Elegance is a beauty that will not fade

When a person reaches a certain age, his inner self-requirements will change. More elegant, more decent, more measured.

If we want to learn elegance and cultivate calmly, what directions can we start from? Tonight's night reading may give you some inspiration.

Author: Xiaoxue

The spirit of perfection

Embrace imperfect calmness

Elegance is the pursuit of perfection and the calmness of accepting imperfection.

On the road of life, we must spare no effort to work hard, work hard, and have the goal of longing for perfection; But we also have to accept the occurrence of regrets, when you find that there are imperfections jumping everywhere in your life, but you can still look at it with a normal heart, allow, accept, and find a way to get along with imperfections, which is the beginning of growth.

Maintain an "upward stance"

Elegance is a force for upwardness, beauty, and goodness.

Upward means that no matter how bad life is, there is still the courage and confidence to move forward; Beauty means that no matter what age or circumstances, we do not give up beauty and do not neglect ourselves; Kindness refers to compassion, the ability to pretend to be others, the ability to empathize with others' difficulties, and the ability to respect others' choices.

Focus on the enjoyment of the process

Writer Virginia · Woolf said: "Life is not an arrangement, but a pursuit, and the meaning of life may never have an answer, but we must also enjoy this life without answers." ”

We are accustomed to focusing on the ending and getting the answer as soon as possible, but we ignore the enjoyment of the process. When you decide to set off, take it back and relax, as the scenery on the road is far richer, more varied, and more thought-provoking than where you arrive. Look slowly and feel with your heart.

Be curious

Keep an open mind and be curious about things, then everyday life will be full of fun. Elegance is not "holding", it is not restraining oneself, elegance should exude the vitality of life.

With a love for the things around you, a desire to explore and deepen your understanding, you will be asked to maintain your ability to learn in the process. As long as you are constantly absorbing new things, your eyes on the world will always be young.

Insist on self-discipline

Elegance is inseparable from self-discipline. A person's self-discipline is a walking business card, and it is the manifestation of life habits and attitudes.

Self-discipline is exchanged for self-belief, even if it is a small change, perseverance can be rewarding. For example, instead of sitting down or lying down immediately after eating, insist on standing for 30 minutes, which will have a positive effect on the shaping of the body over time.

In short, encourage yourself, reward yourself – get moving.

The charm of a smile

Laughter represents relaxation and joy in life. Harness emotions instead of whining and indulging in bad tempers. Comparing an angry face with a relaxed face, you will find that a smile is the best cosmetics, and in a poem: laughter is the music of the soul.

One of the most important abilities of an adult is the ability to keep smiling and laughing no matter what the situation. It's important to be happy, and it's important to think about all unhappy things from a happy perspective.

No fear of age

Don't give up what you want deep down because of age, and believe that life at different ages needs brave people, because it has prepared different challenges and surprises for us.

Starting from scratch is a rare joy in life, no matter what age you start. The past years and experiences are the confidence for you to reschedule your life, just take love as the direction and move forward to your heart's content.

Think of yourself as a fulcrum

When it comes to life, the only reliable fulcrum is not someone else, it's yourself.

The so-called elegance is a kind of resilience and strength of "I rely on myself to go through the wind and rain": in the face of problems, you are no longer afraid, but bold to deal with them; In the face of impermanence, you are no longer anxious and panicked, but calm and calm.

When you think of yourself as the fulcrum, you can truly feel at ease, self-sufficiency, and freedom.

Know how to be grateful

Time will always take away a year of your years unconsciously, but it will give you a year of experience, a year of stories, and a year of wisdom. When you find that you are a little calmer, a little wiser, and a little more mature, you must remember to be grateful for the time, the people and things you have encountered, and your persistence in growth.

The tempering of time is the best definition of elegance. The so-called elegance has never been an eternal state of achievement, but in order to meet a better self and maintain a posture of eternal growth.

The content is excerpted from Xiaoxue's "Elegance" trilogy:

"Elegance", "Elegance is a Strength", "Graceful Turn"

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