Hanshin's growth enlightenment
At the beginning, Han Xin, a native of Huaiyin, had a poor family, had no good virtues, could not be elected to be an official, and could not do business to make a living, and often followed others to eat idle meals, and most people hated him.
Han Xin used to be fishing in the city, and an old lady who was rinsing silk cotton by the water saw that he was hungry and brought him food. Han Xin was very happy and said to the old lady, "I will definitely repay you with a heavy amount." The old lady said angrily, "A manly man can't support himself!" I just pity your son to give you food, is there anything in return for Xitu?! ”
Virtue is the background color of life
The lack of good virtue is the root of the ultimate tragedy in Han Shin's life. Virtue here refers to the great discipline, not the daily behavior. Because in terms of daily life, Han Shin performs well.
Receiving kindness will be repaid, this is the basic criterion of life. Even if Han Xin is not capable at the moment, he still has the ability to make commitments. In fact, many people fail to be people, that is, they don't even have the will to make promises at the moment. There are also some people who will only say beautiful things, and will only easily promise, and when they really have the conditions to repay, they will not fulfill their promises.
If Han Xin dies on the battlefield, there is no possibility that he will be fulfilling his promise. However, Han Xin made great achievements and was named the king of Chu, and he was fully capable of fulfilling the promise of that year. So when he arrived at his own feudal country, Han Xin summoned the old lady who rinsed the silk cotton that gave him food back then and rewarded him with a thousand gold.
To explain the six principles of Impact, this is the power of reciprocity and commitment.
The beginning of life is always the most difficult
Han Xin's family is poor, so not only does he have problems with eating, but he also does not have enough resources for the start of his life. If you don't have good virtue, you can't be elected to be an official, and you can't solve the problem of eating or the beginning of your career. If you don't know how to do business, you don't have the means to make a living in society, and you don't have the ability to survive independently, so Han Xin's survival mode is to go to other people's homes to eat.
If you can only eat and drink, have no other abilities, and cannot contribute value to others, then of course you will be disgusted.
Han Xin used to eat at the pavilion chief's house, and the pavilion chief's wife was very tired of rubbing it for several months. So I cooked early and finished my meal in bed. When Han Xin came to eat, he didn't prepare it for him. Han Xin understood, was very angry, and cut off relations with the pavilion chief.
This is what happened to Han Xin in the early days of his life, and he has been facing a food crisis.
In essence, eating is a big problem, it is a matter of human survival, people are iron and rice, and if you don't eat a meal, you will be hungry and panic; It is a matter of human independence, whether it is mental, psychological, or behavioral, taking people's hands is short, eating people's mouths is short, eating and taking, and it is short everywhere; It is still a matter of governance, if you want the world to be stable, you have to eat enough, the warehouse is solid, the world is safe, and food security is related to stability.
Learn from the past and know the present, and observe the past and the future. We can't lose our sense of crisis just because we've just had enough. In the current economic situation, it is especially necessary to be prepared to "go hungry".
The problem of eating has always affected Han Xin. Later, Kuaiche persuaded him to divide the world, and Han Xin's heart was in his heart: Liu Bang gave me his car to ride, gave me his clothes to wear, and gave me his food to eat, so he had to share Liu Bang's worries and solve problems, not treachery for the sake of benefits.
Just like starting a business, taking the first step is the most difficult, and the development process, from 0 to 1, takes the longest, maybe years, maybe half a lifetime.
Humiliation of the crotch
One of the young men among the butchers in Huaiyin County insulted Han Xin and said, "Although you are tall and good at wearing swords, you are as timid as a mouse in your heart. And took the opportunity to humiliate him in public, saying: "Han Xin, if you are really not afraid of death, come and stab me." If you're afraid of death, crawl under my crotch! Han Xin then looked at the young man carefully for a moment, then leaned down, slipped between his legs, and fell to the ground. People all over the city laughed at Han Shin, thinking that he was cowardly.
Self-awareness
Self-knowledge, have a clear self-awareness, self-worth assessment, know how much value you have, and know what kind of goals you want to achieve, so you don't need to worry about the teenager of the butcher's family, let alone compete. In the face of provocation, dealing with it indifferently is nothing more than drilling under the crotch, what is there to care about?
In the face of provocation, many people can't think rationally, they will be angry and impulsive, eager to pick up a sword and stab him to death on the spot.
Respect, an important means of harnessing the bottom
The more you are at the bottom, the more excessive your pursuit of respect and face is.
If you think about it, do these ethereal things really matter? In fact, it essentially depends on people's values, the more people don't have anything, the more they care about something.
The more you live at the bottom, the more you never really have respect, and wherever you go, you are whispering, sneering, and gaining some survival resources. Therefore, their lives are miserable and aggrieved, and the more they are so, the more they care about respect.
"Guiguzi · Quan"
Therefore, with the wise man's words, depending on Bo; Speak with the clumsy, rely on the argument; Speak with the debater, according to the need; Speak with the nobles, depending on the situation; Speak with the rich, depending on the high; Speak to the poor, and rely on profit; Speak with the lowly and rely on humility; Speak with the brave, rely on the dare; With the words of the passer, depending on the sharp, this is also the technique, and people often do the opposite.
In the face of the bottom, as long as you say two kind words and give a few gifts, you can enslave them, because these actions are full of respect.
Why was Nie Zheng willing to be an assassin for Yan Zhongzi? Because Yan Zhongzi gave him the greatest respect and kindness, Yan Zhongzi befriended Nie Zheng, who was a commoner, as a minister, and also gave him a hundred gold to honor Nie Zheng's mother.
This kind of kindness is enough to make people repay with death, and there are also a group of people who are dead people who accept kindness among the disciples raised by the four princes of the Warring States.
render good for evil
Han Xin was named the king of Chu, and after returning to his feudal country, he also found the pavilion chief who had eaten rice, rewarded him with a hundred yuan, and said to him: "You are a villain, and doing good deeds has no beginning and end." ”
Even if he was secretly poked away by the pavilion chief's wife and didn't let him eat at home, Han Xin still repaid his kindness.
For the young man of the butcher's family who had insulted him and drilled through his crotch, Han Xin appointed him as the lieutenant of the Chu State, and said to his generals: "This is a strong man. When he insults me, can't I kill him? I didn't have much reputation for killing him, so I endured it to get to where I am today. ”
After people succeed, they have new psychological demands:
First, you should show off your merits and the status you have reached now;
Second, to show how magnanimous you are;
Third, you need to set up a foil to show your greatness.
After Xiang Yu succeeded, he also wanted to return to his hometown, and after Han Xin's success, he used one person to achieve three birds with one stone: repay grievances with virtue, appoint people who insulted him back then, and show his mind; defined him as a strong man, and set up a foil; Because of his own forbearance, he has today's status.
Of course, it is also possible to speculate on the future development of things with a dark psychology. In the future, let this strong man go to war, and it is possible to die on the battlefield. If he hadn't died on the battlefield, he might have violated military rules and the law, and he could have been justifiably executed. can also use the power and rules in his hands openly to kill his enemies back then.