The National Day, which should be full of happiness and warmth, witnessed the sacred moment of a couple entering marriage hand in hand, but unexpectedly, this beautiful picture was torn apart by a sudden storm - the bride price dispute, so that the wedding suddenly became an absurd drama with a lot of discussion on the streets! Somewhere in Henan, the festive red silk has not yet faded, but the unreasonable demands of the woman's family are as piercing as ice, and they openly put forward the harsh conditions of adding another 180,000 bride price on the wedding day, as if the value of marriage can be easily measured by money, distorting traditional customs into an excuse for greed.
The man's family has already generously paid 188,000 bride price in accordance with custom, but this sincerity has been exchanged for the "inch by inch" of the woman's relatives, especially the bride's brother and sister-in-law and mother, who staged an ugly drama of "sitting on the ground and raising the price" at a critical moment, and its behavior is so bad that it is staggering. The bride, who should have been the most dazzling bride today, was taken away from the scene by the kissing team in a near-"rescued" way in the rush of not applying powder, and her brother, regardless of face, used his body as a shield to block the wedding car, his rogue behavior not only defiled the sanctity of the wedding, but also exposed the greed and selfishness of human nature.
All kinds of speculations and rumors are shrouded in haze, some people say that the woman's brother is in debt due to gambling and wants to fill the hole with his sister's marriage; There is also humanity, it is the entanglement of interests within the family that makes this bride price the focus of contention. Regardless of the truth, using family affection and marriage as bargaining chips is undoubtedly a violation of human dignity. The bride's resolute departure is not only a yearning for a new life, but also a brave break free from the old shackles, and her courage, like the starlight in the dark night, illuminates the way forward.
Marriage is supposed to be a mutual attachment between two hearts, not a trading ground for money and material things. In this materialistic era, we may have become accustomed to measuring value by material things, but we have gradually forgotten that emotional and spiritual abundance is the true meaning of life. When the balance of marriage is tilted by the heavy weight of bride price and dowry, what we lose is not only the purity and freedom that love should have, but also a deep insight into the kindness, understanding and tolerance in human nature. We begin to wonder if it is really necessary to measure the union of two people by the standards set by the outside world, and whether we really want to let these worldly frameworks become the yardstick for measuring happiness.
To find that original innocence and beauty, it takes not only courage, but also the reshaping of self-values. We should advocate a concept of marriage based on mutual respect and equality, so that love is the only cornerstone of marriage, rather than a vassal of money and material. In the process of preparing for the wedding, pay more attention to each other's feelings and needs, and plan a ceremony full of love and memories together, rather than blindly comparing and pursuing luxury.
At the same time, public opinion also needs to play an active role in advocating a rational view of marriage, reducing excessive attention to external forms such as bride price and dowry, and instead focusing on the emotional foundation and future planning of both parties to the marriage. Through various channels such as media and education, we will spread positive energy and make more people realize that true happiness comes from inner satisfaction and mutual support, rather than external show-off and comparison.
In the end, I hope we can all find the long-lost innocence and beauty in this journey of seeking and returning, so that marriage can once again become a warm harbor for two hearts to cling to each other, rather than a cold battlefield of money and material.