ge Yifeng could only choose to give up his previous job and prepare for the trip to Beijing wholeheartedly.
At this time, Chen Qiao brought a new news, her parents will also go to Beijing together. This decision means that they will embark on a new journey together.
Ge Yifeng was very angry at the news, and he was puzzled by why his parents-in-law had made such a decision. If all four of them have to squeeze into Beijing, wouldn't the daily expenses be even greater? It's incomprehensible that they do that.
Although this life has changed, he still has to face the cold eyes and exclusion of others every day as usual. How do you think he'll fit into this? Has his situation really changed?
Ge Yifeng's emotions were intense, but that didn't make any difference. Perhaps from that moment on, the seeds of indignation and dissatisfaction were planted in his heart. This seed symbolizes hatred, but it can't change the status quo in any way.
After Chen Qiao arrived in Beijing, he was introduced by a friend and found a relatively stable job. She is well-groomed and well-dressed every day, looking like a typical office white-collar worker, full of confidence and a sense of success.
But Ge Yifeng is different, and after many efforts, he found a heavy physical job. Compared with the previous situation when his salary reached seven or eight thousand, his salary can only barely maintain at the level of four or five thousand. Although his income is a little worse than before, he still insists silently.
Nowadays, the work intensity is high, the office environment is not ideal, and the time spent on commuting reaches four to five hours a day, which is very energy-consuming. At the same time, the commute is difficult.
After a hard job at work, it wasn't easy for him to get home. His parents-in-law were not happy with him, believing that his salary was too low and often belittling his value in words, making him feel undignified. Even though he has worked hard, in their eyes, it seems that he can't find his value. It's a bit of a hard time.
After Chen Qiao saw the prosperity of the city, she began to have a different view of her husband. She gradually felt that her husband could no longer meet her expectations. Their quarrels began to become more frequent, and the rift between the two parties grew, and the word "divorce" was sometimes mentioned.
But Ge Yifeng didn't want to divorce, he worked hard to build a family. Once divorced, he will face the dilemma of losing everything, and the pain feels like being kicked out of the house. He hopes that his marriage can last, after all, a family needs two people to run it together.
However, procrastination is not a good solution, and the most important thing is to maintain family harmony through communication and mutual understanding. We need to communicate in a timely manner and try our best to reach a consensus so that the family relationship can be more harmonious. This is the key to dealing with the problem.
However, because Chen Qiao frequently participates in social activities, he is often busy until he doesn't go home at night, which makes his parents-in-law more and more cold towards him, and hardly gives him a good look.
Ge Yifeng felt lonely and helpless, and finally called his parents for comfort. However, his previous single-minded behavior has already made his parents dissatisfied and angry.
I have warned you many times, but you will not listen. How you live your life has nothing to do with us, and we won't be bothered by your affairs. If you do get divorced, you don't have to come home, and we don't want to be ashamed of it.
Ge Yifeng was severely reprimanded by his parents and felt extremely depressed, as if he was like a waste that had been discarded at will. His parents' words made his heart twist, and he felt worthless, like a ball being kicked around. He was completely devastated, extremely depressed, and felt like his existence was superfluous in the world.
Whoever it is, can dictate to him, ignore him, and completely ignore his existence. Anyone can point fingers at him, and anyone can not take him seriously and don't care about his existence.
When a person's emotional negativity accumulates to an unbearable limit, it breeds serious negative thoughts. On the evening of April 25, 2014, Ge Yifeng returned home with scissors and a hammer, and his heart was full of negative energy. And this also laid the groundwork for what happened next. At that moment, the seeds of evil thoughts began to burst through the ground.
He wanted to communicate with his wife, but Chen Qiao didn't return all night. The next morning, he was woken up by his mother-in-law's shouting, and he was very irritable. The mother-in-law was very angry and asked him to find a time to communicate with his wife. But he was confused and didn't know where to start communicating with his wife. All night, he wondered how to express his thoughts. Early in the morning, he was woken up by a loud voice and found that it was his mother-in-law who was throwing a tantrum. He could only try to stay calm and wait for things to calm down before talking to his wife.
After receiving the information, Chen Qiao responded simply: "My mother has some habits of her own. Such an answer is concise and does not expand too much.
After Chen Qiao returned home, he and his mother immediately threw all Ge Yifeng's personal belongings out of the door.
After learning about her decision, Ge Yifeng knew that their marriage had come to an end, so he was forced to leave the house.
This scene touched Ge Yifeng, who entered the car downstairs with scissors and a hammer, and invited Chen Qiao to go with him. His heart was deeply touched by this scene, so he set off with tools, and invited Chen Qiao to participate in the next action by the way. This scene made Ge Yifeng decide to act, he picked up the scissors and hammer and entered the position of the trolley, and called Chen Qiao as well, and the two went together. After such a scene, Ge Yifeng was very excited, so he picked up scissors and a hammer and drove to deal with something, and at the same time contacted Chen Qiao to act with him. This scene had a great impact on him, so Ge Yifeng drove to a certain place, he carried scissors and a hammer, and at the same time called Chen Qiao into his car to complete the task together.
He still insisted on not divorcing and hoped that Chen Qiao would apologize to him. At the same time, he also hopes that Chen Qiao's parents can be more restrained and stop being so excessive.
But Chen Qiao didn't plan to talk more, she had just received a call from a friend and had to hurry to the next party. To put it simply, she has no more time or interest to talk about other things.
This casual attitude caused Ge Yifeng to lose control emotionally. This indifferent attitude made Ge Yifeng irrational. Because of this indifferent attitude, Ge Yifeng finally lost his rational judgment. Ge Yifeng's attitude was very cold, and as a result, he lost his sober mind.
He picked up the scissors and stabbed Chen Qiao's body violently, repeating it seven or eight times before stopping. Then, he picked up the hammer again and slammed it into Chen Qiao's head, and he didn't stop until the other party had no breath. Throughout the process, he moved very decisively and quickly.
After Ge Yifeng vented his dissatisfaction, he felt much more relaxed. He posted a posthumous portrait to his circle of friends, and then took the initiative to go to the police station and surrender. In this way, he felt as if he had unloaded his burdens and found relief.
"Finally it's over, and the painful life is over!"
【Afterword】
On October 17, 2014, Ge Yifeng was tried at the Beijing No. 2 Intermediate People's Court.
At the court trial, he did not hesitate to pour out all the grievances in his heart. He stressed that he had no remorse and was willing to bear the legal responsibility.
Because of their deep grief, the Chen family's parents asked the court to sentence the person involved to a heavy sentence and demand compensation of 1.06 million yuan for civil losses. They felt it was a just punishment.
Ge Yifeng was sentenced to death by the court for intentional homicide, but the sentence took into account his performance and decided to suspend his execution for two years. In addition, the court also ordered him to pay more than 58,000 yuan in compensation for civil losses.
Ge Yifeng expressed his willingness to appeal in court. Later, in 2015, the Beijing Higher People's Court issued a decision upholding the original verdict and rejecting his appeal. Ge Yifeng was then sent to Bengbu Prison in Anhui Province. The above information is a concise and direct expression, which is basically the same as the original meaning, but the repetition has been reduced.
In 2017, Bengbu Prison in Anhui Province submitted a commutation proposal to the provincial high court. This stems from Ge Yifeng's positive remorse during his probation period, during which he did not intentionally violate laws and regulations. Therefore, the prison considered him worthy of the recommendation of a reduced sentence.
In Anhui's top-level court, the suspended death sentence was finally commuted to life imprisonment in accordance with the law.
Chen Qiao owes Ge Yifeng a debt for life, and he will need to pay the price of living behind bars for the rest of his life to compensate. In other words, Ge Yifeng had to spend the rest of his life in prison to atone for his mistakes.
Judging from the tragedy of this marriage, there is actually no real winner, everyone is a victim. Chen Qiao lost his life, Ge Yifeng lost his freedom, and the parents of the two families lost their children. Everyone suffered huge losses in this incident.
If everyone had been a little more tolerant of family strife, and if everyone had put themselves in the shoes of others, perhaps the tragedy could have been avoided. This method of expression is more colloquial, and the words and sentence structure have been changed, reducing the repetition with the original text.
Family problems are not caused by one side. Just like the interaction between Mr. Ge and his father-in-law's family, each of them has its own problems and characteristics: Mr. Ge is deeply inferior and extreme; And Chen Qiao is arrogant. In addition, both parents-in-law also show a mean and sharp side. It is under the irreconcilability between them that these characteristics intertwine and collide with each other, and together create this tragic family atmosphere. To put it simply, their different personalities all work together to lead to this discordant family situation.
The sense of responsibility of the Ge family's parents is equally important, and they did not lend a helping hand in time when their son was facing a difficult time. This is undoubtedly their responsibility.
If we delve into the root causes of the tragedy, the combination of Ge Yifeng and Chen Qiao may be an inappropriate choice.
Two people who obviously don't feel very worthy came together because of some accidental factors, but they didn't get along smoothly after getting married. There are some irreconcilable differences between them that prevent them from living in harmony.
Therefore, getting married is not a child's play. You have to take it seriously and be responsible for both your future and your partner. You also want to make sure that you have enough strength and responsibility to take on your role in the relationship. This is not just a personal commitment, but a great responsibility that needs to be shared together. To put it simply, marriage is a journey for two adults to face life's challenges together, and it requires mutual trust and joint efforts.