There is a student whose husband has crossed G. When she found me, I asked her how life was as a couple.
She smugly told me, "That's good! I'm young and in good shape. ”
Then, she asked me in confusion: "Teacher, he is quite satisfied every time, why do you still want to provoke Yingying Yanyan outside?" ”
It seems that everyone still has some misunderstandings about the secret of "keeping men's hearts"! Don't worry, today let's talk about what more effective practices there are besides "that thing".
Keeping a man's heart is actually like raising a pot of flowers, which requires patience and skill. Don't be in a hurry to shake your head and say, "How can there be so many routines in love".
Listen to me slowly, maybe you will suddenly realize that there are so many ways to love!
Financial independence: not only to manage money, but also to earn
First of all, let's talk about economic independence. In a relationship, the most fearful thing is not quarrels, but one day you suddenly find that only him is left in your world, as well as firewood, rice, oil and salt.
Of course, this is not what we want love to look like.
Imagine that you revolve around your child every day, busy with housework, and he, busy earning money to support the family.
At first, you think it's good, but gradually, you find yourself slower and slower in society, and you even start to lose track of it.
At this time, if he gives you a look on your face again, will you feel particularly aggrieved?
Therefore, girls, no matter when and where, do not lose the ability to make money, and maintain their financial independence.
In this way, even if he changes his mind one day, you can say chicly: "Hmph, without you, my mother can still live a chic life!" ”
Don't let up after marriage: be your own queen and let him chase forever
Girls, don't think that everything will be fine as soon as you get married, and you can start letting yourself go.
Listen to my advice, men are visual creatures, they like a woman, not only because of her inner beauty, but also because of her external charm.
So, don't let up after marriage, keep your figure and appearance, so that he will always think that you are a charming queen.
You can go to the gym to exercise and keep your lines beautiful; Try out some new hairstyles and dressing styles to make his eyes light up every time he sees you.
Of course, let's not forget that sex appeal is not only about appearance, but also about inner confidence and calmness.
When you spend time with him, let him feel that you are not only a beautiful shell, but also a soul with depth.
Therefore, the inner ascension should not be less. Read more books, learn more new things, try more new things, and let your inner world always be full of vitality and charm.
In this way, he will always follow your footsteps, for fear that he will accidentally lose you.
Remember, be your own queen whenever and wherever you are, and let him always be fascinated by you!
Grow together: A good husband and wife are mutually successful
What does the best couple relationship look like? It's the type that achieves and grows together. It's like two trees standing side by side, experiencing wind and rain together, enjoying the sunshine together, and thriving together.
Honestly, girls, it's really important to find a partner who can grow with you.
That way, as he sprints through his career, you're constantly improving yourself, whether it's learning new skills or expanding your social circle. This way, you will be better able to support each other and face life's challenges together.
Male friends, in the same way, don't just focus on the outside of women. Whether she is self-motivated or not, whether she is willing to grow with you, this is the key.
Because she has her own career and pursuits, she can give you advice and encouragement when you need it, so that you can continue to "level up" in your marriage.
In the final analysis, marriage is not about finding a "nanny" or "ATM", but about finding a "teammate" who can fight monsters and upgrade with you.
Teammates who are too weak will not only not be able to help, but may also drag you down.
Only by maintaining self-growth and constantly improving yourself can you attract and retain the person who fights side by side with you.
Just like one of our previous students, she was a streamer. When she came to us, she asked us for some advice on how to choose a mate.
The advice we gave at the time was: find the owner of an e-commerce company, or the owner of an e-commerce factory!
Why? Because it's a match made in heaven! One has goods, the other has traffic, super complementary, as long as two people keep growing, they will definitely achieve a win-win situation.
Later, she listened to our advice and found such a person. They worked together and supported each other, and soon bought a house and a car in a first-tier city.
Although their lives are not rich and rich, they are full of happiness and contentment, and they have become the envy of many people. Remember: choosing the right partner and growing together is the true meaning of marriage.
Establish rules: have a bottom line, so that he doesn't dare to be sorry for you
Girls, we have to understand that there is not only love in marriage, but also rules.
Just like raising a flower, in addition to watering and fertilizing, you also have to prune the branches and leaves so that it can grow better.
Therefore, we have to set some rules for the man, so that he knows what can be done and what must not be touched.
You have to let him know that you're not the kind of woman you can be treated casually. You have your bottom line, you have your principles.
For example, you must not tolerate him messing around outside, and you must not accept his disrespect for you.
You have to tell him these bottom lines clearly, so that he has a number in his heart.
In this way, when he wants to do something to be sorry for you, he will remember your bottom line, and then he will be deterred and dare not take another step forward and cross the line.
Because he knows that once he crosses that line, he will lose you, lose this home!
Having said all this, I wonder if you have gotten the point? In fact, it is not difficult to "tie" a man's heart, if you can do this, I believe that your man will definitely die for you!
Remember, we are his best comrades-in-arms, his own queen, and the "unprovoked" in his life!
Don't let yourself get lost in love, and don't let marriage become a pool of stagnant water. Operate with heart and stick to it with love, we will definitely be able to reap our own happiness!