In sincere friendship and love, mutual respect and understanding build a solid foundation. Someone who genuinely cares about you will not only care about your feelings, but will also be careful about how they communicate with you. They don't endlessly pour out negative emotions on you and leave you with an undue mental burden.
There will inevitably be stress and unhappiness in life, and occasionally you need to confide in friends for relief. If a person persistently ignores your emotional capacity and repeatedly treats you as an emotional trash can, this has transcended the boundaries of sharing and become an emotional violation.
A person who values you, when they can't help but vent, will first observe your state, choose the right time, and communicate with you in a more considerate way. They know that protecting each other's emotions is more important than venting in the moment. What's more, we tend to share happy moments with loved ones and create memories to cherish together.
If you choose to spend your energy on torturing your partner, this behavior not only hurts the other person, but also potentially poses a threat to the friendship relationship.
The resort to cold violence is not a sign of avoidance or cowardice, but a necessary means of self-preservation and emotional cleansing. What you need is a partner who can support each other and grow together, not a one-sided emotional taker.
Don't be afraid to make decisions to protect your mental and emotional well-being. The timely distancing gives her the opportunity to reflect on her own actions while also creating a more positive and healthy emotional environment for herself.
Remember, true care is a two-way street, and it's built on empathy, respect, and understanding. Any kind of one-way outpouring of emotions should not be the culprit in upsetting this balance. Cherish yourself, let the people around you value you as well, and together create a living space full of positive energy and warm memories.