In the fast-paced modern society, the "slow lane" of blind date is gradually evolving into a "fast lane" to find a partner, we can often see various forms of blind date programs on major TV stations, but for such a show, are boys any choice will be accepted?
Or do you have a clear standard in your mind?
For girls, it is natural that thousands of delicate people want to bravely chase their hearts, and in this blind date show, a man only takes a fancy to one girl, and he doesn't even look at the blind date next to him, however, his choice makes the girls around him a little unhappy, and even said to him after leaving: "You will regret it in the future."
The standard of girlfriend in the boy's heart when he goes on a blind date.
In fact, the criteria for men's choice of partners have always been very stable - gentle and virtuous, with a certain economic foundation, and then they are simple and industrious, in fact, this standard is influenced by a large traditional concept, and we can see such a standard from traditional theater culture.
In some scripts, we can see that when the second grandfather wants to find a wife for his son, he usually chooses those women with a darker complexion, a little plain dress, a poor family, but a gentle and honest temperament, and for those women who are glamorous, famous brands all over their bodies, and have a strong temperament and aura, they will not consider it, so after such a mold is passed down step by step, it will become the appearance of a good wife in modern times.
But this kind of thinking is almost just a good wife that men think from top to bottom, for girls, they may not fully agree, but because most areas are still very conservative, it is still a very serious attitude towards suitors, so in order to get married, girls have to make certain sacrifices to cater to the love standards of boys.
This is not everyone, so there are many people who dress themselves up to be glamorous, even if it is difficult for boys to accept girls to dress up like this to meet their parents, they still insist on what they want, which is a very important point of this secular concept, so even if they go to participate in the blind date program prepared by the elders, many women are still dressed according to the way they think the trend is, and most of the people with this value are concentrated in more open cities.
And this kind of value is pushed to the peak in a city like Shenzhen, Guangdong, in a city like Shenzhen that attracts many people because of its development, young people are often extremely open and tolerant among themselves, and while pursuing fashion, they also relatively believe that there is a better standard of love than the tradition, and this style has become a female image that Shenzhen girls are often regarded as a trend and focus on.
And this blind date show happened to be carried out in Shenzhen, when I saw the girls who were dressed completely different from the ones around me, dressed in fashion and with some flamboyant themes, I also agreed with this style very much, because the show was not just looking for a partner, but more like a platform, providing opportunities for those who are busy with work and have no time to make friends to meet the opposite sex and make friends.
But the strange thing is that when the Shenzhen girls at the scene discussed their differences with a group of girls who came out of the show, they questioned what they thought about their small hair and only dressed up fashionably without asking others to think about it, what does this inconsistency reflect?
In fact, it is an inconsistent standard for the relationship between oneself and others, which can't help but remind people that if Shenzhen girls have a person they like, will they also feel that their hair is small and their personality is not good.
The man on a blind date identifies as a fashionable girl at a glance.
Although this situation rarely occurs, we also know that tomatoes are not fixed for objects and have no preference and choice, but for people, we ourselves will have a preference choice for some characteristics in our hearts, and this choice will be the deepest connection between people for partners, and this prejudice of Shenzhen girls is purely because of their own preferences, and dissatisfaction with the misunderstanding caused by whether others like it or not.
In fact, in the background of the show, we met people who were as ordinarily dressed as Shenzhen girls, and the man in her eyes was actually not simple, and what choice would this man make?
In the middle of the show, the man finally met with a number of women, originally just to find someone who met the criteria, so he didn't take everyone's name too seriously, when he walked in front of a woman.
From the fact that this woman walks with the wind, you can see that she is not an ordinary person, let alone an ordinary appearance, and this clever person also noticed that the man was looking at him, so he stopped and introduced himself: "Hello, my name is Sandy, you can call me Xiandi, or call me Fan Bingbing."
Enough to realize that the scene contrast attracts attention enough, and it is confident and social enough, so that the man does not feel embarrassed to associate her with the star when she says her name, which is enough to impress him with other girls on the scene who can only smile and nod and maintain etiquette when they introduce themselves.
Therefore, after asking Sandy a few questions, we can also see that his communication skills are smooth and fluent, and we can also see that he is still very cautious and serious about whether he can be friends before he is sure whether the beautiful woman can be his girlfriend, and after that, he asks Sandy what kind of boy he likes.
Sandy's words not only did not become arrogant because of being praised, but modestly said that this subjective understanding cannot be regarded as a high vision, and also explained that this is because it also has requirements for herself, from this point of view, Sandy is not superficial and only likes handsome guys, and it can be seen that she is indeed very confident, but self-confidence is not arrogance, but an attraction.
So she lowered her voice and asked the man, "But you can't tell anyone else, I think you're so handsome" She nodded softly like a dragonfly tapping water, seemingly unintentionally swept over the man, and shook her fingers, as if erased from him, shining and noticeable, but the man said very carefully: "So handsome, I heard it."
After the following exchanges, in fact, the man only regarded the selected girl as a friend, but he obviously did not regret it, and affirmed it, saying that with vision, it is no wonder that he can attract such a beautiful and high-quality woman.
So he told his friend about his results, and when his friend asked why he couldn't attract such talents, he responded proudly: "First, I don't think people are ashamed, and then I think she is just right for me, do you know what I mean", obviously thinking that Fan Bingbing's beauty is very superior, and he doesn't think he is unworthy.
My friend questioned and asked, "Then do you know what education and job she has?"
At this time, the non-mainstream woman interjected and said: "So what, I know her, she studies photography, and she also learns oil painting, isn't it low" At this time, the friend expressed satisfaction, and the Shenzhen girl clearly didn't care about what Fan Bingbing just said, and it was only here that people paradoxically wondered if they had paid attention to Fan Bingbing.
Everyone has their own joys, and they can't fight privately.
Men should actually understand the personality of Shenzhen girls, because they treat their appearance the same, they will also pay attention to muscles and fitness, and they will treat their clothes more casually and conveniently rather than traditional rules, which proves that the hearts of these people around men should also be as open and inclusive as their faces, and they should not be ashamed of accepting other people's appearances, and they should not restrict others' interactions with themselves on the grounds of appearance.
But Shenzhen girls are a little contradictory, not only can they understand their followers, but there is no need to deny them because of their non-mainstream aesthetics, they will no longer pursue good looking objects, if not, then why are there examples of mutual attraction and coming together?
However, the attitude shown by the Shenzhen woman towards Fan Bingbing was quite disapproving of her friend, even if she fell in love like this, it would not be accepted, so is there any other reason in front of her?
This is a reflection of the problems that exist between different values.
Residents in some areas of the southeast coast are relatively closed and conservative, so it is easy to understand that Shenzhen women in the body cannot accept the other party, but they show in the TV series that they appreciate and persecute traditional beauty for traditional aesthetic principles, but they may not be puzzling, they just think it is a plus.
And what everyone knows is that they think that this plus point is not important, and it should not be seen as work ability, which is why the talented female anchor circle is so attractive.
Originally, the professional requirements were very high, and those women could attract handsome guys like the Shenzhen beauties in the show, which would not only be in line with the tradition but also directly prove that they were excellent, so why not?
But they have long been accustomed to judging others, and it has become a common problem to dare not try to make trouble for themselves to make friends, not limited to their own excellence, and the extra points are a kind of baggage.
However, Changsha and other cities may think that even if the beauties of Shenzhen are excellent, they are too demanding, and only when there are conditions can they have confidence, and both are equally reasonable.