#不忘初心, keep in mind the mission# Liu Yuli reads "Group Books"
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Why is the kindness of parents worth remembering? Because the kindness of parents is immeasurable, the ancients summarized it as "ten folded graces":
First, nurturing and educating grace. Children's bodies come from their parents, and parents also have to nurture and educate their children, so if people are not filial to their parents, they will have nothing to do with their lives. Just like the hard work of parents to protect their children, many mothers will be happy when they are pregnant, and they will reluctantly eat food when they are very uncomfortable, thinking about their children. In fact, God's arrangement is very delicate, as if there is a cycle, so that people can leave no regrets in their lives and repay the kindness of their parents to the fullest. Children grow up because of their parents' upbringing and education, so when will the children repay the kindness of their parents? When parents are old, they support their parents to walk, just like children learn to walk when they are young, and countless falls are supported and encouraged by their parents. So, what will you do to make your conscience feel good? It is to be filial to one's parents. For example, when taking care of the elderly, sometimes the elderly will accidentally drop the rice on the floor. When their children were young, parents spent countless efforts to feed their children and teach them to eat, and they never disliked their children. When parents are old, their children can delicately sympathize with their parents in the details of life, without the slightest dislike, isn't this just that children can repay their parents for their hard work in cultivating themselves in this life? This is the greatest gift that God can give to children. Therefore, those who can be filial to their parents are the most blessed people. The greatest blessing of a person is to have peace of mind, to be worthy of admiration, and to have no sorry person in his life.
Second, the grace of suffering in childbirth. Giving birth is very painful, and some people once compared it to taking a steel knife and making a scratch on the body every fifteen minutes. Some mothers are in great pain during childbirth, and their hands twist on the steel bars on the bed, and as a result, the steel bars are twisted and bent. It can be seen how much pain it takes to exert such great strength.
Third, give birth to a child and forget your worries. Although the birth experience is very painful, as soon as the child is born, the mother's first thought is whether the child is healthy or not, and she completely puts down her pain and thinks about the safety of the child.
Fourth, breastfeeding nurturing grace. The child was in the mother's arms for the first three years of life, without any ability to live, and the child may drink hundreds of kilograms of the mother's milk before the age of three, which is equivalent to the mother's blood, and the mother's nutrition becomes milk. Therefore, the reason why a woman's bones are darker and lighter after death is because they are worn out in the process of raising children.
Fifth, swallow bitterness and spit out Gann. Parents eat poor food and save the best for their children.
Sixth, when it is dry, it is wet. The child wets the bed in the middle of the night, and the mother gives the child a dry place to sleep and sleeps in a wet place by herself. Not only that, from childhood to adulthood, parents have left the good ones to their children, and the hardships are borne silently by themselves.
Seventh, washing is not pure. In the process of children's growth from childhood to adulthood, their parents clean up their urine and urine. If you look closely at the fingers of the parents, you will find that the parents are very thick and even deformed because of the fatigue of taking care of their children when they were young, because they often wash the children's diapers, and their hands will also crack a lot.
Eighth, travel far away to remember grace. The mother is worried, and the mother is not worried. When children go to school, their parents send them one trip after another, and they are reluctant to give up, but when their parents travel far away, their children will not be so concerned. Therefore, children should be careful and sympathetic to their parents' concerns, and parents should always call their parents to report their safety.
Ninth, deep compassion. Every time children come to a critical time, such as going to school, looking for a job, etc., they have their parents to remind them in a timely manner, which is all for the sake of their children. Therefore, children should work very hard to live up to their parents' expectations, hoping that one day they will become people who can satisfy their parents and have both ability and integrity.
Tenth, the ultimate mercy grace. The ancients said, "A mother lives to be 100 years old, and she is always worried about her 80 children." "My mother has lived to be 100 years old, and she often thinks about her 80-year-old son, and picks up the phone to ask for warmth. Do not be impatient, children, and say, "Don't you know I'm busy? As soon as I picked up the phone, it was endless. "Actually, it's all about the parents.
There was a mother who was about to die in her eighties, and her daughter had cancer, and when the mother left, she said that she hoped to take her daughter's cancer away, and the result was really sensitive, and a few months after the mother's death, her daughter's cancer was really cured. Even on her deathbed, the mother did not forget her daughter's illness. Even if the parents' care, care, and suggestions sometimes do not fit the children's minds and are misunderstood, the parents still have no regrets and bear it silently, which is the parents.
Therefore, it is true that the kindness of parents is higher than the sky and deeper than the sea, and no matter what the children do, they cannot repay the kindness of their parents. As a child, you should hope that from now on, you will never say anything disobedient to your parents or do anything that will make your parents sad.
There is an article entitled "The Eight Big Lies of Mother", which is very touching:
"When I was a child, my family was very poor, and there was often not enough food to eat, so my mother gave the rice in her bowl to the children, and the mother said, 'Son, eat quickly, I am not hungry.'" When the children ate the fish, the mother would not eat it, and the mother would put the fish back into the child's bowl with chopsticks, and the mother said, 'Son, eat quickly, I don't like fish.' ’”
Many people may think after seeing it: "This mother still eats fish?" Some people may see that their mothers are not vegetarians, do not understand cause and effect, and do not learn the teachings of the sages, so they look down on their mothers more and more, and this is getting farther and farther away from the "Tao". In fact, when parents give fish and meat to their children, as children, they should realize their parents' intentions, but children just insist that they should not eat fish or meat, and forget their parents' intentions to care for their children, so they will say things that make their parents sad.
"One winter, the child woke up in the middle of the night to see his mother still bent down and gluing matchboxes under the oil lamp. The child said, 'Mother, go to sleep, you have to go to work tomorrow morning,' and the mother smiled and said, 'Son, go to sleep, I'm not sleepy.'
When the bell rang for the end of the college entrance examination, the mother greeted her, handed over a cup of strong tea brewed in a canned bottle, and told the child to drink it. Looking at his mother's chapped lips and beads of sweat, the boy handed the can and bottle in his hand and asked his mother to drink, and the mother said, 'Son, drink quickly, I am not thirsty.' ’
After my father died, my mother became a father and a mother, and she was miserable, but my mother never remarried for many years, and no matter how much others persuaded her, she categorically refused, and my mother said, 'I don't love it.' ’
Children who work in other places often send money back to support their mother, but the mother firmly refuses to do so, and returns the money, and the mother says, 'I have money.' ’
The child grows up and has a good job. The child wanted to bring his mother to enjoy the blessings, but the old man refused, and the mother said, 'I'm not used to it.' ’
In her later years, her mother was seriously ill and admitted to the hospital, and when the child came back from thousands of miles, her mother was already dying after surgery. Looking at the mother, who was tortured by the disease, the child was overwhelmed with grief and burst into tears, but the mother said, 'Son, don't cry, I don't hurt.' ’”
The mother still thinks about her children's feelings when she is most painful, completely ignoring her own condition. This is the mother, who has no self in her heart but only her children.
How should children repay their parents' kindness? First of all, it is necessary to "adopt the body of the parents", so that the parents are physically and mentally happy, have no worries about the economy, and let the parents have good material security, which is the most basic. More importantly, it is to respect parents, "adoptive parents", do not let parents worry about their children all the time, so that "parents only worry about their illness", parents are only worried about their children's diseases, there is no need to worry about anything else, this is the real filial piety.
Therefore, it is necessary not only to support the body of the parents, but also to support the hearts of the parents and respect the parents. How can I respect my parents? The Book of Rites records how the ancients served their parents. Sons serve their parents by washing, combing their hair, putting on their hats, arranging ornaments, tying their hats, putting on their clothes, covering their knees, tying their belts, and inserting their wat boards when the rooster crows. This is the formal dress of the ancient dynasty, and it should be so grand and formal when meeting parents. Wear utensils on the left and right sides, which are things that parents may need, and then go to the place where your parents and in-laws live. When I arrived, I was calm and calm, and when I asked my parents what they needed, I respectfully sent what I wanted, and I was kind and pleasant, and I asked for warmth. If the parents are at fault, they calmly whisper and persuade them; If you can't listen to the persuasion, you should be more respectful and filial, and persuade again when your parents are happy; If the parents are angry, unhappy, or even beat their heads to the point of bleeding, they should not be disgusted or complained, but should be more respectful and filial; When you are about to do a good deed after the death of your parents, you must realize it when you think that you want your parents to leave a good reputation.
From this passage, we can feel the respect of the ancients for their parents, and I feel that I am already very respectful to my parents, but compared with the ancients, the respect is far behind. Why don't parents dare to disgust and complain when they beat their heads and bleed? Of course, the parents of the ancients also received good sage teachings, and they must be beaten because their children did something wrong, and it is also to let the children learn a lesson, and not to make the same mistakes next time, which is to prevent the slightest mistake. Children will not be disgusted or complain about their parents, and they will not have antagonism, disgust, complaining, conflict, or antagonism with anyone.
So, why is it said that the root cause of world conflict is the family? In the family, children rebel, dislike, and complain about their parents; When I go to school, the teacher will teach a few words, and there will be disgust, complaints, and can't listen; When you go to the work unit, the leader criticizes a few words, and there will still be rebellion and complaints. In fact, it is from the meaning of honoring one's parents to let go of "me", and letting go of "self-grasping", so that oneself can cultivate a heart that is not antagonistic to others under any circumstances, because the heart of confrontation, disgust, complaint, and anger does not correspond to one's own nature. Therefore, we must improve our self-cultivation from getting along bit by bit.
If people had acted according to reason, there would have been no such phenomenon as children not honoring their parents, daughters-in-law beating and scolding their in-laws, and sons sending their parents to the train station without support. So, where does respect come from? Start by honoring your parents. Children are respectful to their parents, and daughters-in-law will also be respectful to their in-laws, and many contradictions, conflicts, and antagonisms will not arise. Therefore, filial piety cannot wait, but must be followed
Do it, only then can you know what filial piety is and what is unfilial piety. Many people think that they are filial sons and have done a good job, and that is measured according to their own standards. Learn the teachings of the sages, and know how to repent and admit your mistakes to your parents where you have done wrong.
The word "life" has a "person" above, a "horizontal" in the middle, and a "knock" below. What do you mean? As soon as a person prostrates, his life is changed, why? Because I know that I am wrong, I still have the opportunity to repent and reform with my parents while my parents are alive, and don't let my life leave too many regrets.
There was a person named Yang Huang, who heard that Master Wuji of Sichuan was very moral and knowledgeable, so he traveled all the way to Sichuan to visit. On the way, I met a monk who asked Yang Hao, "What are you going to do?" Yang Hao said: "I heard that Master Wuji is very morally learned, and I want to go to study. The monk said, "If you want to learn from Master Wuji, you might as well learn directly from the Buddha." Yang Hao asked, "Where is the Buddha?" The monk said, "Now when you go home, if you come across a person wearing a quilt and shoes upside down, that person is a Buddha." After listening to the monk's words, Yang Hao began to walk back, staying in many hotels along the way, and did not meet a single person wearing a quilt and shoes, and returned home disappointed. It was already very late, Yang Hao raised her hand and knocked on the door, and the mother was overjoyed when she heard that her son was back, and she didn't care about putting on good shoes and clothes, so she opened the door for her son with a quilt and shoes upside down. Yang Huang saw that his mother was a Buddha and suddenly realized. From then on, Yang Hao served his mother until his death, and he himself lived to be over 80 years old and passed away.
The story of "Yang Huang looking for Buddha" tells people that the Buddha is seeking far away in his heart, and his parents are Buddhas. The ancients had a saying, "Respecting your parents at home is better than burning incense", the purpose of burning incense is to seek your own promotion and wealth, for selfishness, it is better to honor your parents at home. Why? Because this heart is grateful, respectful, and filial.
"All Futian, not far from the square inch, from the heart, the sense of everything", traditional culture emphasis on substance, not form. In the same way, the purpose of the sacrifice is to express gratitude to all things in heaven and earth, to the ancestors, and to those who have contributed to the country through these rituals. "Futian cultivates by heart", Entian, Jingtian, and Beitian are three kinds of Futian with rich returns. Confucius said, "If I sacrifice, I will be blessed." Because Confucius "sacrificed as if he was there, and sacrificed to the gods as if he was there", he raised his gratitude, respect, and filial piety through the ritual of sacrifice. Especially the fast pace of modern life, taking advantage of the Qingming Festival to be able to remember Zude and remember the kindness of parents, this is to cultivate blessings for themselves.