If a child has a five-point ability and the parents have a four-point expectation, the child will have obvious positive feedback on learning, but the learning motivation is likely to be relatively insufficient, and the child will eventually maintain a five-point score.
If a child has the same five-point ability, and the parents are six-point expectations, the child can get positive feedback through hard work, this goal is slightly higher than the child's ability, but it needs to be carried out suddenly, it is easier to stimulate the ability to improve, and after reaching the goal, the positive feedback is greater, and it is possible to get a six-point achievement.
However, if there are five points of ability, parents are seven or eight points of expectation, no matter how hard the child works, to the limit of this level, can not meet the requirements of the parents, this kind of hard work but not to seek frustration, not only can not drive the learning motivation to improve, but easy to lose interest in learning.
The difference between the three determines different learning effects, the worst effect is excessive chicken baby pressure, not only makes the child weak in succession, the more tired he learns, and it is easier to stimulate psychological problems, such a family has the highest proportion, and the middle is the Buddhist parents, although it seems that the commitment is not enough, but the child can also learn happily, its proportion is much lower than the first type of family, and the best effect is to appropriately enhance the intensity, leading the child to break through step by step, teachers, doctors, civil servants are the most common.
Today's parents, affected by anxiety, as well as the guidance of training institutions, win in the starting mentality is obvious, most parents are overpressurized, children's grades are also obviously distorted, raising parents' expectations, in the case of increasing learning difficulty, children's grades will soon be lower than parents' expectations, which is easy to cause conflicts between parents and children, and the so-called rebellious phenomenon occurs.
Today's children are under great pressure, to a large extent, it is the reflection of parents' expectations, especially in the case of the prevailing training atmosphere, which makes the children's grades in the early stage obviously inflated, and the junior high school stream is real, so that there is a significant gap between the parents' ideals and reality.