Is the boy in your family a straight man or a considerate little warm man?
Let's take a look at this boy first, it can be said that his own mother was shocked.
01 The boy invited the girl to his home as a guest, and he watched his mother in one operation
Some time ago, a mother posted a video, although it was only a few dozen seconds, but the amount of information was still not small.
This little boy from Hangzhou, Zhejiang Province, who is in elementary school, invited a close female classmate in his class to his home one day.
It is very common for children to come to the house as guests, and children often visit the house to play.
However, this boy's operation is really unusual, because it is so considerate!
watermelon, not only cut, but also the watermelon seeds inside, carefully removed one by one;
The grapes were not only washed, but also peeled one by one;
Not only did I bring the banana, but I also peeled it directly and handed it to the girl......
During this period, the boy's mother wanted to lend a hand and give the boy some assistance, but the boy waved his hand in disgust and signaled his mother to leave quickly!
The mother's sentence "I still have to deduct the seeds", it can be seen that the mother is also stunned by her son's operation.
In the end, my mother's summary is: I expect my family status in 20 years.
What status?
The daughter-in-law came first, and the old lady stood back.
This is a typical "having a daughter-in-law and forgetting your mother"!
A netizen jokingly said: It is recommended that the mother and son sign up for a swimming class together to leave a way back!
I have to say that if Bao Ma saw this comment, it is estimated that she would be even more heartbroken!
02 Your boy, is he a "straight man" or a "warm man"
Seeing her son so "warm", although it is not for herself, her mother must be pleased. After all, it will not be difficult to find a daughter-in-law in the future, and the emotional intelligence is so high.
At this time, some mothers have to move out of their own "straight men".
The boy of my cousin's family, in the fifth grade, has always had a good female classmate, and on May Day, the two mothers took their two children and went out to play together.
The female classmate wanted to take a beautiful photo of the hairpin, so the mother reminded her daughter: "You can take a hairpin, but this is to make up your hair, you have to wash your hair." ”
The girl didn't like to wash her hair very much, so she said, "It's okay, my hair is not oily, so I don't want to wash it." ”
Unexpectedly, my cousin's son said directly: "You better wash it, as soon as the wind blew just now, your dandruff fell off my clothes." ”
The girl instantly cried and said, "I will never be friends with you again!" ”
My cousin is also very helpless, my son's IQ is quite high, but this EQ can't be saved! made the little girl so angry that she still doesn't want to talk to him.
My cousin's son couldn't understand it: "I just told the truth and gave her a suggestion, so that she looks better when she takes pictures, and she doesn't wash her hair, why do you blame me?" ”
This is the thinking of straight men, they can't "empathize" with other people's emotions, a proper straight man.
In "Wonderful Sayings", Chen Ming has such a sentence: Only when a life of warmth and purity can there be love and freedom, otherwise how much freedom is in the name of you.
The meaning of this sentence is that only when a person is warm and pure can he be qualified to talk about love and freedom.
To put it nicely, it is called a "straight man", but to say that it is not good, it is actually "low emotional intelligence".
Many mothers may be unhappy when they hear their sons described as having "low emotional intelligence", but it is undeniable that such boys are easily self-centered and always want others to take care of themselves, but they do not consider the feelings of others.
After entering the society, it is not only easy to be emotionally frustrated, but also easy to hit a wall at work.
03 If you want to raise a "little warm man" who loves her mother, it's very simple
Psychologically, as a mother, the boy she naturally hopes to raise is a "little warm man".
Some people will think that the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is that the mother-in-law is not used to seeing her son so good to other women.
In fact, isn't it because my son has never been so good to his mother?
If you want to raise a "little warm man", it is very good to your parents, daughters-in-law, and children, in fact, it is really simple, you just need your father to love your mother.
When the father is uncomfortable, he takes the initiative to bring tea and water to the mother, and the boy sees it and will follow suit;
When dad gives mom a gift on the anniversary, the boy will also know that he has to prepare a surprise for mom;
When the father takes the initiative to do some invisible housework and take the initiative to take on the responsibilities of the family, the boy will also know to be considerate of the mother and take the initiative to take the responsibility of the family......
In short, dad is the best role model for boys!
The child is the shadow of the father;
Fathers are the mirror of their children!
Topic discussion: Are the boys in your family "straight men" or "warm men"?
(The picture comes from the Internet, invaded and deleted!) ）