Those things in married life, you know
Xiao Li, who has been married for many years, has been very troubled recently. He worked hard to drive a big truck, coming and going in the wind and rain, just to make more money for his family. But who knows, the daughter-in-law actually wants to give his hard-earned money to other men to buy a car! This can make Xiao Li angry.
Speaking of which, Xiao Li and his daughter-in-law have been married for five years and have a lovely child. As a truck driver, Xiao Li travels all year round and rarely spends time with his family. In order to make up for this debt, he always handed over all the money he earned to his daughter-in-law to take care of, and only kept a little pocket money for himself.
Xiao Li thought to himself that although he couldn't be at home all the time, he could at least use money to express his love for his family. He was frugal, and even ate with a few bites of instant noodles in the car. In this way, the life of the couple is quite moist.
But recently, the company's efficiency has not been good, and Xiao Li has not received his salary for several months. This can make the daughter-in-law reveal her true nature, complaining all day long that Xiao Li is incompetent, and saying that she regrets marrying him. Xiao Li felt aggrieved, but he was helpless.
Finally, one day, the company paid the arrears. Xiao Li returned home with the money, and was counting it beautifully, when his daughter-in-law suddenly said: "My male girlfriend wants to buy a car, let him use the money." ＂
This can make Xiao Li angry. He thought of his hard work over the years, how could he let his daughter-in-law give money to others casually? He immediately refused: "Why should I give him my money?" It's not a strong wind, so you don't have to make up your mind. I'm going to keep this money for my children! ＂
Who knew that the daughter-in-law not only did not feel that she was wrong, but complained that Xiao Li was stingy and did not treat her "male girlfriend" as her own. Now Xiao Li couldn't cry or laugh even more.
Actually, similar things are not uncommon in life. Some people always like to maintain an ambiguous relationship with the opposite sex, which is called "girlfriends". But as everyone knows, such behavior can easily hurt one's other half and even destroy family harmony.
Take Xiao Li's daughter-in-law as an example, she may think that chatting and helping out with her "male girlfriend" is not a big deal. But from Xiao Li's point of view, why should he give his hard-earned money to a man he doesn't know? What's more, this man still appeared as a "best friend".
In marriage, trust and respect between husband and wife are paramount. If one party always puts his mind on others, then the other party will naturally feel uneasy and unvalued. In the long run, the emotional rift will get bigger and bigger.
In fact, it is not difficult to maintain a healthy marital relationship. First of all, learn to empathize. What would you think if the roles were reversed? Second, know how to set boundaries. When getting along with friends of the opposite sex, you should be careful and don't cross the line. Finally, cherish the people in front of you. Remember, the one who can accompany you to the end is always the one who shares your ups and downs.
Returning to Xiao Li's story, it is not difficult to find that the root of the problem lies in the lack of communication between husband and wife. Xiao Li is away all the year round, and he and his wife get together less and leave more. Although he used money to express his love, he ignored the importance of emotional communication. And his wife, probably because of her long-term loneliness, will turn her attention to the so-called "male girlfriend".
So, for couples like Xiao Li, my advice is: spend more time with each other and listen to each other's thoughts and needs. Even if you're busy at work, make time to make a phone call and send a message. Make the other person feel that you care and care.
At the same time, for friends of the opposite sex, you must know how to keep an appropriate distance. Don't do things that hurt your family because of a momentary favor or vanity. Remember, the person who truly loves you is always the one who is willing to give for you.
In closing, I would like to say that marriage requires two people to run it together. When encountering problems, don't blindly blame each other, but face and solve them together. Only in this way can the relationship become deeper and deeper, and the family can become happier and happier.
What do you think, friends? Feel free to share your thoughts and experiences with everyone in the comment section. Maybe your story will inspire and help others. Let's work together to create a better married life!