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Najun finally began to fight back.
From the moment he was sent to the hospital by the leader, he was ready to resign from the current company.
In order to be able to get back the options and severance compensation that belong to him, Na Jun consulted a lawyer and made a lot of preparations.
In fact, Na Jun wanted to go back to the company at the beginning or wanted to work hard, as long as Mr. Lu didn't do too much, Na Jun would probably still endure it.
But Mr. Lu went too far, not only did he not arrange a job for Na Jun, but also excluded Na Jun in various ways, wanting to use the old method of dealing with other colleagues before to force Na Jun to resign voluntarily.
Mr. Lu did this, but it aroused Na Jun's fighting spirit, and Na Jun relied on the evidence he collected to force the company to take the initiative to negotiate with him.
In the end, Na Jun left with a large amount of options and N+1 severance compensation.
When Na Jun finally won the battle with the company, he called Li Xiaoyue as soon as possible, saying that he wanted to go out to dinner to celebrate.
But Li Xiaoyue was not as happy and excited as she imagined, and directly rejected Na Jun on the grounds that she wanted to have dinner with her friends, and told Na Jun that she would come back very late, so that Na Jun would not wait for her.
Na Jun is a very smart person, he knows that Li Xiaoyue's sentence "Don't wait, it should be late" translated, that is, "Let's break up." ”
What Jun didn't know was that Li Xiaoyue didn't abandon him when he was sick and targeted by the company, but he chose to break up when he got back the options and compensation, not because Li Xiaoyue didn't love him anymore, but because he loved Najun too much.
01 That Jun has no time to take care of Li Xiaoyue
Na Jun had actually realized that something was wrong with Li Xiaoyue, but he didn't care about it so much. For Na Jun, the immediate priority is to get back his options and severance compensation.
Na Jun did this for himself, but also for his brother's family.
Although it is not explicitly filmed in the play, it is actually obvious that it has been hinted at.
Although Shen Lin is a sister and brother, in fact, Shen Lin has always been the only one his parents can really rely on.
Shen Lei doesn't want to rely on his parents, it's already very good if he doesn't gnaw at his old parents in turn.
The most typical point is that when Na Wei quarreled with Shen Lin because of 800,000 yuan, he said that Shen Lin's parents built a house, and Shen Lin took tens of thousands of dollars back.
But when Shen Lei and Xie Meilan quarreled, what he said was that all their savings would be used to treat Xie Meilan's mother.
There is no doubt that between building a new house and treating the sick and saving people, of course, the treatment is more important. But this detail also happens to show that Shen Lei actually doesn't have any reciprocal actions for his parents, and he may not have paid a penny when his parents build a new house.
And the only thing Shen Lei can do to honor his parents is his graduate degree, civil servant work, and a Beijing hukou. These things make the relatives in my hometown envious.
In other words, in the hearts of the Shen family's parents, the division of labor between son and daughter is very clear:
The son is mainly responsible for earning face for them and giving them great spiritual satisfaction; As for the daughter, she is mainly responsible for the financial contribution, so that they can also save face materially.
The parents put all the financial pressure on Shen Lin, and Shen Lin had already resigned to be a full-time wife at home, so the pressure was naturally transferred to Na Wei.
Na Wei is a person with a good mentality, and always feels that as an entrepreneurial veteran of the company, he is loyal to the company, and he will definitely be able to go public in this company and get options.
If he takes another 10,000 steps back, even if he can't get the option, Na Wei will feel that according to his current vice president's salary, he can barely support his family, and then take care of Shen Lin's parents' family.
But that Jun is different, that Jun suffered a lot because of his father's death and his mother's layoff
Therefore, from that time on, what Jun wanted was that he could no longer let his relatives be stumped because of money, and he must take precautions.
My brother, sister-in-law, and girlfriend have lost their jobs one after another, and my sister-in-law and brother are still floating outside like a wild man.
Although his brother and girlfriend said that they were starting a business, in fact, they decided that their business would not succeed from the beginning. And in order to make money, my sister-in-law went to be a confinement lady.
Na Jun felt that he was the pillar of the two big families of Na and Shen, and if he fell again, then there would be no hope for this family at all.
Na Jun, who carried all the responsibilities on his shoulders, had actually discovered that Li Xiaoyue was wrong a long time ago, but he didn't have the time or energy to take care of Li Xiaoyue.
For Na Jun, the top priority is to keep his job first, and even if he can't keep his job, he must get back his own options and compensation.
With this money, even if you can't find a job in that short period of time, it won't be too much of a problem.
In addition, Na Jun has a sense of superiority in front of Li Xiaoyue, after all, whether it is in education, work, or family, Na Jun is better than Li Xiaoyue.
Therefore, what Jun thought was very simple, when he had taken care of everything, it should be too late to coax Li Xiaoyue by himself. Just like every time they broke up before, as long as Na Jun coaxed her, Li Xiaoyue would obediently return to her side.
02 Li Xiaoyue broke up because she loved too much
There is no doubt that Na Jun chased Li Xiaoyue at the beginning, perhaps just because Li Xiaoyue was beautiful.
After breaking up a few times later, Na Jun took the initiative to find Li Xiaoyue to get back together, mostly because relatively speaking, Li Xiaoyue is the most cost-effective.
To put it bluntly, in addition to being a little unmotivated, Li Xiaoyue's personality, appearance, emotional intelligence, including work ability are definitely very good, and she will definitely not suffer a loss if she is worthy of Najun.
The most straightforward example, Li Xiaoyue and Na Wei went out to hold activities for the community, and the contact time was so short, some retired aunts in the community wanted to add Li Xiaoyue's WeChat to introduce her to her.
And after Na Jun broke up with Li Xiaoyue angrily, he met those blind dates when he went on a blind date, and he realized how good Li Xiaoyue was.
Therefore, after that reconciliation, Na Jun never said that Li Xiaoyue was not motivated, even if he felt that Li Xiaoyue and his brother Nawei were unreliable in starting a business, he still silently paid money to support them.
But on the other hand, Li Xiaoyue and Na Jun are together, there are not so many twists and turns, but more because Na Jun is good and willing to accompany her, and she loves Na Jun too.
In this love, there is love, but it is more cost-effective; Li Xiaoyue has no calculations, only love.
Because of her love for Na Jun, coupled with the experience of her parents' sudden death before, Li Xiaoyue cared more about Na Jun's body, and felt that only people were healthy, and everything else was a small thing.
With this point of view, after Na Jun fell ill, Li Xiaoyue has been looking for various ways to help Na Jun, take him to the master, go to the mountain, and go to the place where they met to relax.
And the reality is that Li Xiaoyue did everything she could, but it didn't play any role in Na Jun's condition.
That Jun's reaction filled Li Xiaoyue with a sense of frustration and powerlessness.
From Li Xiaoyue's point of view, she loves Na Jun and wants to help Na Jun.
However, when it was the most difficult time for Na Jun, Li Xiaoyue couldn't help, let alone Na Jun after he recovered.
But Li Xiaoyue is not the kind of person who sits back and enjoys what she wants, just wants to enjoy, and doesn't want to pay, she is with Na Jun because she likes Na Jun, not because of how good Na Jun's conditions are and how good a life she can give.
Otherwise, she wouldn't have let Na Jun buy clothes for herself, even if it was just a sweater for dozens of dollars. If it weren't for being bullied by the boyfriend of the roommate, and Na Jun was sick and needed to be taken care of, Li Xiaoyue would definitely not have moved to Na Jun's house.
Li Xiaoyue values more as boyfriend and girlfriend, the feeling that two people are together, accompany each other, support each other, and need each other.
Just like Li Xiaoyue every time she passively or actively resigns, Na Jun can always appear in time, or bring a bouquet of flowers, or cook for a while, which comforts Li Xiaoyue emotionally.
But Na Jun is too strong, so strong that Na Jun's life will not change without Li Xiaoyue, so strong that Li Xiaoyue can't find a little sense of existence and need in Na Jun's life.
The fact is that as long as Na Jun shows a little bit of dependence and need in front of Li Xiaoyue, even if Li Xiaoyue is angry again, she will not hesitate to turn around and hug Na Jun to comfort her.
Li Xiaoyue loves Na Jun, but she prefers to be a person who is helpful to Na Jun and is needed by Na Jun, rather than a person who is nothing.
In Maslow's needs theory, people have respect needs, and they will want to be respected and recognized by others, and through the respect and recognition of others, they will pursue self-esteem, self-confidence and a sense of achievement.
But it is clear that when she is with Na Jun, Li Xiaoyue's need for respect is not met.
Na Jun's disrespect for Li Xiaoyue's work and career, Li Xiaoyue can tolerate it, because in addition to Na Jun, she can be recognized and respected by her boss and colleagues.
But being ignored and disrecognized in love made Li Xiaoyue unacceptable. Li Xiaoyue has a bottom line, it is impossible for her to fall in love with Na Jun while pursuing this kind of emotional recognition and respect from other men.
What Li Xiaoyue is looking forward to is the relationship between Na Wei and Shen Lin, but Li Xiaoyue is willing to be Shen Lin, but Na Jun is unwilling and cannot become the second Na Wei.
For Li Xiaoyue, since Na Jun doesn't need herself, and she can't give Na Jun anything she needs, it's better to break up and not delay each other.
Therefore, what Li Xiaoyue and her best friend said was that they broke up with Najun not because they didn't love her, but because of discord.
Write at the end
To some extent, Xie Meilan and Li Xiaoyue are a contrast.
Xie Meilan and Li Xiaoyue are both very assertive and have their own pursuits, but their approaches are completely different.
Xie Meilan wants to pursue a better life with material conditions, but her method is not to rely on her own efforts, but to pin her hopes on her other half.
After she filed for divorce, she immediately moved into the big house arranged by the suitor, and drove the luxury car bought by the suitor to the Civil Affairs Bureau to handle the divorce.
As for Li Xiaoyue, she never thought of relying on anyone, even if the other party was willing, reasonable and legal, but Li Xiaoyue did not accept it with peace of mind, and always pursued what she wanted within her ability.
It can't be said who made the wrong choice, Xie Meilan or Li Xiaoyue, but it is obvious that Xie Meilan paid a much greater price than Li Xiaoyue.
One of the costs is freedom. Xie Meilan doesn't even have the right to have a casual meal with Shen Lei, which is the best explanation.
In terms of objective conditions, Na Jun missed Li Xiaoyue, and according to his conditions, he could find a good partner in the future; But Li Xiaoyue missed Na Jun, and may not be able to find someone better than Na Jun.
This is not to criticize Li Xiaoyue, Li Xiaoyue's excellence is undoubted, but her parents have passed away, so for Li Xiaoyue, in addition to the same three views, the object's family is more important. In fact, Na Wei, Shen Lin, and Na Jun's mother are all rare and good people.