I don't know if you've noticed, but now every year Valentine's Day is hyped up by merchants, and that's because love is one of the biggest luxuries in the world.
And the women also look forward to feeling that they are being treated as lovers by their lovers on this special day, and reminiscing about the feeling when they first met and fell in love.
However, women used to marry themselves with dreams, expecting to be sweet with their lovers in this life, but later found that love really can't withstand the years of time.
The people who fell in love at the beginning became strangers who had nothing to say, so they said that marriage was the grave of love.
So, is marriage the grave of love? Someone resolutely said no. Isn't marriage the grave of love? Listen to the sweet rebuttals of these three couples.
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The first couple, Wu Cheng and his wife, were married for 10 years.
Wu Cheng is an entrepreneur with dreams, but his path to entrepreneurship is not all smooth sailing. When he had lost all his years of savings, the frustration almost broke him.
After that entrepreneurial failure, he didn't dare to go home, nor did he dare to face his wife's eyes full of expectations. However, when he quietly returned home late at night, he found that his wife had been waiting for him.
His wife didn't blame him, nor did she complain about him, all she gave him was a bowl of hot noodle soup and a sentence of "big deal, let's go back to the time when we just graduated."
At that moment, Wu Cheng said that he felt unprecedented peace of mind. For Wu Cheng, his wife's comfort and encouragement is the world's biggest motivation in the world, and it is also his courage to stand up again.
Later, with the company and support of his wife, Wu Cheng succeeded in starting a second business.
Therefore, marriage is not the grave of love, but a haven of love. Here, we can remove all pretense and show our truest selves.
Just like Wu Cheng's wife, she did not leave because of Wu Cheng's failure, but used her tolerance and understanding to let Wu Cheng find a new direction.
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The second couple, Duan Ming and his wife, have been married for 6 years.
Duan Ming is an ordinary office worker, every day after work, he will stay downstairs for a few minutes, looking at the lights on at home.
That lamp, for him, is not only a beam of light, but also a kind of warmth and strength. Duan Ming felt that marriage was his castle, a place where he could come back and cry out loud and take off his disguise after he was wronged outside.
I remember one time, Duan Ming was deducted from his performance because of a mistake at work, and he was scolded by the boss in front of the whole company.
After getting off work, he drove to the bottom of his house and lay on the steering wheel by himself to relieve his inner emotions. Ten minutes later, his wife stood at the window and looked down, saw Duan Ming's car downstairs, and beckoned to him.
Under the orange light, his wife's gentle face made Duan Ming's heart melt at once.
That night, he lay on his wife's shoulder and cried loudly, and her wife silently caressed his back with her hand and comforted him.
Duan Ming said that marriage is not a bondage, but a destination. Because it made me know that no matter how noisy and complicated the outside world is, there is always a place that is always lit for me and waiting for me to come home.
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The third couple is a friend of mine and his new wife.
They have just gotten married, but their friends have already deeply felt the beauty of marriage.
He said that it was only after he got married that he had a real sense of belonging. In the past, when he went on a business trip, he always delayed his return date indifferently, but now, he always can't wait to go home. Because there is a man in the house who belongs to him, and there is a lamp that is lit for himself.
As Mr. Yang Jiang said: "The most important thing in the union of men and women is the relationship, the degree of mutual understanding between the two parties, and the deep understanding can appreciate each other, attract, support and encourage each other, and the two feelings are happy." ”
For my friend, marriage is the deepest understanding and attraction that makes him willing to give up the outside world and return to the small family that belongs to them.
Therefore, marriage is not the end of love, but the sublimation of love. It allows us to find extraordinary meaning and value in ordinary days.
Just like my friend, every time he comes back from a business trip now, he can't wait to see his wife, because that's where he really lives.
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After listening to the stories of these three couples, do you still think that marriage is the grave of love? No, marriage is another form of love that allows us to find more strength and courage in each other's company.
It lets us know that no matter how many difficulties and challenges life throws at us, nothing can defeat us as long as we are dependent on each other.
So, don't be afraid of marriage and don't treat it as a grave for love. On the contrary, we should cherish it, care for it, and let it bloom the most beautiful flowers in our lives.
Xi Murong once said: Marriage is not only two people face to face, marriage should be two people holding hands to face the world together.
There are many storms and thorns in this world, and marriage is to have someone to face these storms with us, support each other, care for each other, resist the oncoming storm, and walk towards a farther future together.