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Finding the current family relationship is full of challenges and responsibilities, especially when you become a "little mother", don't worry, today's content is specially prepared for you, I want to cheer up all of you who are experiencing a second marriage, let's talk about it first, the role of a little mother is not so terrible, but it can be a wonderful and happy life journey
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As we all know, the second-married family has become a new normal in modern society, and many people may question: how can a little mother integrate into this family? Doesn't it feel like you're talking to a wall to your stepchildren who don't like you? I want to tell you, don't be afraid, don't be discouraged, you are not a flood beast, but a sunshine that can bring warmth and love
It takes time to adapt to this role, but as long as you work hard, success and happiness may be just around the corner, now, let's take this good attitude and discuss together how to become an excellent little mother in this new family
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To break those stereotypes about the little mother, when it comes to the little mother, what comes to everyone's mind may be the image of "unworthy" and "vicious", in fact, this is all social prejudice, you must know that becoming a little mother does not mean that you have to endure all the accusations and misunderstandings, but to learn to redefine yourself
This is the former me, when I first became a "little mother", I really felt a little depressed, thinking about establishing a relationship with my stepchildren, I was both looking forward to it and scared, thinking about it, in front of my children, many little mothers may feel that there is nowhere to escape, but out of this shadow, you will find that this is a rich experience and growth
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Looking back on the first days, I had little contact with my stepchildren, I always tried to cater to them, sometimes I was exhausted, and God also favored me, one day, I plucked up the courage to invite them to cook dinner together, but I didn't expect the children to be happy to participate, one of the little ones also asked me how to make tomato scrambled eggs, I humorously said: "Little brother, you can't just eat, you can't do it!" Come and learn! In this way, we became a lot closer, and it can be said that through simple communication, we broke down barriers and built trust
Next, communication and understanding are the basis of the relationship, especially with the communication with the stepchildren, the children's psychology is actually very fragile, they often have resistance in the face of new family members, especially the children who have just experienced the divorce of their parents, at this time, as a mother, we need to understand their psychological state
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When communicating with your child, you should not just use direct commands and requests to them, but respect their feelings, your child does not like to talk to you, then you can first put down your body and do some small actions, such as giving them space to relax, or trying to find common topics
Understanding the psychological characteristics of our stepchildren can make our relationship with them more harmonious, if it is an adolescent child, the rebellious heart is strong, maybe you make a request he does not want to listen, at this time, try to change the way, such as as communicating with them as a friend, chatting, they may be more willing to share some heartfelt words with you
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Let's talk about how to be a little mother, run the family like a master of management, we can treat the little mother as a family, not only to take care of our own affairs, but also to take care of all family members, including husbands, children and exes
Communication with your husband is very important, everyone must be clear about the concept of family education, mutual respect and coordination, in order to form a synergy, you can try to have a communication meeting every weekend, share each other's thoughts and feelings, this can also enhance the relationship between you
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Relationship with the ex, try to keep a distance, for the ex, it is not recommended to have too much intersection with the ex, which will not cause trouble to the child, but also reduce the possibility of conflict, if your stepchildren propose to see the ex, you can tell them that you understand their feelings, but you want them to be more focused on the present life
The most important thing is how to deal with the relationship with the biological parents, which is also a problem that some parents are very troubled by, how to design a warm and harmonious family environment, always maintain respect and boundaries, respect the child's biological parents, even if they have disputes, but also protect the child's feelings, which is the basis for cultivating children's mental health
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Be a confident and shining "little mom", live your wonderful life, I know that when restarting a family, sometimes we feel racked our brains, but neglect our own self-development, remember, as a little mom, it does not mean that you lose your personal charm and enthusiasm for life, on the contrary, you have to live a more wonderful self
Attend some gatherings, enrich your social circle, increase your salary and attract attention, and make your family more harmonious and warm, and learn some parenting knowledge so that when your children ask you for advice, you can confidently help and improve your relationship with them
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To believe that happiness is something that every mother can pursue, don't forget to maintain an optimistic attitude in the face of the challenges of life, and each of us deserves a wonderful life in the face of the challenges of life
Dear little mothers, don't be afraid, don't be discouraged, take that step, you will meet a new self, harvest your unexpected happiness and joy, remember, be your own to bring more love to the family, every step is growth, is happiness
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When you reap the warmth of home, you silently say in your heart: look forward to happiness, and indeed reap happiness! Every little mother's path is different, but they must all be shining, under thousands of stars, believe me, your story will also become one of the stars
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