I have seen such a sentence: "After 4050, they returned to the team one after another; Get ready after 6070. ”
Time is reincarnated, a generation is a reincarnation, and no one can resist it.
We used to stand in the field to herd cattle, double rob during the summer vacation, catch ducks in the evening, and swim in the river with our playmates.
In a flash, they were all gray-haired people, standing in their forties and fifties.
Looking back, how many families, parents have left, not to go to relatives, but into a pile of loess.
Dispel the fog of life little by little, and we see the following truths, which are very sad.
01
Except for your parents, there is no one to help you unconditionally.
In this world, there are many people who help, but how many people help for no reason?
When you are powerful, there are a lot of people who help, because they all want to slap you, at least to make a familiar face in front of you.
You also have someone to help you as you go up, and it's a potential value exchange. Because they know that you have a promising future, which is about the same as "available in the future".
"Who else sends charcoal in the snow", if you have experienced this truth, then you really understand the sophistication of human feelings.
Zheng Zhenduo said: "When you are successful, everyone is a friend." But only the mother - she is the partner when she fails. ”
Yes, your parents are the ones who help you unconditionally.
It's that your parents are very old and know that you are in trouble, and they will cry, and then find a way to scrape together a little money to let you eat a full meal.
Since you were a child, you have spent a lot of money on your parents, and you can't figure it out, and your parents never keep accounts anyway.
No matter how old you are, you are still a child in the eyes of your parents. Help with the baby, do housework, help your factory watch the gate, delivery, parents have no regrets.
Without the help of your parents, you find that the free "love" is true love, which is too precious.
02
If you don't have your parents, you can't go back.
After the 70s, the memory of their hometown is very deep.
There are landscapes, villages, cooking smoke, cattle, sheep, chickens and ducks, playmates, etc.
Under the old tree at the entrance of the village, there is a place for you to play. Draw a few squares and you can play chess; You find someone to kick the shuttlecock and jump the grid. If you lose, you will be in debt, and if you win, you will be proud.
When I was tired, I heard my mother shouting at the door, "Let's eat." The word "喽" is very long, and it is familiar to you as soon as you hear it.
When it was time to eat, he ran home.
Finally, you can't hear the phrase "eat", and it's cold when you get home.
The scythe on the wall, already rusty. You will remember your father going to mow the grass with a sickle.
The coat was also covered with dust, but it was full of memories, which my mother used when she went to plant rice.
Maybe there's a chicken coop, and there's not a chicken squatting in it for a long time, and there's no temperature at all.
The vicissitudes of the old house make you have mixed feelings, and you don't dare to stay for a long time.
The number of times you return to your hometown is starting to count on the limit. It's not that the hometown is bad, but the hometown no longer cares.
03
From now on, brothers and sisters are ordinary relatives.
When my parents died, my siblings said, "From now on, we will be the closest people." ”
Perhaps, brothers and sisters will hug their heads and cry, and they are always reluctant to separate.
Of course, there is also a bad situation where the parents start to fight for the inheritance before their bones are cold.
Whatever the case may be, you will always be separated from your siblings. Everyone is middle-aged and elderly, and they each have families.
When we are older, we forget about our parents and work hard for our own families.
They also move around each other during the New Year's holidays, but they always come in a hurry and don't have much communication. Pretty much the same as ordinary relatives.
Brothers and sisters who have a holiday are not as good as ordinary relatives, and it is superfluous to move around.
04
Parents are the curtain between you and death.
In "One Hundred Years of Solitude", it is said: "Parents are a curtain between you and death. ”
When I was a child, I saw the scene of my grandfather's death, but it was not very sad.
You may think that it is an old man, sleeping peacefully.
I don't want you to arrange the old man's funeral, you can't see through the mystery.
When you are middle-aged, there are elders who pass away one after another, but you are not very impressed. Most of the time you go for a walk, give a gift, and express comfort.
There are also elderly people in the village who have passed away, and you also need to participate in the burial process. Carrying the coffin, he slowly walked towards the back mountain, all the way with firecrackers, and the excitement covered up the sadness.
It wasn't until your parents passed away that you uncovered the truth of your grief. It turns out that no matter how loud the sound of firecrackers is, it is all false and lively, and your heart is cold.
You finally find that the distance between yourself and life and death is getting closer and closer.
We have seen many people in their eighties and nineties, and we know that many people can live to be 100 years old. But you will also find that some people live to be fifty or sixty years old and then it ends.
In fact, when your parents were sick, you already felt something, and you were really afraid of losing your parents. This is a sign that the concept of life and death is changing.
05
The tree wants to be quiet but the wind does not stop, and the child wants to raise but does not wait.
Most of the post-70s generations have experienced the process of moving from the countryside to the city, from their hometown to a foreign land.
It's not easy for us to work outside. I always thought that when I had a house and was financially better, I would take my parents over and live together for a few more days.
But you thought about it for a long time and didn't act. One is that the house is not big enough, and the other is that your parents are used to it in the countryside and are not very happy to disturb you.
Parents also want to travel, mentioned. You didn't take it seriously.
It wasn't until your parents left that you realized that there were too few things to feed your parents.
Love your parents, in the end, you can't stand the wait. What I waited for was a burst of regret.
When did you feel that you owe too much to your parents? This feeling is uncomfortable, and it often makes people cry and blame themselves.
06
I've learned a lot of truths, but I think I'm just talking about others.
Later, I found that these principles will be implemented on me one by one.
Writer Bi Shumin said: "I believe that every child in the world has made a wish to be filial to their parents, they believe that the future will be long, and they also believe that they will be successful and filial piety, but they have forgotten the shortness of life and the cruelty of time." ”
After the 70s, are your parents still around? Or is there only one parent in the family? Be more filial, if you don't have abundant materials, you will have more companionship; If you can't accompany you, just make a phone call every once in a while, even if you say "peace", it's all happiness.
After 70s, are your parents gone? If you leave, you will live a good life; Be kind to your siblings. Parents are in heaven and know that their children and grandchildren are happy and healthy, which means that their last wishes have come true.
Do your best, live up to the time, live up to yourself.
Author: Cloth Clothes Coarse Food.
Follow my words and go into your heart.
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