The beginning of marriage: It seems beautiful, but in fact it hides hidden worries
Xiao Lu and Fang Yinuo's marriage is a beautiful marriage on the surface. However, under this calm surface, there are hidden dangers that can destroy the whole family.
Xiao Lu was born in poverty, and the experience of poverty in his childhood planted a deep seed of inferiority complex in his heart. He secretly vowed to get ahead and give his wife and children a good life.
This obsession drives him to climb upward, but it also makes him lose sight of the most important emotional connection in marriage. Deep in Xiao Lu's heart, there is always a voice reminding him: If other people's wives and children have, their own wives and children must also have them.
This mentality leads Xiao Lu to constantly please everyone in his marriage and humbly reconcile any contradictions. He is especially concerned about the opinions of his father-in-law and mother-in-law, for fear of being looked down upon.
During the Chinese New Year, he would give 1,000 yuan to his father-in-law and mother-in-law, but only 800 yuan to his mother. This seemingly small gap of 200 yuan is actually the price that Xiao Lu paid to make up for the loss of self-esteem in his childhood.
Fang Yinuo is a simple woman, and her expectations for marriage are not high. What she longs for is not a luxury car, but a warm home, a shoulder to lean on when she needs it.
However, she didn't realize that love alone could not sustain a long-lasting marriage. Fang Yinuo does not have high requirements for material life, but she hopes that her husband can be there when she and her children need it.
After getting married, the two had only $78,400 in savings. This figure seems so insignificant in today's skyrocketing prices. It is like a time bomb that could detonate the conflict between the couple at any time.
Xiao Lu was anxious about this, but Fang Yinuo didn't seem to realize the seriousness of the problem. In this way, with their respective expectations and anxieties, they embarked on the journey of marriage. However, none of them realized that the marriage lacked a solid foundation from the start. Xiao Lu wants to make money first and then have children, while Fang Yinuo pays more attention to emotional needs.
This fundamental divide, like an invisible crack, gradually widens over time. Their marriage is like a castle built on the sand, which seems beautiful, but it cannot withstand the test of wind and rain.
This beginning laid the groundwork for future conflicts, and also indicated that they would face a difficult marriage test.
The rift is emerging: the birth of a child and the absence of a father
When the news of Fang Yinuo's pregnancy came, it should have been a joyful moment, but it became the beginning of a marriage rift. There was no joy on Xiao Lu's face, but a deep worry. He is well aware that the arrival of a new life means greater financial pressure. This reaction disappointed Fang Yinuo, but she chose to understand her husband's pressure.
On the day of delivery, Fang Yinuo's painful cries echoed in the corridor of the hospital, but her husband, who was supposed to be by her side, was delayed. When Fang Yinuo was waiting for labor, he thoughtfully said to Xiao Lu: "You hurry back to work, there is no need for two people to spend time here, it's not that my mother is here, I'll call you again if there is something." "
However, this thoughtfulness did not come in exchange for the company of her husband. Xiao Lu chose to go home, not for work, but to open the refrigerator and take out a beer to drink. His heart is full of contradictions and struggles, on the one hand, he is worried about his imminent fatherhood, and on the other hand, he is worried about his future life.
He sat at home, his face devoid of the joy of fatherhood, only a deep sadness. When Fang Yinuo came out of the operating room, his eyes were full of disappointment and loneliness. She gave birth to their child with a hoarse voice, but she did not see her husband when she needed it most.
This absence has become an eternal thorn in her heart. Fang Yinuo's face was full of loneliness, she tried her best to give birth to a child in the operating room, but her husband didn't know where to go. The birth of He He was supposed to be a new beginning, but it became the fuse of contradictions.
Soon after giving birth, Fang Yinuo encountered an embarrassing situation - she on her pants. Xiao Lu wanted to help deal with it, but his wife refused. Fang Yinuo said with resentment: "What kind of good person are you pretending to be now."
Why did you go when I was born, you just don't want this child, do you? This sentence stung Xiao Lu deeply. He was silent, for he knew that his wife had spoken to his innermost thoughts.
It is true that he is not ready to be a father, but he does not dare to say it, so he can only bear everything humbly. Xiao Lu's expression was full of guilt and helplessness, he wanted to explain, but he didn't know where to start.
From Fang Yinuo's pregnancy to He He's first birthday, in the past two years, Fang Yinuo has not let Xiao Lu touch him. This alienation is not only physical, but also psychological.
Although Xiao Lu often expressed that he wanted to be intimate with his wife, Fang Yinuo always shirked it for various reasons. In this way, the new life, which should have been full of joy, became the first crack in their marriage.
Although this rift is small, it is like a spider's web, slowly spreading to all corners of the marriage. Xiao Lu and Fang Yinuo both realized the existence of the problem, but they both chose to remain silent, hoping that time would heal the scar. What they don't know, however, is that this is just the beginning of their marital problems.
Contradictions intensify: the life of gathering less and leaving more and the heart of gradually drifting away
He He's birth seemed to press the fast-forward button, and Xiao Lu began to work and socialize day and night. He always convinced himself that it was all about giving his wife and children a better life. However, he neglected that the most important thing was the company of his family. Every day when he returned home, Xiao Lu would see Fang Yinuo's tired figure.
She takes care of the children alone and takes on all the household chores. Her eyes were full of antiquation, longing for her husband to spend more time with her and the children. But each time, all that awaited was a drunken figure and a promise full of alcohol.
Once, Xiao Lu came home drunk and said to his wife: "I must make a lot of money to buy you a big house so that you can live a good life with your daughter." I promise that we will never queue up again for injections in the future, and I will find you four nannies. These words reveal Xiao Lu's inner guilt and persistent pursuit of material life. Fang Yinuo knew in her heart that what she wanted was not a big house, but a warm home.
She began to count all kinds of things that her husband was not like, from the absence when she gave birth to the child, to the current gathering less and more separation. Every sentence pierced Xiao Lu's heart like a knife. The details of life have also become the fuse of contradictions.
Once, Fang Yinuo found Xiao Lu wearing torn socks, she said: "These socks are all broken like this, how many times have I thrown them away, and I picked them up again." Xiao Lu replied: "I can't see it, I still have to buy a house." "It's a small detail that reflects their different aspirations for quality of life. The contradictions between the two continue to accumulate in their daily lives. Once, when her daughter wanted to get vaccinated, Xiao Lu was queuing up to pay the money, and met someone who wanted to cut the line.
Xiao Lu didn't agree, and educated the man. However, Fang Yinuo walked over with a big grin and directly inserted it into the first one. This kind of behavior made Xiao Lu feel faceless, and he was even complained by his wife that "I can't line up".
Xiao Lu felt aggrieved, he felt that he had done his best. He didn't understand why his wife wasn't satisfied. So, he began to hide and use his work to escape the pressure of his family.
He even began to miss the freedom he had when he was single. For two years, conjugal life became a luxury. Fang Yinuo refused Xiao Lu's closeness on the grounds of taking care of the child.
And Xiao Lu, although he verbally expressed that he wanted to be affectionate, he was relieved in his heart. Their feelings have become indifferent in the estrangement day after day. Xiao Lu and Fang Yinuo's marriage is like a ship drifting in the vast sea.
They all thought that each other no longer cared, but they didn't know that they both had deep disappointment and helplessness hidden in each other's hearts. Xiao Lu is immersed in his career and hopes to use money to fill the gap in his relationship.
Fang Yinuo devoted all his energy to the child, trying to get comfort from it. Their home gradually turned into a cold hotel. Xiao Lu went home less and less, and Fang Yinuo complained more and more.
The communication between the two has changed from warmth to mutual accusations. They are all giving for this marriage, but they are neglecting the all-important communication and understanding. In this way, their marriage is like a ship that is drifting away, carrying two lonely hearts, drifting in the vast sea of people.
They all thought that each other no longer cared, but they didn't know that they both had deep disappointment and helplessness hidden in each other's hearts. This kind of life of gathering less and leaving more not only did not shorten the distance between them, but made the two hearts go further and further.
Crisis erupts: the haze of an extramarital affair and the final struggle
Just when Xiao Lu and Fang Yinuo's marriage was on the verge of collapse, a woman named Zhu Zhu appeared. At first, Xiao Lu approached Zhu Zhu just for work, but after a drunken time, the two had a relationship. This incident became the last straw that broke the camel's back. When Xiao Lu sobered up, his heart was full of guilt and self-blame.
He said to Zhu Zhu: "I have to be responsible for my family, I have a wife and children, Zhu Zhu, let's stop here." Xiao Lu's attitude is very clear, he wants to sever his relationship with Zhu Zhu and protect his family.
However, fate seems to have played a cruel joke on him. That night, He He fell ill. Fang Yinuo anxiously waited for her husband's return, but waited for a call from a strange woman.
At that moment, she felt like the whole world had collapsed. She couldn't believe that the family she had worked so hard to run was easily destroyed by an outsider. When Xiao Lu returned home, he saw his wife's red eyes and cold eyes.
He wanted to explain, but he didn't know where to start. Fang Yinuo didn't make a big noise, just silently took care of the sick child, and this silence was more suffocating than any scolding. Zhu Zhu later commented on this relationship, she said that Xiao Lu and Fang Yinuo's marriage had long gone wrong, and she only ignited the long-standing contradictions.
This quote speaks to the essence of their marriage: the problem is not with outsiders, but with themselves. In the days that followed, both worked to save the marriage. Xiao Lu cut down on socializing and tried to spend more time with his family.
He began to reflect on his actions and realized that he had neglected the emotional needs of his family while pursuing material things. Fang Yinuo also tried to understand her husband's pressure, tried to restrain her emotions, and gave her husband more tolerance.
However, the rift was too deep for no amount of effort to remedy. Once trust is lost, it is difficult to rebuild. The doubts and uneasiness in Fang Yinuo's heart lingered, while Xiao Lu felt powerless and frustrated.
They are like two tired travelers, knowing that there is a cliff ahead, but they are still barely moving forward. They are all waiting for an opportunity to rekindle the spark of love, or to cut off the relationship completely.
But in any case, they both know that this marriage is difficult to go back to.
Divorce and separation: 40,000 yuan to uncover the truth of marriage
Finally, on a calm morning, Fang Yinuo and Xiao Lu came to the Civil Affairs Bureau. The staff asked routinely, "Have you thought about it?" This sentence made both of them fall into deep thought. It can be seen from their hesitation that neither party is fully prepared for divorce.
Xiao Lu hesitated, he said: "Wife, why don't we think about it again, I promise not to work overtime or drink in the future, and I will not do anything that makes you misunderstand again." This sentence revealed that deep down he didn't want to give up this marriage.
However, a phone call interrupts their conversation. Fang Yinuo picked up the phone and said, "Here, at the Civil Affairs Bureau, I'll be done in a while." This sentence made Xiao Lu mistakenly think that his wife had made up his mind, so he signed it silently.
When Fang Yinuo came back, he saw that Xiao Lu had signed, and his eyes were full of disappointment. She also quickly signed it, and the two no longer have a husband and wife relationship. At the door of the Civil Affairs Bureau, the two stood for a long time and were reluctant to leave, and finally hugged each other and said goodbye.
Whether it is Fang Yinuo's tears or Xiao Lu's desperate slapping of his mouth, it can be seen that the two are actually unwilling to divorce. When the two actually began to divide the property, the conflict broke out again.
They were to divide the $78,400 deposit equally. It should have been a simple matter, but it was complicated by Fang Yinuo's words: "Your brother Xiao Xu took a total of 9 times from the two of us, saying that he borrowed money but didn't pay it back once, and took a total of 21,000 yuan."
This sentence completely shattered the last trace of warmth in Xiao Lu's heart. Fang Yinuo was not to be outdone, and poured out all his dissatisfaction: "I on my body, right, in order to give birth to you a child, I on my body and let you serve that time, I will remember your disgusted expression for the rest of your life."
In the end, Fang Yinuo took 40,000 yuan. The 40,000 yuan is not just a number, but more like a demon mirror, reflecting all the contradictions and unbearable in their marriage. It reveals Xiao Lu's inner inferiority complex and vanity, and also exposes Fang Yinuo's material consideration.
When they each took the divided property and left, they found that the real problem was never money, but the trust and understanding they had long lost. The 40,000 yuan became the last straw that crushed their marriage, and it also became the best footnote to their marriage tragedy.