Text/Xia Mo
01, frontispiece
Husband and wife, like chopsticks for eating, must cooperate tacitly to achieve the best state.
Two people come from different families, and if they want to run a good marriage, they must polish off some of their edges and corners and establish a good way of getting along.
Get along with each other comfortably and happily, and the relationship can go long-term.
This is the highest mode of getting along between husband and wife, two words: fulfillment.
02. Complete each other's living habits, accept and tolerate each other
My parents once told me that they used to quarrel a lot when they were young, but now they get along very well.
The father is a vegetarian, and the mother is not happy with meat, and the two often quarreled over the question of "what to eat", and even broke many dishes.
When my mother cooks, she will insist on one meat dish, two or three vegetarian dishes, and the two of them will eat happily and be safe with each other.
My father loved to sing, but my mother didn't like to listen to it. So the two of them agreed, and while the mother was walking in the evening, the father was singing at home.
My mother loved to make friends, and my father only liked to be quiet.
Mother would meet with her friends in the park or at a familiar teahouse, and would not take her friends home.
Although the two people have a lot of different habits, they get along very harmoniously and their feelings become more and more intimate.
The best way for husband and wife to get along with each other is to fulfill each other's habits, accept each other, and tolerate each other.
Don't overly transform each other, don't force too much.
"In a happy marriage, each person should respect the other's tastes and hobbies," Morowa said. It is the most absurd idea to think that two people can have the same thoughts, the same judgments, and the same desires. ”
Everyone has their own hobbies and habits, and instead of suppressing each other, couples should give each other enough space to do what they like and live the best version of themselves.
03. Complete each other's careers and become their respective supporters
In the drama "Please Advise More for the Rest of Your Life", Gu Wei has an opportunity to go to Germany for further study.
If he hadn't fallen in love before, he wouldn't hesitate at all and would choose to study.
But at that time, he had just confirmed his relationship with Lin Zhixiao.
He had a bond of concern, and he didn't want to be separated from her for so long, so he couldn't make a decision.
And Lin Zhixiao doesn't want him to go against his original intention because of emotional things, and prefers to see him work hard and grow continuously.
As a result, she was constantly looking for opportunities to go to Germany with him. You can not only develop your own career, but also accompany your lover.
Husband and wife are together, managing relationships, and many times there will be conflicts with their own careers. Each other, may often have to be separated from each other for the sake of their careers, and suffer from lovesickness.
Exactly, sometimes feelings can't withstand parting, and it is easy to be consumed because of distance.
Chen Guo wrote in the book "Good Love": "Love is to complete each other completely. ”
The best way for husband and wife to get along is to support each other's careers, support and support each other, and let each other realize their personal value.
When there is no balance between career and family, both parties are willing to spend more time on housework and take care of the family, so that each other can have more time and energy to spend on the management of their careers.
Each other can become a better version of themselves, and the family will develop better and better.
04. Fulfill each other's ideas in a timely manner, be easy to talk to, and get along well
When two people live together, they often quarrel and have conflicts because of various things.
When people are angry, they are most likely to do irrational things and hurt the people closest to them.
The best way for husband and wife to get along with each other is to talk well and fulfill each other's ideas.
Like what:
The other person likes to watch movies, you can say to him, "Can you accompany me to a movie, I heard that people say it's good, and I want to go see it too." ”
Or, when you want to go back to your hometown, you say to him, "Can you accompany me back to my hometown to see my parents and the elders in the family, I haven't been back for a long time, and I miss it a little in my heart." ”
When the other person asks you to go along, don't open your mouth and refuse, but try to coordinate the time as much as possible and go with the other person.
I saw what an old man said in an interview on the Internet: "I use my 27 years of marriage experience to tell you that the way to get along between husband and wife is actually 14 words: acceptance, respect, tolerance, praise, forgetfulness, mutual benefit, and persistence." ”
Learn to meet each other's daily wishes, take care of each other's feelings, get along with each other will be full of warmth, and love will always be filled with the hearts of two people.
Speak well, meet each other's needs seriously, let each other live a relaxed and happy life, and be better able to walk together.
05. Summary
"Zengguang Xianwen" wrote: "One day husband and wife, a hundred generations of marriage." Hundreds of generations of repairs come to cross the same boat, and thousands of generations of repairs come to sleep together. ”
Love is never one person chasing the other, one is infinitely inclusive of the other.
Love is something that both people have to work on and give without hesitation.
Each other is giving, they are all accomplishing, and they are willing to be the light that illuminates each other's world.
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Author: Xia Mo, a cutting-edge emotional tutor, a psychology scholar, a popular emotional writer with more than 1 billion people on the whole network, a happy woman manager, focusing on emotion, sexes, and mother-in-law and daughter-in-law for more than ten years.