What should a man do if his wife refuses to communicate after being found out about his cheating, and his wife wants to solve the extramarital affair?
Many wives will encounter all kinds of problems when they want to solve the extramarital affair after they find out that their man is cheating.
Among them, the cheating man is unwilling to cooperate, which is the most difficult for wives to solve.
On the one hand, I can't accept it emotionally, this man is cheating or this attitude,
On the other hand, from an objective point of view, it is easier for wives to solve extramarital affairs only if men cooperate.
So the cheating man doesn't cooperate, and even communication is resistant,
Wives need to deal with this problem and not affect your extramarital affair.
A man who cheats and refuses to communicate after being found out by his wife? There are three things that a wife can do well.
First of all, it is necessary to know oneself and understand the psychology of men.
Many women who have been cheated on may never really know their other half.
Even though you have been married for many years, you don't even have more than one child.
You've lived together in the same bed for many years, but you've actually shared a different bed.
Men are the best at disguise and acting, and they can also live with masks all the time.
Therefore, the appearance of extramarital affairs is an opportunity for wives to reacquaint themselves with real men.
You will see the selfishness of cheating men, the bad nature of cheating men.
It will also lower your expectations of a cheating man and consume your love for a cheating man.
In fact, there is nothing wrong with it, after all, if you love someone too much, it is easy to be controlled by others.
Then after the cheating man is discovered, the wife wants to settle the affair.
Why do cheating men refuse to communicate?
On the one hand, it was to escape, and he felt that talking too much to his wife was not good for him.
It's his fault for cheating, he doesn't take advantage of it when it really makes trouble, and the cheating man knows it very well.
Compared to saying too much and making more mistakes, or arguing after saying part of it, it is used as evidence for the wife.
He might as well not say anything, it would be safer, and his wife wouldn't be able to do anything to him.
On the other hand, it may also be one of the means to pinch his wife.
Cheating men are actually very bad, they don't just want to cheat,
also wants to be honest and unrestricted cheating, and if you want to achieve this goal, you need to hold the original wife.
So refuse to communicate, make the wife self-doubt, and make the wife miserable.
In the end, his wife was forced by these inner pressures to choose to give in and acquiesce in his cheating.
Second, don't be influenced by his attitude and focus on resolving the extramarital affair.
In the eyes of many wives, the fault of a man who engages in extramarital affairs lies with him, and he should apologize, admit his mistakes, and make amends after being discovered.
Jiaxin wants to tell a truth, but in fact, these are not very important.
Because of apologies and confessions, most cheating men will do it, but not sincerely.
is really a cheating man who sincerely apologizes and admits his mistakes because he realizes his mistakes, and there may not be one in a thousand.
They were just under pressure to say so.
Coaxing his wife to be happy and avoid paying more for himself is what a cheating man thinks.
The cheating man is willing to do this, and it doesn't hurt the original partner.
But if the cheating man is unwilling to do this, there is no need for the original partner to be so entangled.
Because you have more important reasons to do, such as catching the handle of a cheating man and solving an extramarital affair.
His admission and apology does not mean the end of this extramarital affair.
But if wives catch the grip of a cheating man, the cheating man is afraid to pay the price.
He began to take the initiative to break up with Xiao San, and turned around and begged his original partner not to divorce, so that the extramarital affair really began to end.
It doesn't matter what the cheating man says, or even whether he says it or not.
The important thing is whether he does it or not, and if he doesn't, how can the wife let the cheating man take the initiative to do it.
And how can you make cheating men dare not do things that make you miserable and embarrassed in the future.
At any time, don't dwell too much on things that aren't very important.
Because you can't solve it for the time being, you continue to struggle, except for bringing negative psychological pressure, there is no benefit.
Bypass this problem and move on to what you can solve and achieve your goal is the most important.
Finally, you must have the ability to act and be able to grasp the weakness.
Women who have been cheated on have been unable to solve their extramarital affairs for a long time, and most of them are because they have no ability to act.
Just say but don't do, just like an original match that Jiaxin came into contact with a few days ago.
She said that she had been cheated on for more than two years, and it had been nearly two years since she discovered her extramarital affair.
I've always wanted to settle extramarital affairs, and I've asked many people what to do.
But I haven't found a suitable way, so I asked Jiaxin what to do.
Jiaxin directly asked this original partner, what did she do?
In addition to asking people everywhere what to do, has she ever really taken action?
This original partner said no, she neither redeemed the cheating man, nor tore the mistress.
Except for the occasional can't stand it, quarrels with cheating men, and threatens cheating men after divorce.
Whether she agrees with the opinions given by others or not, she will not act.
Always asking what to do, never doing it.
Thinking is a question, and doing is the answer.
Maybe many of the solutions don't make you feel amazing, as if you can solve the extramarital affair in one step.
The reality is that there are not so many fatal blows, and resolving an extramarital affair is a long process.
Just like his cheating didn't happen overnight, Xiao San didn't take the cheating man in one day.
If you want to solve the extramarital affair, it will take time, and you need to take action step by step.
Today I will repair the relationship between husband and wife, and tomorrow I will break up the extramarital relationship.
Create some points in the back that make the cheating man quarrel with the mistress, and then show your attitude.
Little by little, the cheating man was pulled back into the marriage and the mistress was separated.
It's all about you taking action, not just thinking about it forever and not doing it.
Why can't you solve an extramarital affair?
Because in the face of seemingly difficult things, I always dare not face the difficulties and find ways to delay time.
In fact, I hope that things will drag on and solve them by myself.
Many original partners are this kind of mentality, the small tribula is separated, and the cheating man is irretrievable.
Then drag it out and don't do it, hoping that the cheating man will quarrel with the mistress, and the quarrel will break up, and the extramarital affair will automatically end.
The reality is that without external intervention, the cheating man and the mistress will only live more freely and happily,
The probability of the internal disintegration of the extramarital affair is very small, and the original partner will not wait for the end of the affair, but may wait until the end of his marriage.
So you have to learn to solve problems and learn to fight for the results you want.
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I'm Jiaxin, a marriage defender who focuses on the separation of third parties.