Hello everyone, I am the family education instructor Guo Ma~
Do you remember when you were in school, how many people in your class had early loves?
Guo Ma remembers this quite clearly.
I know, in fact, since elementary school, there have been early loves, junior high school gradually increased, and in high school, it was even worse.
Moreover, when I was in junior high school and high school, almost every year there would be children in school who were in early love, and because they were caught stealing the forbidden fruit, they were punished, and in serious cases, they dropped out of school directly.
So, what about today's children?
My cousin's daughter is now in college, and when she started the fifth or sixth grade of elementary school, she began to guard against it.
When I was in junior high school, I was even more worried every day, for fear that my daughter would fall in love.
After entering high school, her daughter's grades began to be unstable, and her cousin was always suspicious, thinking that her daughter's early love affected her grades.
Therefore, she specially talked to the head teacher.
Unexpectedly, the head teacher directly said: Today's children have very few early loves! Don't worry too much!
Until her daughter is now in college, my cousin thinks that it is okay for her daughter to fall in love, so she asks her if she has ever liked a boy.
The daughter said generously: "There must be, the class leader next door, you still praise people for being tall and good at studying." ”
The cousin was curious: "Then you didn't want to fall in love with him?" ”
The daughter shook her head: "He doesn't like me." ”
Cousin: "Don't you feel bad?" ”
The daughter looked up in surprise: "Why should I be sad?" He is not the only man in the world, he doesn't know how to appreciate me, isn't there another boy? ”
The cousin was also shocked and continued to ask: "If he likes you, will you fall in love with him?" ”
The daughter still shook her head: "After high school, I have to go my separate ways, what kind of love do I have." ”
My cousin was speechless.
She was surprised: how can today's children understand so much?
This also reminded my cousin of the chat with the head teacher at the beginning, and the head teacher also analyzed the reasons why children are less in early love now, and these reasons are also very worthy of parents' deep thought.
Why don't today's children fall in love so much? The truth told by the head teacher is worth pondering for parents
Reason 1: Nowadays, children don't love "socializing" so much
Early love, you have to have time.
In the past, the children had relatively free time, and on weekends, they would often go out to play.
Playing and playing, socializing more, communicating more, and being prone to early love.
But today's children really don't socialize so much.
After school, there are parents to pick up;
On weekends, either make up classes, or stay at home, or go out with your parents.
The main one has no free time.
Moreover, because the time is not so free, the children are actually not so social.
If there is less socialization, then the child's social skills will be relatively poor, and even if he wants to fall in love, he may have died at the time of "confession".
Reason 2: Today's children do not lack "love"
Which children are more likely to fall in early love?
At the top of the list must be children with "strong emotional needs", this type of children often have a warm family environment or parents who cannot give enough company.
Psychologically speaking, such children are more likely to find emotional sustenance from the opposite sex, so as to fall into the whirlpool of early love.
However, today's children are not so lacking in love.
Many parents now know the importance of parent-child companionship, even if they don't have time to spend with their children on weekdays, they will use weekends and holidays to give their children enough companionship.
Not only parents, but also grandparents, the older generation loves their children more than in the past.
Therefore, many children nowadays do not lack love, and they do not need to get love from the opposite sex, and they will be more rational in the matter of early love.
Reason 3: Nowadays, families pay more attention to the education of their children's adolescence
One thing I have to admit is that because our generation has experienced adolescence on campus and needs to learn, so we know that adolescence is different.
In addition, the society and schools also attach great importance to the problem of children's adolescence, and often carry out corresponding lectures, activities, etc., to carry out reasonable education for children's adolescence.
With the joint efforts of home and school, many children are more independent in their thinking and more objective in their approach to adolescence.
For example, when Guo's niece began to develop in junior high school, my cousin would worry about whether the child would be like us when we were children, hunched over with her breasts, for fear that others would see something.
But the niece didn't, she said: "Isn't this a normal part of physical development?" What's there to be shy about? ”
What a tiger!
However, the niece did not rebel, did not have early love, did not have low self-esteem, etc., during adolescence, and also thanks to the early adolescent education of her cousin.
There is actually one reason why the problems of adolescent children appear: the child is not enlightened.
Once you get the hang of it, there are no problems.
It's just a pity that many people don't start to open up until they become adults, or even become parents.
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Topic discussion: Do you think the problem of children's early love is serious now?
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