It has been said that your actual position in the hearts of others is always much lower than what you think you are in the hearts of others.
It is true that sometimes you think that you are indispensable in the hearts of others, but time will prove that this is just your own wishful thinking.
People, never overestimate your relationship with anyone, otherwise you will only be disappointed.
Therefore, human affection is as thin as paper: no matter how good the relationship is, don't easily expose the 3 "key points" and be easy to suffer.
01
Thou shalt not reveal thy wealth
As the saying goes, "wealth is not exposed", this is the proverb left by the ancestors.
In life, money is often an important yardstick to measure a person's success, but it is also the source of jealousy and strife that is most likely to occur.
Think about it, when you proudly show off your newly purchased luxury car or mansion to your friends, perhaps what is planted in the other person's heart is not envy, but indescribable sourness and imbalance.
Ma Yun once said, "The happiest time I was when I was a teacher with 91 yuan a month." ”
Behind this sentence, it is not only a nostalgia for the past years, but also a manifestation of the wisdom of life - true happiness does not lie in how much wealth you have, but in how you perceive and use it.
A friend of my colleague, Lao Chen, is a self-made entrepreneur, and after his successful career, he always likes to show his luxurious life in the circle of friends.
Unexpectedly, his show-off caused a lot of trouble. After that, old friends began to borrow money from him frequently.
What's worse is that an accidental leak of financial information made Lao Chen fall into the trap of commercial fraud. After being deceived that time, Lao Chen finally learned to keep a low profile.
Therefore, wealth is a double-edged sword, which can bring security and can also invite trouble. In this uncertain world, maintaining a humble and low-key attitude is actually protecting yourself.
Besides, true friends will not change their attitude towards you because of your wealth or poverty.
02
Don't go to relatives whenever you have a problem
Relatives are supposed to help each other in times of difficulty, but in real life, over-reliance on the help of relatives often complicates and even strains their relationships.
Because, everyone has their own difficulties, and if you always ask your relatives for help, it will not only make them feel stressed, but also make them disgusted by your behavior, which will cast a shadow on your family relationship.
Warren Buffett once said, "If you want something, buy it yourself, don't expect someone to give it to you." ”
Although this sentence sounds a little cold, it speaks to a simple truth - self-reliance and self-improvement are the key to success.
Just like a friend I know, in the early days of his business, the capital chain was broken, and he urgently needed a cash turnover. He first thought of asking a few relatives who were from better backgrounds for help, but the results were not satisfactory.
Some relatives refused him for fear of risk; Although some of them lent him money, their attitude towards him became a little more cold from then on.
This experience made him deeply realize that it is better to seek others than to seek himself, and finally he solved this crisis through his own efforts.
Therefore, when we encounter difficulties, we must first try to solve them by ourselves, which is not only an exercise of our own ability, but also a kind of understanding for others.
Remember, God helps those who help themselves, and when you're strong enough, there will naturally be people willing to lend a hand.
03
Don't tell anyone about your family
In each of our homes, there are some secrets that we don't want to be outsiders. However, some people like to tell others about the trivial matters of the house.
As everyone knows, such a practice often brings unnecessary trouble and harm to the family.
Aunt Wang in the community is a warm-hearted person, and she usually likes to chat with her neighbors.
Once, she inadvertently revealed some small conflicts in her son's marriage, but she didn't expect this to spread quickly in the community, and later reached the ears of her daughter-in-law, causing their family relationship to be very tense for a while.
Aunt Wang regretted it, and this incident also made her realize that it is better to solve family affairs behind closed doors, and sympathy or discussion from the outside world often only makes things more complicated.
Therefore, home is the most private space we should protect. No matter how noisy the outside world is, we should learn to build a line of defense for our home and not let the wind and rain of the outside world disturb this tranquility.
After all, the happiness and harmony of the family is much more important than the people and things outside.
04
Of course, human affection is as thin as paper, which does not mean that we have to lose faith in everything in the world. On the contrary, it is this thinness that reminds us to cherish those who are truly worthy of our trust and dependence.
Remember, true wisdom is knowing when to speak, when to be silent, when to ask for help, and when to stand on your own. In this way, we can draw the tranquility of life on the thin paper of human affection.
In short, in this life, people are warm and cold, bitter and happy, and never overestimate the relationship with anyone. In this world, no one except your parents will really want you to live better than him, unless you have coexisting interests.
Therefore, you must remember not to underestimate the complexity of the human heart and the treacherous nature of human nature.