Only when I came out of the society did I understand how important it is to understand people's feelings and sophistication. Especially for the middle and low-level people, without the irreplaceable technology, the sophistication of human feelings has become particularly important.
So some people said: Why does Chinese education never teach people to be sophisticated, just teach knowledge, and learn a lot of knowledge but can't be a person, what's the use?
But is that really the case? After reading the replies of netizens, you will find that it is not that the school did not teach, but that I did not study hard at that time
Wine table culture
Presumably, many people envy those who can be left and right at the wine table. But this is actually taught in Chinese textbooks
You may not understand it here, so let's give you an example, and you will understand. Suppose the other party is from Qingdao. You'll be able to start with local beers.
In today's cocktail banquets, the order of names is just as important as the order of the seats.
At the wine table, we don't just drink, it must also have a purpose, so how do we tell each other about our purpose?
Once you've made your purpose clear, it's time to find a way to make others happy and help yourself. The last two paragraphs of the "Preface to the Pavilion of King Teng" teach us how to do it
And there are even more similar articles in textbooks than this one. For example, "Touching the Dragon and Talking about the Empress Dowager Zhao" keenly reveals that "when individual interests are inconsistent with collective interests, the other party should be persuaded from the perspective of personal interests." ”
How to deal with people
In "Dream of Red Mansions", if you want to say that you are the best at dealing with people, I think Wang Xifeng must be on the list. In middle school, I should have learned the scene of Wang Xifeng's first meeting of Daiyu
Through such a short paragraph, you can understand why Jia Mu is so partial to Wang Xifeng.
In addition, there are many fragments in the textbook that teach us about the sophistication of human feelings
What is the sophistication of human feelings, not the slap of the horse, not the song of the welcome, not the toast of cigarettes and wine, but the methods, principles and experience of dealing with the world. It is "to meet and greet, to greet when you are sick, to help when you have something, to mention the festival, to speak, to do things reliably, and to share profits"
Of course, there are different voices
However, human feelings and sophistication cannot be just talked about on paper, they are practiced. Summarizing more and practicing more, it is always possible to make perfect. This kind of thing is not something that others can teach as soon as they are taught, what do you think about it? Welcome to leave a message in the comment area to discuss