Introduction
Having a baby is both sacred and challenging. Many expectant mothers not only have to endure great physical pain in the process of welcoming a new life, but also face many unavoidable feelings of embarrassment and shame.
Whether it is prenatal examination or childbirth, the private parts of pregnant mothers have to be exposed in front of medical staff. Despite the fact that doctors are professionally trained, this public exposure still makes many expectant mothers uncomfortable. If you encounter some "unexpected situations" again, it will be even more shameful.
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I saw a case on the Internet before, saying that a pregnant mother born in the 90s encountered something embarrassing to her during the process of natural delivery.
Because it was the first time to give birth, the pregnant mother was very nervous, coupled with excessive force, and suddenly had a "physiological need". At that time, there were many doctors present, and the pregnant mother could only forcibly endure it, and after a while, her face was red and her expression was very embarrassed.
The delivery was attended by an experienced male doctor who knew what was going on as soon as he saw the pregnant mother's expression. So, he calmly said to the pregnant mother: "Don't worry, relax, this situation is very common." Holding yourself back is uncomfortable, and it's not good for the baby, so let's solve it here! ”
Hearing the doctor say this, although the pregnant mother felt extremely embarrassed, she could only solve it on her own in bed. Fortunately, the doctors were very professional and no one showed any complaints, which also made the pregnant mother feel a little comforted.
I believe that any pregnant mother will feel extremely embarrassed to encounter "physiological needs" during normal delivery, but in fact, the probability of this happening is not low. Giving birth to a baby is not only an extremely painful thing, but it is also likely to cause the pregnant mother to lose all dignity.
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These embarrassing things during childbirth can't be avoided if you want to
In fact, there are often some embarrassing situations during childbirth, and here are a few typical examples:
"Physiological needs"
During a normal birth, the woman needs to use the strength of the birth canal muscles to "squeeze" the baby out, which is similar to the force used during bowel movements. In addition, there will be a strong urge to defecate when the uterine opening is opened, and these two factors are superimposed, and it is easy to incontinent during childbirth.
Therefore, sometimes it is not only the baby that is born forcefully, but also a lump of stool. This situation, although awkward, is common in the delivery room.
Prepare the skin
Skin preparation refers to the shaving of the hair on the private parts before delivery to prevent infection in the newborn. Some pregnant women require lateral incision, and skin preparation can be easily handled. Since the skin preparation is performed in the private parts, many pregnant mothers will feel extreme shame and discomfort.
If it is a male doctor, the shame is multiplied. However, skin preparation is very important for a smooth delivery and the health of the newborn, and pregnant mothers should overcome psychological barriers and cooperate with doctors.
Check the opening of the uterus
Before a vaginal delivery, the doctor needs to check the degree of opening of the uterine opening, which requires the doctor to insert his finger directly into the pregnant woman's body. This process is inevitably reminiscent of certain behaviors, especially when a male doctor examines the pregnant woman, who may feel a physiological reaction that makes it even more embarrassing.
However, an open uterine examination is an important step to ensure a smooth delivery, and pregnant mothers should try to relax and cooperate with the doctor.
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Some ways for pregnant mothers to cope with embarrassment
For pregnant mothers with good face and poor psychological tolerance, these embarrassing moments are indeed unbearable. However, for doctors, these things have long been strange. Therefore, the embarrassment of pregnant mothers is actually unnecessary. Here are some ways to ease embarrassment:
Know what's possible ahead of time
The best way to alleviate embarrassment is to have a prior understanding of what to expect before having a baby. It is recommended that pregnant mothers communicate with people with childbirth experience to understand their psychological reactions before and after the event, and can also read more relevant information to understand the causes behind them.
In this way, the pregnant mother can have a psychological expectation of the possible embarrassment, and even if it finally happens, it will not produce too strong emotions.
Believe in the professional ethics of doctors
Doctors are professionally ethical, even male doctors, who are professionally trained. In their eyes, pregnant mothers are just patients, customers, and not other identities. Therefore, pregnant mothers do not need to feel embarrassed in front of these people, but should temporarily put down their dignity and focus on giving birth to children.
Adjust your mindset
From pregnancy to childbirth, many unexpected situations can happen throughout the process. Pregnancy and childbirth is a great test for women, and this also reflects the greatness of motherhood. Pregnant mothers should adjust their mentality and focus on the birth of their baby, rather than paying too much attention to their own embarrassment.
A message from Guo's mother
Having a baby is not only a physical challenge, but also a huge psychological test. Despite all the embarrassments and shames that may be encountered during childbirth, none of these can overshadow the greatness of the mother. It is because of these experiences that every mother is stronger and braver.
Having a baby is also a process full of challenges and surprises, and despite many awkward and embarrassing moments, the joy of finally welcoming a new life is incomparable. I hope that all expectant mothers can let go of their psychological burden and welcome the arrival of their babies with peace of mind.
Interactive topic: Everyone's childbirth experience is unique, what do you think is the most embarrassing thing when giving birth? Feel free to leave a message below and share your story, so that more expectant mothers can be prepared and reduce embarrassment and discomfort.
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About author:Guo Ma, a family education instructor, focuses on sharing parenting knowledge, parent-child education experience, marriage and family insights, welcome to pay attention.