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2023, N truths about marriage: In other people's stories, see your own heart
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In 2023, we are closer to the real than ever, yet more easily lost than ever
Turn on your phone, the overwhelming "perfect love" and "fairy couple" flood social media, as if happiness is within reach, close the phone, and the "divorce cooling-off period" and "widowed parenting" around us always remind us that the truth of marriage is far more complicated than imagined
Is marriage a haven for love or a cruel stage for reality? Is it a journey of two people working hand in hand, or a one-man show that one person struggles to support?
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Perhaps, the answer is not the only one
In the stories of Jing'an, Lou Yufang, and Tian Xiaoyu, we may be able to glimpse the N truths of marriage and see our inner desires and struggles
Chapter 1: Inside and outside the siege, who is the salvation of whom
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Jing'an, a literary young woman full of romantic fantasies about love, married to the steady and reliable Hou Donglai, in the eyes of others, they are talented and beautiful, it is a match made in heaven, behind the glamorous marriage, but there is an unknown undercurrent
Hou Donglai devoted himself to his work, eager for a promotion and a salary increase, and a better life for his wife, he used material things to build a fortress of love, but ignored what Jing'an really longed for was spiritual resonance and soul fit
Jing'an loves to write, and the words in her pen are the catharsis of her emotions, she and her literary friend Lou Yufang sympathize with each other, and find a long-lost resonance in the world of words, but this pure friendship has become precarious under Hou Donglai's suspicion and desire to control
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"Those people in the dance hall, don't contact them anymore" Hou Donglai's understatement was like a thorn, piercing deep into Jing'an's heart
It's not that she doesn't understand her husband's worries, but this feeling of being bound and doubtful makes her feel suffocated, and she longs for freedom, for respect, and for being able to keep herself in marriage
On the one hand, the pressure of reality, on the other hand, the pursuit of spirituality, Jing'an is struggling in the siege of marriage, looking for an exit
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Lou Yufang, who is far away in the countryside, is also facing the dilemma of life, she is seriously ill, but she still insists on writing, recording the ups and downs of life with words, she longs to be seen, eager to be recognized, and eager to use her words to illuminate the lives of more people
Jing'an and Lou Yufang, one trapped in the siege of marriage, the other struggling in the quagmire of life, they seem to have no intersection, but in the dark, because of the text, because of the desire for love and freedom, there is a subtle connection
Will they be each other's salvation?
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Chapter 2: Who's Reflected in the Broken Mirror
Tian Xiaoyu, a shrewd and powerful woman, after experiencing a failed marriage, chose to marry Lao Jia, who was much older than herself, she longed for security, material wealth, and a stable relationship, to find support
This marriage, which is based on reality, is like a gorgeous cage, trapping her in it, Lao Jia lacks care and respect for her, and treats her as a tool for fertility and an accessory to life
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"Do you think I can cover the sky with one hand?" Lao Jia's words completely shattered Tian Xiaoyu's illusions
She once thought that money and power could bring happiness, but when she was sick and bedridden, but no one cared about her, she realized that true happiness comes from the heartfelt care and care of her lover
And her ex-husband Li Hongwei, although he could not give her a good life materially, gave her warmth and companionship when she needed it most, he took care of his sick son, cared about her injuries, and made up for his mistakes with actions
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Tian Xiaoyu saw the gentle and considerate husband in Li Hongwei, and also saw the happiness that he had missed
She began to reflect on whether her original choice was right or wrong.
If time could be turned back, would she still choose to marry Lao Jia?
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Chapter 3: 2023, How Do We Love
Jing'an, Lou Yufang, Tian Xiaoyu, their stories are the epitome of countless women's marriages in 2023, they are hovering between love and reality, struggling between self and marriage, and looking for their own happiness code
In 2023, how can we love?
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Perhaps, the answer lies in these stories
1. Love needs bread, but it also needs roses
Material is the foundation of marriage, but spiritual fit is the long-term guarantee of marriage, in marriage, we must learn to communicate, learn to understand, learn to respect each other's needs, with love to nourish each other's souls
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2. Marriage is not the end, but a new beginning
Entering marriage does not mean the end of love, but opens a new chapter in life, we must learn to grow in marriage, learn to tolerate, learn to operate, and jointly create happiness belonging to two people
3. Loving yourself is the beginning of a lifelong romance
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No matter when and where, you must remember to love yourself, only by loving yourself, can you love others better, and can you live a confident and wonderful life in marriage
In 2023, may we all find our own answers in other people's stories, be brave to love, and brave to pursue our own happiness
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