In the early days of love, everything seems so good. Her smile is as warm as the sun, and her words are as gentle as the Lucky Star Chinese Restaurant. You feel like you've finally found the other half of your life, and your heart is full of anticipation for the future.
However, as time goes on, you start to notice some unusual signs. Her behavior became more and more elusive, and her emotions became more and more erratic. You begin to wonder if you really know her. Is this relationship really as you wish?
First, her behavior pattern is always full of contradictions and inconsistencies
The first abnormal sign of a scumbag girl is that her behavior pattern is always full of contradictions and inconsistencies. She may show very different personalities and attitudes on different occasions and at different times. Sometimes, she is gentle and considerate, as if you are her whole world; And sometimes, she is cold and ruthless, as if you are just a dispensable existence. Her behavior often leaves you confused and puzzled, and you begin to wonder which side of her is her true self?
Case Study: Li Ming (pseudonym) once met such a girl. At first, her care and care for him made him feel like he had found true love. However, over time, he found that she always maintained a detached attitude when interacting with the opposite sex, neither completely rejecting nor explicitly accepting it. Whenever he tried to get to know her better, she always prevaricated with various reasons. It wasn't until one day that he accidentally discovered that she was in an affair with multiple men, and he realized that he had actually been being played with by a scumbag.
Second, her emotional needs can never be met
The second abnormal sign of scumbags is that their emotional needs are always unmet. No matter how much you pay for her, she always seems to feel like it's not enough. She will constantly ask you for love, companionship, and material satisfaction, but rarely give you the same amount in return. You begin to feel tired and powerless, as if you will never be able to fill that bottomless pit in her heart.
Case Study: In the process of dating his girlfriend, Zhang Qiang (pseudonym) found that she was always making various requests to him. From the initial companionship and care, to the later material satisfaction and career support, her needs seemed to be never-ending. Zhang Qiang constantly worked hard and made money in order to meet her requirements, but even so, she still felt that it was not enough. In the end, Zhang Qiang chose to break up when he was physically and mentally exhausted, only to realize that this relationship was actually a mistake from the beginning.
3. Her future plans have never included you
The third abnormal sign of scumbags is that their future plans never include you. Even though you've been dating for a while, she always seems indifferent to your future. She never discusses her plans for marriage, family, and future with you, and even when you bring them up, she avoids or prevaricates with various reasons. You start to feel restless and anxious, worrying about whether you will really be able to spend the rest of your life with her.
Case Study: Wang Lei (not his real name) has been dating his girlfriend for more than two years, but whenever he tries to discuss his plans for the future with her, she always seems absent-minded or perfunctory. Once, Wang Lei mustered up the courage to propose to her, but she refused. She tells him that she is not ready to get married and is not sure if she wants to spend the rest of her life with him. Wang Lei realized that he had been playing an insignificant role in her future planning.
When you find yourself in a relationship with a scumbag, the most important thing is to recognize the reality and be brave enough to let go. While the process of letting go can be painful, it is a surefire path to happiness and freedom. Don't let yourself get caught up in an unhealthy relationship, and don't try to stay in it for fear of loneliness and loneliness. You deserve a better love and a better life.
When you bravely step out of this shadow, you will find that there are so many beautiful things in life waiting for you to discover and experience. So, please cherish yourself and be brave enough to pursue your own happiness!