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"There is no feast in the world". This is true, even if it is a grand gathering, it will eventually usher in the moment when everyone will disperse.
In stark contrast, the feast of the soul can transcend time and space and reach eternity.
When we look back at those ancient poems that have been passed down through the ages, we can't help but think: what is true companionship and fellowship? Is it the laughter and laughter in the intertwined scenes, or the fit and resonance in the depths of the soul? "There is a confidant in the sea, and the end of the world is like a neighbor." The poems of the ancients have already given us the answer - the connection of the heart is the longest companionship.
Entering the second half of life, we may find that the circle of friends around us is quietly changing. There are fewer lively dinners, and many friends from the past are also going their separate ways, but this does not mean that it is lonely.
True freedom and transparency do not come from the hustle and bustle of the outside world, but from inner peace and contentment.
Next, let's explore these four proverbs that make life more transparent.
The first sentence: "There is a confidant in the sea, and the end of the world is like a neighbor." ”
"There is a confidant in the sea, and the end of the world is like a neighbor." This classic poem in Wang Bo's "Sending Du Shaofu to Shuzhou" is like a clear spring flowing, showing that the depth of friendship has nothing to do with distance.
It evokes the yearning for sincere friendship in our hearts, the tacit understanding and companionship that is not limited by time and space.
Life is a long road, and as time goes by, we will be more or less faced with the situation that those former best friends who used to spend happy moments with us seem to be drifting away, and the once bustling and lively party scene is now sparse and deserted.
At this time, there may be a trace of loneliness and melancholy in our hearts, but the wisdom in ancient poems reminds us not to be overly pessimistic.
Because in this unpredictable journey of life, a true confidant is like a rare treasure, even if he is in a different place, he can also tacitly understand and have a long affection.
When faced with the drifting away of our former friends, we don't have to feel alone and lost.
True confidants can feel the connection of each other's hearts even if they are not around.
Those classic modern literary works also tell us that every journey in life is worth cherishing and recalling, because together they make up our colorful life.
The second sentence: "It is enough to have a confidant in life, and the world should treat it with the same heart." ”
"It is enough to have a confidant in life, and the world should treat it with the same heart." These profound words are a portrayal of Mr. Lu Xun's sincere feelings for Qu Qiubai, and embody the deep friendship between the two great men. Its meaning is not only to express the cherishing of sincere friendship, but also to the satisfaction and emotion of having a confidant in life.
In complex interpersonal relationships, we may meet all kinds of people, but there are very few confidants who can truly understand ourselves and connect with our hearts.
Just as the ancients said: "Acquaintances are all over the world, how many people can you know?" ”
Remind people to cherish friends who can understand and support each other. In our daily lives, we tend to meet many people, but there are not many friends who can really communicate on a spiritual level, so such friendships are especially precious.
In the long river of history, there is no shortage of good stories about confidants. For example, in the ancient Yu Boya and Zhongzi period, their friendship has been praised through the ages, and only the period can accurately interpret the deep meaning of the sound of the Boya piano and become a real bosom friend. This kind of spiritual fit is the true portrayal of "being born with a confidant".
In the modern medical classic "Treatise on Typhoid Fever", Zhang Zhongjing also emphasized that doctors need to know the patient's condition and psychological state, which also requires a "confidant" understanding and insight. If a doctor cannot understand the patient's body and mind, how can he cure the disease? This deep understanding of the patient is similar to the love of a confidant in life.
Looking at people today, it is not difficult for us to find that in the second half of the journey of life, people often no longer pursue the quantity of friends, but begin to pay attention to the quality of friends. A true confidant is worth more than a thousand friends.
Such friends may not have frequent gatherings and noise, but they can give the most sincere support and understanding at critical moments.
The third sentence: "The friendship between gentlemen is as light as water, and the friendship between villains is sweet." ”
"The friendship between gentlemen is as light as water, and the friendship between villains is sweet." This proverb, derived from the ancient "Zhuangzi", is like a bright pearl, through thousands of years of time, still shining, telling us the true meaning of interpersonal communication.
It profoundly depicts two completely different ways of communicating: "gentlemen's friendship is as light as water", which means that the interaction between true friends is like the clear mountain spring, pure and transparent, without any utilitarianism and calculation.
This kind of friendship is the depth of the baptism of the years, and it is a deep fit of the soul, without gorgeous words, only that tacit understanding and sincerity.
Looking back at the long history of modern China, the friendship between the martyrs who fought for the independence of the country and the liberation of the nation is precisely this kind of gentlemen's friendship that is "as light as water".
They fought side by side in hardships and hardships, resisting foreign aggression together, without asking for anything in return, just for that common ideal and belief. This kind of pure friendship is an important embodiment of the spirit of the Chinese nation.
In modern society, with the rapid development of science and technology and the explosive growth of information, the way people communicate with each other is also undergoing profound changes. However, no matter how the times change, the concept of "gentlemen's friendship is as light as water" still has important practical significance.
In complex relationships, we should learn to identify true friendships and cherish those friends who are willing to lend a helping hand when you are in trouble.
The fourth sentence: "It is better to be happy alone than to be happy in all." ”
"It is better to be happy alone than to be happy with all", this phrase comes from "Mencius · King Hui of Liang", a sentence that expresses the profound meaning of people sharing happiness. However, in the river of human growth, with the passage of time, there is often a situation where people are scattered and confidants are difficult to find.
In the second half of our lives, perhaps our former friends have faded away, and the prosperity of social interaction is no longer there, how should we interpret this wisdom of the ancients?
As the saying goes: "People go to tea and cool", this may be an unavoidable reality in life. But the true meaning of "joy for all" is not limited to the superficial noise and joy.
We can understand it on another level, and that is to spend time with our families, or to find peace of mind in silence.
Imagine that when night falls, the family sits around the warm fire, listens to melodious ancient songs, sipps tea, and talks about interesting stories of the past. Or, in your spare time, open an ancient book alone, let the thousand-year-old story unfold in front of you, feel the wisdom and feelings of the ancients, and feel the wealth and pleasure of the heart, isn't it also the transformation from "solo happiness" to "public happiness"?
The ancients said: "There is a golden house in the book, and there is Yan Ruyu in the book." This golden house and Yan Ruyu may be the peace and joy of the heart.
Even in the second half of our lives, when we face fewer friends and fewer social activities, we can find our own "happiness", that is, to share family with our families, or to find spiritual abundance in silence.
No matter how noisy or silent the outside world is, we can maintain a peaceful heart and find our own part of the fun. This is the new interpretation of "it is better to be happy alone than to be happy together" in the second half of life.
In the second half of life, the days without friends and dinners may make people feel lonely and lonely.
When we read these four sentences, our hearts become clear.
True friendship does not lie in the hustle and bustle of form, but in the deep fit and understanding of the soul. Even when we don't have friends around, we can still maintain inner peace and abundance.
The quality of life never depends on the evaluation and hustle and bustle of the outside world, but on the satisfaction and peace of our hearts.