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The afternoon sun shines through the floor-to-ceiling windows of the café, shining on Ms. Lin's slightly tired face, she gently stirs the already cold coffee in front of her, but her thoughts drift to the distant past, and those once sweet memories are now like a sharp knife, ruthlessly cutting her heart
A year ago, Ms. Lin accidentally found evidence of her husband's cheating, that ambiguous text message, like a thunderbolt from the sky, shattered her originally happy and peaceful life, and the huge blow made her almost collapse, she didn't understand, why did the man who once cared for her betray their love and betray their family?
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In order to save this marriage, in order to give the child a complete home, Ms. Lin chose to forbear, she tried to act as if nothing had happened, as before, to run the housework, take care of the children, hoping to use her own efforts in exchange for her husband's change of heart, her compromise did not get her husband's cherishment, but made him more unscrupulous
In desperation, Ms. Lin thought of seeking help from emotional counseling, and she longed for guidance from professionals to find a way out of her predicament
"For the sake of children, bear with me, men make mistakes," said one "expert" lightly, as if cheating was just a trivial matter
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"You can also find a lover, so that your heart is balanced," another "expert" said in a shocking voice, which made Ms. Lin feel extremely shocked and angry
"If you really can't get a divorce, the long pain is better than the short pain," another "expert" gave advice without thinking, completely ignoring Ms. Lin's actual situation and inner feelings
The advice given by these so-called "experts" did not help Ms. Lin out of her predicament, but made her even more disoriented, and she began to wonder if she had not done well enough to cause her husband's betrayal. Is it too weak for you to choose to endure it again and again?
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Luckily, on the recommendation of a friend, Ms. Lin found a truly professional emotional counselor who did not rush to give advice, but patiently listened to Ms. Lin's story to understand her experiences, feelings and needs
Under the guidance of the counsellor, Ms. Lin gradually realized that forbearance and compromise would not solve the problem, but would plunge herself into deeper pain, and she began to face her heart, speak her feelings bravely, and actively seek solutions to the problem
"Many times, the reason why we listen to irresponsible advice is because we have a deep desire for a simple answer, an excuse that can allow us to escape the pain," the counselor's words, like a lightning bolt, illuminated Ms. Lin's confused heart
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Indeed, when we are in the whirlpool of emotions, we tend to lose our reason and judgment, and are eager to grasp any life-saving straw, and those "uninformed" counselors take advantage of people's psychology and use some seemingly "simple and easy" suggestions to attract attention, but ignore the possible harm to the client
How can you avoid falling into the trap of "emotional counseling"? We need to learn to distinguish between "professional" and "non-professional", and a qualified emotional counsellor must have the relevant qualifications and experience, and they will follow the professional ethics and provide responsible assistance to the client
We have to learn to listen to our inner voice and not blindly follow the advice of others, even from so-called "experts", everyone's situation is unique, and what works for others may not be suitable for us
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We need to believe that we have the ability to get out of the situation, and emotional wounds need time to heal, but as long as we do not give up hope and actively seek help, we will definitely be able to find our own happiness
Ms. Lin's story is just a microcosm, and in real life, there are many people like her who, after experiencing emotional betrayal, fell into deeper pain because they listened to the wrong advice
I hope that everyone who is lost in emotions can keep their eyes open, find someone who can really help themselves, get out of the haze, and regain their life, and I also hope that everyone who provides emotional counseling services can adhere to professional ethics and use their professional knowledge and love to help those in need, rather than consuming the pain of others for the sake of profit
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