Preface:
It is said that the mother-in-law likes her son-in-law more and more, but Aunt Liu is very disappointed in her son-in-law, and also says that her son-in-law is half a child, and Aunt Liu is almost her own father when she comes to this son-in-law!
Aunt Liu's later years: a contest between family affection and reality
Let's continue to talk about those things at Aunt Liu's house, the emotional entanglements behind this are more tortuous than TV dramas, which makes people feel mixed feelings.
The daughter's persistence, the old man's worries
Aunt Liu is 59 years old this year and has an only daughter, and the girl is stubborn when she is young. No, I have to marry my first boyfriend from a remote mountain village, who is later my son-in-law. Aunt Liu and her wife are in a hurry, for fear that their daughter will suffer hardships when she marries. But as for the daughter, it's like eating a scale and having an iron heart, unless he doesn't marry.
On the day of the wedding, the man's family didn't even give a decent bride price, let alone the wedding room. Aunt Liu saw it in her eyes and felt pain in her heart, thinking that her daughter couldn't live without a stable home, so she gritted her teeth, took out most of her life savings, and bought a wedding house for her daughter. I thought I could feel at ease now, but I thought that this was just the beginning.
Son-in-law's "taken for granted"
The son-in-law, who lived in the new house, instead of being grateful, took all this for granted. He disliked that the house was not big enough and the location was not good enough, and even said behind his back that Aunt Liu was stingy, and his name was not added to the real estate certificate. Although these words were not said in front of Aunt Liu, the paper could not contain the fire, and finally reached Aunt Liu's ears.
Aunt Liu was so angry in her heart, but thinking that her daughter had just gotten married, she didn't want her to be embarrassed, so she could only swallow her anger. But the son-in-law didn't seem to appreciate it, but intensified it, thinking that Aunt Liu was easy to bully.
The daughter's "obedience" and Aunt Liu's disappointment
After her daughter gave birth, her mother-in-law shirked not taking care of the confinement for various reasons, and Aunt Liu had to go into battle by herself. She has to take care of her daughter and help take care of her grandson, and she is so tired that her back hurts.
But as for the son-in-law, except for going out early and returning late every day, it seems that the affairs of the family have nothing to do with him. What makes Aunt Liu even more chilling is that her daughter's various behaviors towards her son-in-law always choose to be tolerant and obedient, as if she has lost herself.
Every time Aunt Liu wants to talk to her daughter, let her also have her own opinions, don't always be led by her son-in-law, but her daughter doesn't take it seriously, but this disappointment and helplessness are like a boulder pressing on Aunt Liu's heart, making her breathless.
The son-in-law's "calculation" and the rift in the family
As time went on, the son-in-law's appetite grew. Not only did he not bear the financial responsibility of the family, but he often reached out to Aunt Liu to ask for money. From the daily expenses of the family to the children's tuition and education expenses, he wants Aunt Liu to bear it.
What's more, he also instigated Aunt Liu's daughter to sell her old house and replace it with a bigger house, which is called "pension together", but in fact, he wants Aunt Liu to contribute more money.
When Aunt Liu heard this, she was angry. How could the family money she had worked so hard to save all her life be calculated by her son-in-law so easily? But as for the daughter, she still looks obedient and has no opinion at all.
Aunt Liu looked at her daughter's tired and helpless face, and her heart hurt as if she had been pricked by a needle.
The outbreak of contradictions and the resolute departure
Finally one day, the son-in-law's excessive demands completely angered Aunt Liu. He actually proposed to let Aunt Liu and his wife sell the old house and give them another 500,000 yuan to change the big house, and said that "if you raise your parents-in-law, you have to be filial to your parents", which is a great shame in Aunt Liu's ears.
Aunt Liu couldn't bear it anymore, she said directly to her son-in-law: "We are not obliged to support you, let alone your parents!" You want to buy a house and earn your own money! After saying that, she ignored her daughter's retention and her son-in-law's angry gaze, packed her luggage, and resolutely left the home that made her heartbroken.
Reflection and awakening back to my hometown
After returning to her hometown, Aunt Liu and her wife lived a quiet life. Without the distractions of their daughter's family and the calculations of their son-in-law, they were finally able to calm down and reflect on the experience. Aunt Liu began to realize that she had doted on her daughter so much that she lost the ability to live independently. And the current son-in-law is a typical "phoenix man", who will only ask and not pay.
Aunt Liu decided to change the status quo. She no longer subsidizes her daughter's family, but encourages her to find a job and be self-reliant. At the same time, she also began to plan her later life, planning to travel with her wife, relax, and enjoy her own time.
Deep thinking about the elderly
After this turmoil, Aunt Liu has a deeper understanding of the issue of pension. She understands a truth: you can't rely on your children to support your old age, but on yourself. It is good for children to be filial, but what if you meet unfilial children? At that time, it will be too late to regret it.
Therefore, Aunt Liu decided to prepare for her retirement from now on. She plans to save her remaining savings for an emergency fund, and she has also begun to focus on some senior care institutions and community retirement programs so that she can have a good place to go in the future if she needs it.
Conclusion: Self-reliance and self-improvement are the guarantee of happiness in old age
Friends, we all have to learn from Aunt Liu's sobriety and self-reliance. Don't always think that you can rely on your children when you are old, after all, they also have their own life pressures and responsibilities. In this era of rapid change, we should learn to rely on ourselves and plan for our old age.
At the same time, we also need to understand that mutual understanding and respect in family relationships are crucial. As parents, we must learn to let go and let our children explore, fall, and grow on their own on the road of growth. As children, we also need to know how to be grateful and reciprocate, and be able to lend a helping hand to our parents when they need us, giving them love and support.
In closing, I would like to say that everyone's life is unique, and we all have our own stories and experiences. In the face of the question of pension, there is no absolute answer and model. But as long as we maintain a self-reliant heart and face life positively, I believe we can all find our own happy old age.
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