When we talk about domestic violence, many people feel as if it's very far away and it's not something we should be thinking about.
But in fact, the probability of domestic violence is far higher than we think, and many of the behaviors we think are normal actually have the shadow of domestic violence, if not taken seriously, this kind of domestic violence will continue to escalate, and even pass on from generation to generation, bringing problems to the growth of children, and also allowing future generations to fall into such a cycle of domestic violence.
Fang Gang, Ph.D. in sociology, youth education expert, writer, initiator and person in charge of China's anti-domestic violence project, has formally trained more than 4,000 "psychological counselors for domestic violence parties". As a professional who focuses on domestic violence, he has witnessed too much domestic violence and realized that domestic violence tends to be misunderstood. Therefore, he put forward the concept of psychological counseling, which is more important for domestic violence, to provide corresponding guidance to domestic violence victims, perpetrators and important stakeholders, teach them to deal with domestic violence correctly, so that the impact of domestic violence can be eliminated.
His book "At Home, Violence Is Not Tolerated" is a detailed interpretation of domestic violence. Here, the author sorts out the possible root causes of domestic violence and the core treatment concepts for us.
In the face of domestic violence, we should never take it for granted that we can touch the soul of the other party through our own efforts, through forbearance, and through loving care, and finally get out of the shadow of domestic violence. This is unrealistic, it cannot be done, and with this connivance, domestic violence can only intensify, and it can only have a more horrific effect. Therefore, when facing a victim of domestic violence, it is the right choice to seek help and seek professional treatment.
However, there are some myths about domestic violence in many professional fields, such as domestic violence is an internal problem in the family, such as domestic violence needs to be effectively resolved through communication between both parties, etc., in fact, this is wrong.
Counselors also need to keep up with the times and have a more accurate understanding of domestic violence. In this book, Fang Gang also chose the concept of feminist psychological counseling, first of all, to make victims realize that domestic violence will not disappear naturally, and realize that domestic violence requires professional intervention, and with such a basic concept, domestic violence will not be dealt with on the wrong path.
Of course, psychological counselors cannot make decisions for the victim, and the psychological counselor still needs to respect the victim's opinion, but can use professional concepts to influence the victim to help them avoid deeper harm.
In this book, the author discusses in detail the domestic violence between husband and wife, domestic violence between parents and children, etc., and uses 40 real cases to take us into the scene of domestic violence, and gives professional guidance for each scene, so that people who encounter this book can understand the decisions they should and can make in the face of domestic violence, and finally achieve the purpose of self-redemption and liberation from violence.
Domestic violence is definitely not an internal matter of the family, especially when there are children in the family, under the influence of this violence, children will also have violent tendencies, and will continue this violence, and even develop into violence against society, so don't despise domestic violence, arm your mind with the ideas in this book, and let everyone learn to deal with domestic violence correctly. #家暴##心理##家庭暴力#