In this fast-paced modern society, we often get caught in a kind of busy vortex, rushing to shower and eat as if everything is racing against time.
However, real life should not be so perfunctory. A non-perfunctory life means not taking a combat bath or eating a combat meal, but keeping time for yourself, feeling the beauty of life, and pursuing inner peace and satisfaction.
1. Always perfunctory yourself, you don't have a good life
Always perfunctory means a lack of attention and devotion to one's own life, and a casual, sloppy attitude towards all aspects of life. Such behavior often leads to a series of undesirable consequences, which ultimately make it difficult to live a satisfying and fulfilling life.
Perfunctory self is first and foremost manifested in the neglect of personal goals and dreams. For example, many people have lofty ideals when they are young, but when faced with real difficulties and setbacks, they choose to retreat and give up, and instead choose a job that they are not passionate about, just to make ends meet.
They mechanically repeat monotonous work every day, but never strive to pursue a career that truly satisfies and is worthwhile. This perfunctory pursuit of dreams makes it difficult for them to achieve a sense of accomplishment and happiness at work.
When it comes to health, people who are self-conscious may often stay up late, overeat, or lack exercise for a long time. They know that these bad habits are harmful to their health, but they do not change them because they are lazy or indulgent.
Over time, the physical condition gradually deteriorated, and various diseases came to the door, seriously affecting the quality of life.
In interpersonal relationships, perfunctory self-expression manifests as insincerity towards others, or an unwillingness to spend time and energy on maintaining and managing relationships.
Such a person may choose to be indifferent when a friend needs help, or lack patience and care when it comes to getting along with family. Eventually, they can find themselves in a situation of loneliness and isolation, lacking real emotional support.
Just like Mr. Lu Xun said: "Where there is a genius, I use other people's coffee to work." "Mr. Lu Xun wrote diligently all his life and was undetentious about his literary career, and it was this dedication and devotion that made him a giant in the history of Chinese literature.
On the contrary, Fang Zhongyong was smart since he was a child and could "point to things and make poems", but his father used it as a tool to make money and did not let him continue to study, and finally "disappeared from everyone".
This is precisely because Fang Zhongyong himself and his family treated his talent and future perfunctorily and did not pay enough attention to and cultivate, which led to the waste of his talent.
In short, people who are always perfunctory often miss the opportunity to realize their dreams, damage their physical and mental health, and destroy good interpersonal relationships.
Only by taking your life seriously, pursuing, working hard, and caring with your heart, can you live a meaningful and happy life.
2. What is perfunctory?
Perfunctory refers to adopting a careless, unserious, and irresponsible attitude towards one's own needs, growth, dreams, and all aspects of life.
Perfunctory self-esteem often manifests itself in neglect of personal development. For example, some people are obviously interested in and have potential in a certain field, but because they are afraid of difficulties or are too lazy to put in the effort, they do not study and explore deeply, and waste the opportunity to improve themselves.
It's like Cervantes said, "Today's failures breed tomorrow's success." However, when faced with failure, instead of learning from it and trying to improve, people who perfunctory themselves choose to avoid or ignore it.
In daily behavior, perfunctory self-expression may be reflected in coping with the trivial things of life. For example, always eating some non-nutritious food casually, instead of preparing a healthy diet with care; Or the room is disorganized and untidy, lacking attention and love for the living environment.
For example, Kuang Heng was diligent and studious when he was young, but because of his poor family, he couldn't afford to light the lamp and read at night. But he did not perfunctory his curiosity, but chiseled the wall to steal the light, studied hard, and finally became a generation of celebrities.
On the contrary, King Zhou You smiled for Bo Gong, played the princes, and treated national affairs perfunctorily, which eventually led to the destruction of the country.
Another example, some students are perfunctory in their studies, plagiarize their homework, cheat in exams, and do not really grasp the knowledge, and seem to have spent their student years easily, but after entering the society, they hit a wall everywhere due to the lack of knowledge and ability.
A person who perfunctory himself is like a stone that is not polished and carved, and can never show his own light.
In short, perfunctory self is a lack of respect and planning for one's own life, and treating life with a passable mentality, which ultimately makes it difficult to realize self-worth and obtain true happiness and satisfaction.
3. How to live a life without perfunctory?
A non-perfunctory life is one that takes every aspect of life positively, seriously, and attentively. To achieve a non-perfunctory life, the following aspects are crucial.
First, be clear about your goals and values. Know clearly what you want and what is really important to you.
For example, at the beginning of his establishment of Alibaba, Jack Ma made it clear that his goal was to change the business landscape through the Internet and provide a platform for small and medium-sized enterprises.
He stayed true to this goal and overcame many obstacles to become a business legend. As Socrates said, "There is no happier thing in the world than to strive for an ideal." ”
Secondly, pay attention to details and treat every aspect of daily life with care. Whether it's a well-prepared breakfast or a careful tidying up of your room, you can show respect for life.
Jiro Ono, the "God of Sushi" in Japan, has been pursuing to make perfect sushi all his life. His meticulous attention to detail in the selection of ingredients, the steaming of the rice, and the strength of his hands has made his sushi a world-renowned delicacy.
Also, maintain a learning and growth mindset. Constantly improve your knowledge and skills, and have the courage to try new things.
Before Lei Jun founded Xiaomi, he had already made certain achievements in the Internet industry, but he still continued to learn and explore, and finally succeeded in building a well-known brand of Xiaomi.
He once said, "Standing on the tuyere, pigs can fly." But only if you are prepared and have the ability to keep learning and adapting to change.
In addition, we must learn to cherish our time and arrange our lives reasonably. It can be a daily period of meditation or a regular trip. Give your soul a vacation, feel the beauty of nature, and think about the meaning of life.
Tao Yuanming did not bend his waist for five buckets of rice, resigned and went into hiding, and lived a life of "picking chrysanthemums under the east fence and leisurely seeing Nanshan". He set aside time for himself to stay away from the hustle and bustle of the world and pursue inner peace and freedom, which is a model of non-perfunctory life.
At the same time, it is necessary to cultivate a positive and optimistic attitude, and not give up easily in the face of difficulties and setbacks. In the process of inventing the electric light, Edison experienced numerous failures, but he always remained optimistic, believing that he could succeed and ultimately bring light to mankind.
In short, a non-perfunctory life is an attitude of responsibility for oneself and the pursuit of a better life. Let's say goodbye to the battle bath and battle meal, keep the time to ourselves, feel every moment of life with our hearts, and create a wonderful life of our own.
Recommend a few books that don't perfunctory life to everyone:
1, "Ordinary World" - Lu Yao: The book depicts the scenes of many ordinary people who do not give up in the face of the hardships and setbacks of life, and work hard to live and struggle in the context of the times. Let readers understand that although life is full of hardships, it is worth taking seriously and fighting hard.
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2. "The Road Less Traveled" - M·Scott· Pike: This book is full of communication and understanding, it transcends the limitations of the times, helps us explore the nature of love, and guides us to live a new, quiet and rich life; It helps us learn to love and also to be independent; It teaches us to be more competent and understanding parents. In short, it is a guide to guide people to mental maturity and not perfunctory their own hearts and lives.
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3, "The Kite Runner" - Khaled · Hosseini: On the themes of friendship, betrayal, redemption, etc., in the context of Afghanistan, we can see the complexity of human nature and the cruelty of life, and the protagonist bravely faces the transformation of life in order to make up for the past.
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