When children go to kindergarten, because their comprehensive ability is poor, parents will always worry about how their children's life in kindergarten is, whether they are bullied, whether they have eaten and drunk well, whether they have been criticized by teachers, etc.
As a result, many parents will ask their children some questions after they come home from school, so as to know the status of their children's kindergarten life. But the child's answer is probably not true.
Want to know if your child is doing well in kindergarten?
If you don't know how to ask, you may get an answer that doesn't match the facts
In the eyes of adults, children in kindergarten are always innocent and have no scheming, so many parents think that if they ask questions to their children, then their children will definitely not lie deliberately.
Indeed, children who are still in kindergarten are all in the preschool stage, and children at this stage do not even know what lying is.
However, children at this stage also lack a certain level of cognition, and some of their correct expressions are likely to come from wrong cognition, or even illogical gibberish. It's like a lot of people say "children can't lie, but they can talk nonsense".
For example, a netizen shared a story before, a student couldn't pick up his child from school on time every day because his parents were busy.
So the child's teacher stayed behind responsibly after school to accompany the child and wait for the arrival of the parents with the child.
While waiting for the parents to arrive, the teacher was worried that the child would feel lonely and bored, and played games with the child in a different way, so that the child could be happy every day.
Such a teacher is quite popular with children, so children gradually develop deep feelings for teachers.
One day, the child wants to express his emotions to the teacher, but he doesn't know how to express it, and when the child thinks of watching TV, people say that "love" is the greatest, so he tells the teacher that he wants to marry the teacher.
And the teacher naturally thinks that the child is not sensible, and rejects the child very disapprovingly, and after rejecting the child, he still looks like nothing happened.
In fact, the teacher's behavior is very normal, after all, children like to play at home, so it is very common for children to say "marriage" or something, and teachers will not really take it seriously.
But what the child didn't expect was that he expressed his emotions to the teacher with enthusiasm, but was ignored by the teacher, and the child couldn't accept it for a while and felt very angry.
The child does not know how to express his situation, nor does he understand what his emotions mean, and only thinks that the teacher makes him very unhappy, so the more he thinks about it, the more angry he becomes.
When mom and dad pick up the child and ask how the child is doing, the child mistakenly expresses the matter between himself and the teacher.
Because there are confusing words such as "love" between the words, the child's parents think that the teacher is "wrong" to the child and molest the child.
Moreover, the child's angry expression seems to indicate to the parents that he is "unwilling" and "forced".
So, the child's parents went to the kindergarten and asked the teacher to come forward to explain clearly. And the teacher, facing the angry parents, has no idea what is going on.
Later, after detailed communication, the teacher remembered that the child had indeed told him something about "marriage", and he thought it was a playhouse, so he didn't take it seriously.
In this regard, the child's parents naturally did not believe it, so they called up the monitoring of the kindergarten.
As a result, after checking the monitoring for several days, everyone found that the teacher was indeed very responsible for the child, and would accompany the child conscientiously every day until the child's parents came to pick it up.
In addition, it was indeed seen that on the day when the child's parents asked the child's questions, the child did say something with the teacher and began to be unhappy, but the teacher at that time still took care of the child as always, and did not show any abnormal behavior.
In the end, the truth was revealed, and the child's parents apologized for wronging the teacher.
In fact, in life, many parents will ask their children some questions after school, especially children who have just entered kindergarten, and parents especially want to know how their children are doing in kindergarten.
Although there is nothing wrong with concerning, we must know how to ask and use words, because there is a certain gap between children's comprehension, knowledge, and expression, etc., and adults, so incorrect ways of asking often cannot ask the correct answer.
Want to know if your child is doing well in kindergarten? If the child doesn't take the initiative to speak, you have to know how to ask
1) I want to know whether the teacher is good to the child
The suggestion is to ask, "Which teacher do you like the most?" If you ask your child this way, your child will be more objective in judging how he feels about the teacher.
In this way, you can give the most correct answer, not only to tell you which teacher you like, but also to say the reason why you like it, so that parents can know whether their children are treated fairly by teachers at school.
Don't ask, "Is the teacher fierce?" Did you hit you today? Because there are a lot of negative words in this sentence, such as "fierce", "hit", etc.
This will create a subconscious impression that the teacher is bad and may even give the wrong answer.
2) Want to know if your child is being bullied
The suggestion is to ask, "What game did you play with the children today?" When answering this question, the child will quickly think about the time spent with other children, and if there is an unpleasant situation, the child will express it impressively.
Don't ask, "Did any other kid hit you or snatch your toys?" This kind of problem will make the child unconsciously misunderstand other children and think that the children in kindergarten are all bad children.
3) Want to know what your child has learned
The suggestion is to ask, "What new thing did you learn in kindergarten today?" After hearing this question from parents, children generally think about the "different" things taught by the kindergarten teacher today, so that they can express their learning more clearly and accurately.
Don't ask, "What did you learn today?" This kind of problem seems to be a bit broad, and the child may not know where to start. Don't think that this question is different from the previous one, it seems that there is only one "new" word, it is enough for the child to not be able to answer correctly.
4) I want to know how my child is doing
The suggestion is to ask, "Is there anything fun to share in kindergarten?" If the child can answer this question very positively, then it means that the child is doing well in kindergarten, because if the child does not behave well, there will not be so many happy things.
Don't ask, "Do you do well in kindergarten?" Children may have a different understanding of "performance" than adults, so when an adult asks such a question, the child may not know how to answer at all, or answer something that the adult does not want to know at all.
5) I want to know if my child is having a good time
The suggestion is to ask, "What do you like about kindergarten?" This question, put the child directly on the basis of "like kindergarten", it is easier for the child to clearly express whether he is happy, because when the child can say what he likes, it means that the child's kindergarten life is happy.
Don't ask, "Do you like going to kindergarten?" This will give the child a feeling of not being able to answer, because the child will feel that he has to say what he likes and dislikes, and the simple child is likely to make a mistake due to information overload, such as saying that he doesn't like it in order to reduce the content of the answer, but the child doesn't really like it.
6) I want to know how my child's food is
The suggestion is to ask, "What is your favorite dish in kindergarten?" Ask your child this, and he will recall all the meals he ate at the meal, present them verbally, and then say what he liked best.
In this process, Zhang was able to learn more about the child's food in the kindergarten.
Don't ask, "What did you eat today?" Again, this question is a taboo because it is too broad for the child to know how to answer, because the child is likely to be confused because he or she cannot fully recall what he has eaten.
7) Want to know about your child's social situation
The suggestion is to ask, "Have you helped other children?" "In the contact with each other, children will definitely have all kinds of mutual help situations, and only this kind of social interaction can be regarded as effective socialization.
Therefore, we can use this question to get a clearer picture of the child's social situation in kindergarten.
Don't ask, "Have you made friends?" "A child's understanding of the act of making friends may not be so accurate.
Therefore, if you ask your child this, he or she is likely to say no because he does not understand the meaning of making friends, but at the same time, he may say yes because he does not understand the meaning of making friends, but in fact, whether it is yes or no, it is not the real answer.
Asking questions to kindergarten children is a "technology" that parents should not take lightly.
Many parents are accustomed to "going straight to the point", so they always feel that if they ask directly, their children will definitely answer directly.
But that's not the case. Therefore, if parents want to get real answers, they must know how to communicate with their children and understand the characteristics of their children's thinking, so as to avoid the appearance of some wrong information.
epilogue
Children in kindergarten are not able to understand the meaning of their parents' language correctly, and they are also deficient in terms of expression skills.
Therefore, if parents want to correctly understand their child's situation in kindergarten, they must use the right way to ask questions in order to get real answers.
When your child is in kindergarten, how do you trick your child to tell you how he is doing in kindergarten?
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