From time to time, some women say that the men they meet are stingy.
said that others met very generous, but what they encountered was completely the other extreme.
It's very picky, there are no good gifts, I won't give myself some surprises and romance at all, and even the usual dates, I can save it, all kinds of frugality, and I don't want to spend an extra dollar.
In this case, you will inevitably wonder what is going on.
I think it's not because I'm not attractive enough, and I'm not worth it in the eyes of the other party.
All kinds of doubts, doubting themselves, doubting each other, doubting the relationship, the whole person is not very good.
And when a man is unwilling to spend money on you, it may be your reason, and it may not be the case.
The conditions are not good, and they need to be calculated.
The kind of boyfriend in idol dramas is a domineering president, and he just takes out a black card to buy and buy, which is always just a plot, and in real life, it doesn't exist.
Wealthy men can't do this, not to mention that most men have limited economic conditions.
I don't have much money every month, just to support myself, I may have done my best, and there is nothing left at all, and in love, there is no way to invest too much.
So, when dating, he naturally can't behave very generously, always doesn't look at the price, always keeps paying, and always goes to fulfill your desires.
He can only be careful about his budget, he will pay more attention to what he eats, and other expenses will be reduced in various ways, and occasionally he may give some small gifts, but there is no way to be too expensive.
After all, if you haven't done it yet, he has spent too much, and his life will become poor in the future, and he has to think about his future, even if you have become it, he has to consider the reality, and he can't slap a swollen face and become fat.
Even if you like it, you still have to look at your balance first, and you have to plan your future.
can only afford to live like that, so I can only pick the door a little, and I can't take out everything to fall in love, go in debt to fall in love, and then make the rest of my life miserable, and I don't even have the least protection.
Actually, it's okay, it's that you're asking too much.
For love, women will always have a lot of fantasies, looking forward to all kinds of bridges, the kind that is very extravagant, very dreamy, and piled up with a lot of money.
However, the life of ordinary people cannot reach that level at all, and it will only be very down-to-earth after all.
So, when a guy can take care of the expenses together, or most of the expenses, and occasionally give you some nice gifts, that's actually pretty good.
You don't have to always compare yourself with others, you always think about bigger red envelopes, some big-name bags and cosmetics, and some high-end luxury goods, etc., and you also hope that the other party will keep spending and spending a lot of money.
That's unrealistic, when you don't live that kind of life yourself, but you always expect a man to treat you like that, and the other party doesn't, you feel that the other party is unwilling to spend money on you, it's not that the other party is unwilling, it's that you are too demanding.
It's so unrealistic, it's completely trapped in some very unrealistic illusions.
At this time, you should reflect on yourself, let your consumption concept be implemented, and see the real life.
With a man, you always count on the other party to satisfy you unconditionally, hoping that he will surpass all other men, this kind of thinking is very strange and wrong, you still have to look at your own situation, but also look at the other party's conditions.
I don't like you and feel like you're not worth it.
There is also such a situation, a man's conditions are actually not so bad, he is quite willing to himself, and he is very generous to others, but he is very stingy with you.
When it's time to go on a date, expect you to cover half of the cost, or even make you pay more.
Either there are no gifts, or some very cheap things, really cheap, like gifts to buy something, stalls for ten or twenty yuan, anyway, they are all very strange things, and you can't get your hands on them at all.
Anyway, it's really unwilling to spend money on you, unwilling to invest.
Squandering somewhere else, being stingy and crying poor in front of you, you don't have to think about it, it's not that he doesn't have it, it's just that he doesn't want to spend it on you, because he doesn't like you at all, and in his eyes, you are not worth his effort.
It's not that you're bad, it's that he doesn't want to, and in his heart, you're worthless.
I don't like it, I don't approve of it, some men just don't come and go, and some men will come and go, but they will hide it in various ways, and they don't want to spend the cost, they just want to have it for nothing, and it's best to make some money from you.
He may make a big show, just don't spend money, depending on what you can do, he may make all kinds of excuses, try to make you believe that he has a hard time, and then steal the fun behind his back, and he will be complacent, thinking that you are really easy to deceive, and he is so capable.
Men are reluctant to spend money on you, you can see what the situation is.
It is true that the economic conditions are very limited, and there are minimum expenses, depending on how you think and whether you are willing to live that life.
If the other party still spends a lot, don't be too greedy, and know how to be content.
It's completely playing with your feelings, making you feel terrible, there's nothing to say, quickly take back your liking, leave him, and don't have any delay.
Find someone who is willing to spend money for you, you can spend his money, but you still have to have a degree, and you also have to feel sorry for the other party's money.
It's not easy to make money, if you like it, the other party is willing to spoil you, and you also have to know how to think about him.
Thinking about each other will be a good relationship and a good marriage.
Text / Tan Meng
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