Everyone is an energy body, and the essence of the interaction between people is the flow and exchange of energy. Friends with high emotional value are an important source of energy for you. With them, you will receive a silent nourishment.
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- Spend time with people with high emotional value and be less annoying.
In the movie "Untouchable", Philip, a wealthy white man, is paralyzed by a skydiving accident and urgently needs to find a caregiver to take care of him. He hired a lot of senior paramedics, but all of them, without exception, were fired by him before they didn't even stay for a week. Instead, a savage, rude black man, Dries, stayed. It turned out that the other caregivers were carefully caring for Philip's body, but they were blind to his emotions. This made Philip, who was already depressed, even more depressed. Unlike Dries, whenever he was in a bad mood, Dries would take him for a ride and teach him to flirt with his sister...... Where Dries is there, it's always full of laughter. Philip also became optimistic and cheerful under his influence, and regained the joy of life.
Happiness between people is contagious. Life is unsatisfactory, nine times out of ten. But with people with high emotional value, even on bleak days, you can feel warmth.
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- Spend time with people with high emotional value and have less resentment.
The sales team of Friends has been performing well, and has achieved rapid growth for 5 consecutive years. But in the sixth year, the performance of the entire sales team declined severely. Just because the company recruited a new person. The resume of the newcomer is very good, and the work ability is also very strong, but he likes to complain and find fault very much. He complained about the company's rules and regulations, complained about the unclear division of labor among leaders, and complained that customers were too picky...... If you have nothing to do, you will gossip with your colleagues. Over time, the originally motivated sales team also became sluggish.
Entrepreneur Wu Bofan said that the company should have one of the most important principles in selecting people - not to be "bastards". By bastards, he refers to people who spread bad emotions in the company and are full of negative energy.
The same should be true for friends who are full of negative energy in life.
Emotional contagion, sometimes more terrible than a viral contagion.
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- Surround yourself with people with high emotional value and reduce internal friction.
The kind of circle you are in is easy to become.
When a person has a good and powerful heart, people who are close to him will also become warm and motivated.
Maybe everyone will be mired in internal friction, but a friend with high emotional value will pull you and take you out of the cycle of self-denial and do the right and valuable things. A word of encouragement or a hug from them may calm your anxious heart. With them, you will regain the confidence to affirm yourself and have the courage to avoid self-friction.
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- Surround yourself with people with high emotional value and have a good temper.
After the writer Shen Congwen went to teach at the university, Liu Wendian scolded him in public many times. Although he didn't fight back on the spot, he was also very angry and shouted that he was going to beat Liu Wendian. Unexpectedly, his friend Hu Shi heard this, and Hu Shi hurriedly stopped him, telling him that working together in a school and tearing his face would only make others see jokes. Do your own knowledge, and others will have nothing to say. After hearing this, Shen Congwen felt reasonable, so he gave up looking for Liu Wendian and turned his energy to creation. Later, when Shen Congwen was fine, he went to chat with Hu Shi or write a letter to communicate.
Writer Zhang Shuxi said: "Strangling conflicts and contradictions in the cradle is a science. "There is no shortage of garbage people and garbage things in life. But people who are emotionally stable will resolve conflicts in the softest way. With them, your temper will become more and more gentle, and even if you encounter bad people and bad things, you can have the wisdom not to entangle.
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There is a question on Zhihu: What kind of person do you like to get along with the most? Gao Zan replied: Like a breeze, like a sunny day, blowing the wind and dust on your clothes, making you warm in three winters and not cold in spring. A person's emotional value is like a fresh breeze that nourishes the hearts of those around him.
Choose to be around people with high energy who can also provide good emotional value to others.