Some people say that through parenting style, you can roughly guess what age he is a parent. It's kind of like that.
For example, if the same child holds a delicious stuff to an adult, the mothers of the post-70s, post-80s and post-90s must have completely different reactions:
The post-70s mother will seriously refuse quickly: "Mom doesn't eat, you can eat." ”
The post-80s mother will smile and wave her hand gently: "You eat first, mom will eat later." ”
And the post-90s and post-00s mothers will unceremoniously reach out and grab it: "Give me some more to eat, don't go, why are you so stingy!" ”
That day, I swiped a short video on Douyin, and I was even more amused.
In the video, there is no food left at home. The mother took out the last steamed bun from the refrigerator, gave half to her son and half to her daughter, and sat by herself to watch the children eat.
The children were so moved that they cried, broke a little of the steamed bun and handed it to their mother, saying, "Mom, you can eat it too, otherwise you will be hungry." ”
Mom smiled lovingly: "You eat, Mom doesn't eat......"
Seeing this, I guessed almost without hesitation - this kind of style is definitely a post-70s mother.
I didn't expect the plot to be over yet. I saw my mother continue to secretly say happily: "Mom's KFC, it will be ...... in a while"
The sudden reversal made me laugh out loud. I didn't expect that in the end, this is a standard post-90s parent!
It is said that each era has its own characteristics, in fact, it is the same when it comes to bringing a baby.
It was found that the post-70s, post-80s, post-90s, and post-00s generations did have their own school of thought in terms of parenting methods, and they were also different.
Post-70s parents: Standing as a mother, too "tiger"!
When it comes to post-70s parents, this group always gives people a strong "parent-oriented" temperament.
They have a lot of stereotypical labels, such as being old-fashioned and conservative - "girls' family, why do you look so good?" Be plain! ”
For example, long-winded and nagging - "Don't sleep lazy in the morning, be sure to eat eggs and milk, wash your hands before and after ...... meals" (repeat it 100 times a day)
For example, stubborn and strong, difficult to communicate - "I'm your mother, you have to listen to me if you don't have to discuss this matter!" ”
For example, he has a strong desire to control - "I am allowed to study at home on weekends, and I am not allowed to go out with my classmates." ”
This kind of attitude of being high-minded, saying one thing or another, and preaching to her children if they don't agree with each other is very suitable for the attributes of "tiger mothers", and this is especially reflected in learning.
Indeed, post-70s parents generally attach great importance to grades and are very strict with their children's academic requirements. The three sentences are inseparable from studying hard, and telling a story must be extended to the future entrance examination of Tsinghua University and Peking University, which is what they are talking about.
And the following sentences are the high-frequency sentences of post-70s parents-
"Only when you suffer hardship can you become a master."
"Grades are the most important thing, and you don't have to worry about anything else."
"If you don't study hard, are you worthy of us?"
However, the parenting style of the post-70s generation is sometimes too "tiger", which makes the children who have been "oppressed" by them for many years unbearable. So you will be surprised to find that there are so many complaints about post-70s parents on the Internet.
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Of course, post-70s parents, who are generally strict with their children, will actually hide their warm love in the details.
They are extremely sacrificial and dedicated, and are always willing to save the best for their children. Just like the classic story - day after day, the mother always keeps the fish meat for the child and the fish head for herself, and sows the white lie that "the mother loves to eat the fish head......
The reason for all this is actually closely related to the background of the times.
There are many post-70s generations who did not have a good time when they were young. In the environment in which they were raised, the family conditions were poor, the material was scarce, and the level of education was limited.
Because of this, the parents of the post-70s generation have formed the idea of "no matter how hard they are, they can't be bitter for their children", and they will also advocate the concept of "grades first", hoping that their children will get ahead and no longer follow their own old path.
Post-80s parents: It's so tiring to be a mother in a squat!
Compared with the strict "tiger mother" attribute of post-70s parents, post-80s mothers seem to be a contradiction.
On the one hand, they pursue scientific parenting methods, with babies more democratic, softer attitudes, advocate to "slow down", "squat down", follow the rhythm of children's growth, and grasp education from the perspective of children.
But on the other hand, they are full of anxiety, taking care of their children in life, and learning all kinds of involutions and chicken babies, but they still feel that they have not done enough.
Previously, the "Chinese Mother's "Anxiety Index" Report released by UC Big Data showed that post-80s mothers ranked first with an average anxiety index of 67.23%, far exceeding that of post-70s and post-90s mothers.
The reason for this is actually related to the unique growth background of the post-80s. They are the first generation of only children, and they are also the ones who have experienced the reform and opening up, and some of their parents have gone to the sea to do business, and some have been laid off, and their classes and wealth have become very different.
Therefore, the post-80s generation, who have witnessed the changes of the times and the separation of the rich and the poor, understand the importance of education better than their parents, but they are also more likely to be burdened by it and drill the horns.
As a result, the post-80s generation who squatted to be a mother became the worst class of parents in the minds of netizens. There is a paragraph describing the current situation of post-80s mothers, and it is even more swiped:
"Wearing cheap clothes and living a life of grievances,
Opening your eyes is a piece of chicken feathers in life,
Closing your eyes is your child's education,
30 has passed, 40 is about to start,
became the best roommate with her husband,
and the child has become an inseparable enemy,
I don't dare to complain with my in-laws, I dare not be coquettish with my husband, and I don't dare to quarrel with my children.
I can't afford to mess with the old, I can't educate the young, and the husband in the middle is still unforgiving.
Desperately earning money, the money was not earned, desperately taking care of the family did not take care of it, but looking back on his face was old,
Always thinking about others,
But no one understands your goodness,
In the end, he lived as someone else hated. ”
Does it make you feel heartbroken?
Parents of the post-90s and 00s: lying down to be a mother, so lazy!
When the parenting style arrives here in the 90s, it is suddenly much easier and funny.
On the Internet, all kinds of classic scenes of the post-90s generation with babies make people laugh every minute. Broadly speaking, there are three main types:
• Swing parenting
What should I do if I encounter a baby crying and lying down? Parents born in the 70s and 80s may panic and pull their children up, but it is the turn of parents born in the 90s who do not eat this set at all.
Buy a cup of milk tea, wait patiently on the side, watch quietly, and post a circle of friends at will. Anyway, there is time to spend with the baby, to see who can carry whom.
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There are even some parents who choose to lie on the ground directly with their babies and sprinkle on the ground. Now it's the child's turn to be dumbfounded.
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Anyway, who wouldn't be rotten? There are many ways. But to expect a compromise from adults? Hmph, don't think about it!
• Reversed-phase parenting
For example, showing weakness in front of the baby, pitiful Baba begging for care;
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For example, if the baby snatched my pear, I cried to him in the possession of the sperm! Who wouldn't lose their temper? I don't believe that this trick is not good!
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